Has anyone had early-age sex and hasn't been traumatized?

[SamePendo]

I remember masturbating at 4. Well, not really, but something very close to it. I remember liking a (girl) schoolmate's mom a LOT too. I also remember that this particular schoolgirl, once sat on my face and wouldn't let me move (she was older), and after a while, I enjoyed her smell soooo much, I'd look forward to it and try and provoke it.

At that young age you don't know what provoking is, but it was like an instinct.

Then you have LaFavre and company having sex with minors. And when you listen to the comments regarding the kid in question, taking apart the "woman/man bias", the comments are about how this will traumatize the boy.

Now, I don't remember when I remembered about my schoolmate, I think last week for like 30 seconds, and then remembered the subject this week. But, I quickly thought "well, I'd liked to have had sex with her or her mom or . . or . . or . . (whichever woman)". And then it stringed to the "traumatizing" effect it could have had on me.

Is there such thing as having a "traumatizing", in a negative way, life as a result of having sex in an early age? Scientifically, and empericaly? I mean, did any of you have sex in an early age and are/arent "traumatized"?
Another chain of thought I guess, tied closely, is that relating to the "transmutation" of sexual energy. And how (maybe) having sex so young would turn that off.

I guess there has to do something with exactly HOW young one is talking about. I believe a woman starts menstruating around 13? So lets talk about sex before that, in men and women. Or, if there is any difference at all.

 

[Iamnotacrook]

I don't think a male would be traumatized a bit. Females are a different story. Society is the main factor.

 

[CaptainJ]

I think it's more likely that society forces the child to be traumatised. The child, having encountered a sexual experience does not know it is wrong, and thinks little of it. Yet society sees it as disgusting, and horrible and enforces these views upon the child, in effect making the child feel sickened and guilty for having the experience.

 

[SamePendo]

I don't think a male would be traumatized a bit. Females are a different story. Society is the main factor.

Why is there a difference with females you think?
So society is the main factor? Why does society think like this? . . objectively speaking . .

 

[Poonani Maker]

I had the same thing. I remember provoking. I also remember my older cousin used to babysit me and her brother during the summer, and she'd watch all the soap operas all day, and play board games with us, and she'd practice French kissing me and my cousin. THAT is fvcked up. She ALSO would spy on me and my cousin when we'd take a bath/shower together. We'd do silly stuff like pretend our little peckers were guitars and play them.

 

[martinM.]

Well i think women being more "emotinally based" might play a part in that.

 

[blackomen]

I can't see how it would be traumatizing for a boy if the experience is after puberty.. before puberty, it could be a different story..

 

[bukowski_merit]

Then i was 5-6 - I used to make out and dry hump this girl under the bus seats on our way home. When i think back im surprised we knew what to do. Then reality sets in and i realize that she seemed to be the one who knew what she was doing, and i don't like to think too hard about how she might have came across that knowledge.

She was a goth girl in middle school. When Curt Cobain died - she said in she was going to kill herself on that day when she turned whatever age it was that he killed himself....

So, yeah... Good money on her being molested and in return molesting me.

As far as i can tell... neither that, or my first sexual experience (when i was 13 with a 20 year old) come back to haunt me much....

There's much more deep things in the dungeon of my childhood than that type of stuff....

 

[Luthor Rex]

Even if a man was traumatized by an early inappropriate sexual experience, do you really think he would admit to it?

 

[Maxtro]

Eh, I really think it's only traumatizing if you didn't want it. Age or gender doesn't matter.

 

[Sisyphus7]

It can be traumatizing. I have dealt with sexual addiction and I know a lot of sex-addicts that had early-age sex experiences that translated into addiction later on in life. On a side note, I know there are some here that will claim that sex-addiction is BS, it is normal for men to have a strong sexual desire, but when it dominates your life, when it takes you places and makes you do things that detrimental to your health, to your career, to your relationships, it can be a problem.

 

[SamePendo]

All of this is empirical opinions. Are there any -scientific- conclusions on this?

Sexuality for me is very interesting. I respect it. Stuff like the Kinsey report seen from a non-horny way (to put it in some way) gets your mind fired up and curious.

 

[backbreaker]

seriously.. how can you masterbate when youa re 4.

lmao... i don't even want to tell you guys about my first "sexual" experience it's actually quite funny

 

[SamePendo]

seriously.. how can you masterbate when youa re 4.

Humping the side of the bed. I got so worked up I bounced on and off that edge! .

Was your experience "traumatizing"?

 

[DJDamage]

I started to jack off when I was 11 because a friend had a stash of penthhouse magazines and that's the first time I saw a naked woman with hairy bush having sex. I was like "man this is disgusting, I can't look no more" but I never stopped looking . I guess it was scary at first because it looked like the face hugger thing from the Aliens movie.

 

[backbreaker]

Humping the side of the bed. I got so worked up I bounced on and off that edge! .

Was your experience "traumatizing"?

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[Maxtro]

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Don't worry, he can't hurt you anymore.

 

[thedude4242]

if an underage girl is attracted to a man in his twenties and wants to have sex with him I dont see the big deal. she wanted it. at that age they would love to get a older man. now raping is different but if the guy has sex with her and doesnt do anything perverted or doesnt talk her into anal sex or anything and they have normal sex like she would with her teenage boyfriends there is not much wrong if the guy does it responsibly.