has anyone here DATED a stripper?

[muscleman]

Simple question, has anyone here actually dated a stripper before for any appreciable amount of time (couple months at least)? Nothing serious/exclusive necessarily, but more than just a fvck buddy or an ONS.

I'd like to hear your stories.

I'm asking because I recently hooked up with one (not at a strip club if you're wondering) and one of the things she told me was that she's been single for a long time because most guys aren't comfortable with her line of work.

 

[Stéphane]

No, I try to avoid them like the plague. I had a phew chances (I seem to do better with strippers then normal girls), but I don't want to catch an std so I just avoid them.

 

[muscleman]

Cool story. Hopefully the second reply will be relevant.

 

[bukowski_merit]

a couple....
not anything like boyfriend/girlfriend
but just girls who would stop by when they wanted to 'hang out' (and sometimes that really did just mean hang out - most the time it meant sex)

i wasn't uncomfortable with them... but i hear from them all the time the same stuff you're saying about how most guys won't mess with or date them because of their line of work. i personally like girls who like sex and know how to have it all out... so i was nothing but happy with them... and since most of them have a lot of money - they don't ever want any.

 

[potato]

I had a girlfriend for about 7 years that sometimes worked as a stripper. I think that she really enjoyed getting up on stage and showing her stuff to a bunch of strangers, but she was always leery about getting too close to anyone.

Even though we had an agreed to open relationship, she was probably the most loyal girlfriend that I ever had.

Strippers have this reputation of being wild party girl sluts but for most it is just an act, they really aren’t like that. Some are, but most aren’t.

There was this one girl and whenever guys came onto her she always gave them the, “I have a boyfriend” line. She even used to tell stories about things that her and her boyfriend would do, trips to the mountains and things like that. I knew her long enough to realize that she never had a boyfriend. It always seemed to me that she just couldn’t find a guy who she was highly compatible with.

Often when I’d go out with strippers (my girlfriend and her friends) I’d be the only guy. They would act all crazy and stuff, like flashing their tits in public and stuff but were always resistant to guys trying to pick them up. I think it was just a stripper instinct.

As to the subject of the OP, I did hear many conversations with strippers discussing just this subject. It is a common problem of guys getting jealous. It’s a weird thing, with many guys fantasizing about getting a stripper but not having the wherewithal to handle one. Most guys just can’t handle other guys lusting after their girl and her showing her stuff. Plus, many guys are so convinced that strippers are really hookers that they worry about STD’s and all the other stuff that comes with that.

The two things the girls most feared from potential boyfriends were that either they would turn into a stalker or the guy would get overly jealous. Often jealous guys turn violent.

I just always looked at it this way; I always talked with, flirted with, and even hugged and kissed a lot of different women on a regular basis. It wasn’t a whole lot different from what she did. Plus, whenever I went in to see her work, I felt a certain kind of pride. She made a lot of people happy and I’m sure it had as much to do with her wonderful personality as it had to do with her near perfect body.

 

[recce]

After getting seperated, I ended up accidentally getting with a stripper. To my mind she was one of the loviest girls I ever dated. However not particularly stable, not in a dangerous way but more in a flakey unreliable way. I ended up after 8 months of dating with a serious case of oneitis (not sure of that is the correct term, it was a full on relationship for that time) and she was doing my head in lol

So long story short, we became friends, both dated other people, hell had an LTR for 2 years in the meantime. Get back togrther with said stripper about 3 months ago, all is going great them bang... not ready for a relationship.... runs away crying .... yeah I've had a great christmas

With specific regard to your point about jealously/comfort, I was never that jealous. Dont get me wrong in an ideal world bla bla bla. But I knew who she was, and it was up to me to accept it or not. My biggest problem was she never trusted me that I was actually ok with it....

So conclusion, if you work out who they really are, and are happy with it, you will be ok. But dont expect them to change, if they are flakey they will remain so, if they like your money they will continue to do so etc etc. This is based on some of her "collegues" as well. In my case, I am trying to avoid a case of oneitis yet again... but she is still a lovely girl

 

[Microphone Fiend]

Do a search man

Let me spell this out for you, Ryanbo:

FRIEND ZONE

She is a professional, man. She is bred for one purpose: to use her attractiveness to manipulate men into doing what she wants. In the club, it's giving them money. Outside the club, it's stuff like helping them move.

As soon as you said that, "she's confiding in me" sh!t, it was obvious where you were headed with this girl. It's time to bail.

I know this from experience...with any girl who makes/used to make a living that way, you MUST keep the upper-hand at all times. She is PRIVILEGED to be able to spend time with you. Her reward for her presence and attractiveness is YOUR presence, and you have to make sure you GET what you're AFTER or you WALK.

The instant you start thinking, "Wow, maybe she IS into me enough that I can let my guard down..." is when they fvcking OWN you. With you it cost you a day of moving. For me, it was about a $100 drink tab. Do NOT catch feelings for "hos" or they WILL put you down in the friend-zone...and being in the friend-zone of a "ho" is the worst form of indentured servitude.

This isn't true for ALL women, no, but then again it IS to some extent...the more of a ho she is, the more true it is. And you can tell. Don't tell me you couldn't tell. Drugs? Stripping? Come on, man.

