Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
haha I was just thinking that about my gym today. I went in there and they were playing slow R&B.Jhcl4000 said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Go to it.Evzone said:The reason I ask this is that I go to the gym often, but I've always gone just with my workout in mind.
Good. You should be(and are) there for you and your goals alone. That doesn't mean you cannot meet some people there too right?
I've heard from people that the gym is a good way to meet girls, but frankly...how?
It is. Hearts are pumping, bodies are moving, the mind is relaxed and you get a pretty good preview of what everyone looks like naked.If keeping fit and active are important parts of your lifestyle what place could be better to find women with similar interests?
It just seems a bit awkward when I'm in the weight room to go walk up to people.
Isn't this always the case? You are not the first person to deal with approach anxiety, but the rules are the same for the grocery store, class, gym, smoothie shop, etc. Try an opener that has something to do with the exercises she's doing. Nothing about form, but if shes running ask if shes training for a marathon. If she flexes comment on her guns. It is so easy to be fun here, and you will put yourself miles ahead of the other guys by just having the balls to approach her.
Just recently I've been approaching and talking to ladies at the gym and I have yet to be denied a number. Most of the meat heads in there may be able to bench me, but they will never have the balls that I do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.