"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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has it ever worked out for you in the long run i.e. relationship?

big weezy

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after reading much information in the dj bible and on here, im wondering has anyone had success with a HB where she had a bit of interest in you then you got too keen and she didn't reply to your texts to meet up ('girls who are interested text back') and managed to not only sleep with her but actually had a decent relationship out of it despite the power imbalance (her not wanting you initially)?

has it ever worked out or was it just some sex and then she lost interest again?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Yes, but as Carlos Xuma said, she'll never come back to someone she dumped if he didn't make a noticeable improvement in himself.
 

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@bigneil

but then I question why you would want her back if you are better men? I mean now you can get a better thing, why get the old thing back?
 

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Alvafe said:
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but then I question why you would want her back if you are better man? I mean now you can get a better thing, why get the old thing back?
Well, in my case she was my dream girl, and still is. I couldn't find a better girl, I tried. I've never loved any girl half as much as I love her. I am thankful she inspired me to get in better shape.

The oddest part was last week when I asked her "Do you remember the time you told me you weren't interested in me anymore?" and she said "I never said that!!!"

I reminded her of the exact time and quote (last May) and she said "Oh, I was just saying that because I was mad at you about something..." (which she then explained in painstaking detail - a whole year later - and apologized).

It seemed like a really good sign that her knee-jerk response after 18 months of dating me was that she had no recollection of ever not being interested in me. So I then tried an experiment to see how a woman who I KNOW loves a man would respond to that question. I asked my mother "Mom, do you remember the time you said you weren't interested in (my Stepdad) anymore?" and she said "I never said that!!!". I said "Exactly".
 

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big weezy said:
after reading much information in the dj bible and on here, im wondering has anyone had success with a HB where she had a bit of interest in you then you got too keen and she didn't reply to your texts to meet up ('girls who are interested text back') and managed to not only sleep with her but actually had a decent relationship out of it despite the power imbalance (her not wanting you initially)?

has it ever worked out or was it just some sex and then she lost interest again?

Yes....my ex wife....we met at a club and hooked up and she ignored almost all of my calls and texts for weeks and finally gave in and then became obsessed with me after we started dating regularly and proposed to me...wow that was a big mistake to say yes....what was once the girl of my dreams ended up becoming my worst nightmare...i couldn't get away from her fast enough at the end. She was beyond needy and controlling.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Varies for myself. I've turned down many girls and have had girls I've been interested in not work out, and I found it really depends who is after a relationship more and whether things are moving in your favor towards that or not.

I keep in mind now that relationships are transitory, conditional and transitional and that most are a product of our basic needs for certainty and security, and depending on your station in life, you are interested in that, or you are happy without it.
 

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big weezy said:
after reading much information in the dj bible and on here, im wondering has anyone had success with a HB where she had a bit of interest in you then you got too keen and she didn't reply to your texts to meet up ('girls who are interested text back') and managed to not only sleep with her but actually had a decent relationship out of it despite the power imbalance (her not wanting you initially)?

has it ever worked out or was it just some sex and then she lost interest again?
Even if it does you only have a 50% chance....
 
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