"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Has it been to long to call her?

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I met this girl over last July, and She game me her number.
We went out once in August, but I haven't spoken to her since.

It's not that I don't liker her, she's pretty cool, it's just that I have been busy, and quite frankly, I don't really care. We haven't texted/spoken since August.

Now it's October, and I've been wondering whether I should call back or not, Have I waited too long? I'd assume it'd be awkward. Should I just drop it and move on?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I would give it a shot. If theres no doubt because of a previous error you did, then i dont see why not.

However you should state you have been busy if she asks especially since you havent set up anything or even talked to her for a few months. If she doesnt respond or whatever just move on.
 

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Yeah there is definitely no problem between us, except maybe that she thinks I can drive(I can't)

But honestly, if I text her, I have no idea what to talk about. I have nothing to say.
 

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you can't plan a conversation, just talk to her and see what happens.

alternatively just think of things to mention beforehand just in case.
 

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devilkingx2 said:
you can't plan a conversation, just talk to her and see what happens.

alternatively just think of things to mention beforehand just in case.
Yeah, what the hell. I'll text her tonight.
If you guys care, I could do a follow up
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I remember now why I stopped texting her,

Texting her is really dull. In person, she is fun, engaging and intelligent. She's not one of those stupid *****es. She's a cool person.
However, texting is a pain, she gives bland responses, uses perfect grammar, lacks emotion/sexual tension, and takes like 20 minutes to respond.

I don't really care if she is interested or not, I just can't deal with this bull****
I don't know if I should end it/move on, or call her out, or deal with it.
 

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Its simple, schedule to hang out then. Thats what texting/calling is for. Stop making excuses.
 

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Espi said:
I am on purpose a bland boring texter.
I am too, naturally. I never got the texting thing, and I am relatively young(16).

I'll stop trying to hold conversations over text and use it more to setup dates.
 

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shrub77 said:
Texting her is really dull. In person, she is fun, engaging and intelligent. She's not one of those stupid *****es. She's a cool person.
However, texting is a pain, she gives bland responses, uses perfect grammar, lacks emotion/sexual tension, and takes like 20 minutes to respond.
"Texting you is really dull. In person, you are fun, engaging and intelligent. You're not one of those stupid *****es. However, texting is a pain(bland responses, perfect use of grammar, lack of emotion/emphasis, take like 20 minutes to respond) but we should hang out again, since you seemed like a cool person."

THIS is how you get your expectations met. She's not a mind reader. Tell her exactly what you want and exactly what she has to do. She will either resist or comply. ANYTHING she does can either be validated or rejected by YOU. It's not as complicated as it seems. If she is the "difficult" type, she is basically an emotional drain and not worth pursuing.
 
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