"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Has anyone worked for their family/ friends

Lion

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Does this cause tension in relationships? Is there a way to do it?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My part time job is related to my father, even tho i never see him at work because I choose to work at night time instead of day time. Still, if there are any complaints coming in, I have to listen to them from my own father, wether its during dinner, a nice drive or if we are just chilling. It has lowered our releasionship. I will never work full time for a close family member. The main reason is this: If somebody doesn't show up he asks me to replace him first. I always say no because I know if I say yes once, I will be asked more often and expected to replace co workers. This puts our releasionship in a lose/lose situation, I'm just glad I never see him around the workplace. Thats my expierence.
 

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Thanks for your input Dedi, maybe you can talk about how you feel with your dad?

Is there anyone that can share experience having worked for their partners parents?
 

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Well, kind of related, but an ex-boyfriend of mine and I worked together... and it was great! I felt more comfortable at work and we never had any issues. I thought we might, because we had a relationship, but it actually worked out pretty well.

I also worked for the same security company my brother worked for and we never had any issues, even though he was my superior, and we still lived at home during that time.

Hope this helps!
 
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