"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Has anyone tried to meet women via LinkedIn?

MatureDJ

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I was going through some of my recommended links, and there were a few nice looking women (this is in Russia, not the USA, where most professional women are obese :trouble:). Anyway, I was wondering what the decorum would be for this. I put in my profile that I am an English language consultant.
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I would NOT use LinkedIn to meet women. LinkedIn is for professional/business networking purposes, you could be "hitting" on a woman that's a friend or partner of a Hiring Manager or someone that could help get your career to the next level. From "hitting" on her, let's just say she rejects you for whatever reason, now you have a reputation and that woman could be an influence to stop whatever Hiring Manager from considering you.

I know that's a little extreme, but KEEP personal affairs and business affairs separate and I promise you, life will be easier. Don't hit on chicks at work, don't hit on chicks at trade shows, HIT on chicks outside of the work/business environment there's PLENTY out there to choose from ;)
 

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Assessing a woman's interest level on LinkedIn is pretty easy and low risk. Send her an invitation, if she accepts, then you can send a brief, i.e. 1 sentence text about something, anything. If she responds, you can proceed chatting, if not then drop it. No biggie, no damage to career. If you two keep chatting, there could be interest. Propose a lunch for networking purposes and assess her body language during the lunch. Do not be very aggressive as it's a networking lunch. Assess her reaction and act accordingly.

I ended up with a good female friend through LinkedIn once, someone I distantly knew at a company I used to work at.

Also, once, I happened to look at someone's photo on linked in, she then looked me up on LinkedIn. Then she send me an invite, which showed interest. We chatted and met in person. This woman turned out to be absolutely crazy. Very sweet, but nuts.

In my opinion, trying to hook up with someone on LinkedIn works best when it's with someone you kind of a knew at a job, couldn't get close to, i.e. knew of each other, and now the 2 of you work for separate companies and will probably never meet again work wise.
 

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I'm considering this in the near future due to the fact that you can screen for certain factors much more easily on LI than on dating sites. If I do, it will start up in the late spring, and will journal it here on ss.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Maximummax

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Always remember Briffault's law in mind in these cases
send her invitation and ask her to meet, not going to work until unless she has some benefit.
she sends you an invitation and you accept. she will send you when she needs some thing, some advantage from you. other wise most of them won't. if she gets some advantage she will invite you for lunch and here you can game.

if she sends you an invite, you accept and she didn't get want she wants...no use, she will not respond to anything.


if you send an email after she accpets your invitation no response.
 
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