My advice to you is to do what you should've done a long time ago...stand up, smile, resolve to yourself that you're not gonna take the BS, and walk. If she's got any IL in you left, then she'll chase. And THEN you have to TAKE the position of power and STICK TO IT.

If you never hear from her again...you've just saved yourself a world of hurt, buddy.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=665963#post665963

Keep in mind that strippers have an uncanny ability to manipulate people. They are selling a fantasy at the strip club & guys that go there expecting more than that are asking for trouble. When dudes go to a stripclub there defenses are down. The alcohol & dark lights enable strippers to zone in on a dudes feelings really quick. (also, alot of strippers decide to strip for a "few months". But the $$$ is so easy that they end up doing it for years.) This is what usually happens when a stripper gives a guy a #: after you guys go on a date or two, she will start telling you a sob story: it will usually involve a bitter custody battle over her son or daughter or a sick parent or sibling she is tending & the high cost of doctors or attorneys. Strippers are extremely clever at making this stuff up. They use there charm, wit & charisma to make you beleive in this fairytale. Or it could be true. After she makes you feel sorry for her desperate situation, she will ask you for a loan. It could be $500 or maybe $2000. She will set this amount according to how lonely, rich & sucessful you are. By now, she has established a friendship w/ you, you know about her personal life, you feel sorry for her sad situation & deep down inside you want her life to get better somehow, someway & you loan her the $$$$ thinking that you are a good samaritan & this will only increase your chance of getting some pvssy from her. Then you loan the $$$ to her. Little do you know that in the meantime she is doing the same thing to 4 other dudes. Eventually you will ask her for the $$$ back & BAM!!! She either will tell you she wont be able to do that or her attitude towards you will change significantly. This doesnt happen all the time, but it does happen. Beware. These girls are highly skilled at this craft.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=288542#post288542


The general opinion I get is that many are disillusioned at first and think that the girl is worth it/they can save her and then a couple months later the drama keeps coming and the money keeps going and you are wondering how you got into this mess.

You have to ask yourself why a woman (the gender which cares most about social perception) would risk ostracizing herself for money? I know about rent, paying for college, supporting a family, blah blah. You heard of gateway drugs, well stripping is a gateway job, lol. While it does not guarantee crazyness and illegal activity, it has more than a little potential to lead to it. It is not like she can't get a regular 9-5 and achieve the same thing in a longer period. What has she done that the other girls have not done other than be a little hotter? Don't put her on the pedestal too soon is all I gotta say

 

[jacob]

it's hell

I just got out of one I just posted about my break up I'm new here but I landed her with the techniques. you really have to be on your game and can't fall in love cause if you do then youre screwed. we lasted for 6 months we broke up on christmas eve I was DJ the first 3 months and she loved me a lot of guys were chasing her but she fell for me cause I acted like all i wanted was friendship I don't have a car I ride a bicycle I live with my parents and my house is falling apart my room was a pigstyle and I only worked a parttime job in the beggining she would pick me up and I would drive her car even though I don't have a license I learned on this site that you had to act like the man and take the lead so that's why I would just take her keys and drive us to the beach cause I didn't have money. so I would take her on dates that never required much money like exercising, going to the beach buying a six pack and pizza and kicking it out in my garage and she fell in love with that if she wanted to go on more extravagant dates she offered to pay for it and I'd let her. She started buying me new clothes rented hotels to have sex in cause I didn't want to bring her into my filthy room take me out to dinner etc. she was like my sugar mommy. I'm a skinny lanky guy but I was different from the other guys that bought her or would do any thing for her. until she decided to move in. I let her into my place cause I could tell she was in love with me and she fixed up my place bought me a new matress, carpet, curtains portable ac she made it livable. then I started to fall in love with her just because she was buying me everything and giving me great kinky sex, we made a lot of porn, with my cell phone. and I turned AFC started getting clingy wondered about her lifestyle and I was tormented. I'd always have thoughts about her f***ing other guys because she was so kinky with me, and because I knew what she did even though she stopped when we started dating. her sister is also a stripper. Dude I would always think about Boogie Nights the movie where there was this guy with a porn star wife and she would be filming and having sex and orgies with guys in front of him and he couldn't leave her and she treated him like sh*t. My insecurity got real bad and it drove her away now I miss her I'm still grieving but I feel a whole burden lifted of my shoulders as far as riding this emotional roller coaster. I tried following the rule about just walking away and acting like she lost me. I tried my best not to make contact with her for 3 days after Christmas then she texted me and called I didn't answer then I gave in on Saturday called her and talked for awhile she says she's coming down tomorrow on New years eve for a little bit but I think with my jealousy her Interest level is out the window. when a guy loves a woman they percieve it as weakness. and this sucks it's unsatisfying that we have to play games, and only the girls can love us but when we love them they run.

 

[trojanman88]

Yes. like 3 or 4 weeks ago and i was only 18 and 19 now. But yeah its more of a she comes over when I call thing. I haven't spoken with her in 2 weeks do to the break but yeah they are truly overated.

 

[muscleman]

Microphone - I didn't ask for a search result, I could have done that myself. I've already been intimate with her and the strip club had nothing to do with it. I specifically asked about personal experience, which you don't have (or don't care to share).

Jacob - thanks for sharing, I think the reason you lost her is the same reason any guy would lose a girl; doesn't have much to do with her being a stripper.