Has a Woman Ever Used You, and If So, How? (Share your stories!)

[Harry Wilmington]

Hey guys:

So, the idea of this thread came up after a conversation I had with a girl friend of mine about another mutual friend of ours who had recently gotten un-engaged. In short: she had been dating a man who works in the army, and had been stationed in Spain for the last 2 years.

The last time she went to visit him, he asked for her hand in marriage - despite the fact that me, my friend, and anyone else who knew the situation knew they were having problems and that she was losing interest in him. Despite this, she initially said "yes" to the proposal.

Two months later, though, she broke it off. At this point, I figured they would go their separate ways and that would be the end of the story... however, my friend said that, despite the engagement break-off, they were still in contact with each other.

So my friend tells me she had a conversation with this friend, who told her that the reason she hadn't totally broken off contact with this guy... was because when they were dating, he would send her a substantial amount of money from his army paycheck each month, to the point where she is now dependent on it.

To recap: this chick breaks off engagement with dude, yet is still accepting his money each month. Frankly, that ish pisses me off. Granted, it's dude's fault for wanting to continue to send her money, but why the heck would she continue to accept it in the first place??

Anyway... I've seen dudes get used by girls so many times (myself included) and thought it would be interesting to hear other stories from you guys about when you got used by a girl, and either realized it later or while you were being used. Share your stories below!

-Harry Wilmington

 

[bluenorther]

I moved across the country to be with a woman I knew from years earlier. This was 1994, long before I learned any of the things we post about here.
She got puking drunk the night I arrived and things went downhill from there. She made all her plans around money that I had contribute, except she was pushing my boundaries so hard, I left the one good job I was able to get, planning to pack up and leave. After 9 weeks of her cr@p, I was able to get early admission to a vocational school that I was already signed into, and I'd be able to live there during the program. When it was over, I came straight back home.
I will never again let a woman invite me to move in with her-- and there have been several since then.

 

[SoSuave666]

It's a selfish world. As much as I hate to admit it, I've used people in my life to get things I want. Everyone gets used. One of the hottest chicks I ever banged I used her for validation. Unless you're a great match, in the end someone is getting used. Just don't get all butthurt when you are the one being used, then turn around and fvck some random hoe the next night for secksual pleasure.

 

[Dominance]

I have been used for sex a few times. They just ****ed me and then wouldn't meet me for a date, but then ****ed me again.

It was horrible.

 

[BeDJ]

I have been used for sex a few times. They just ****ed me and then wouldn't meet me for a date, but then ****ed me again.

It was horrible.

Cool, did your marketing manager tell you to post this?

 

[Dominance]

Cool, did your marketing manager tell you to post this?

Hahaha yeah it's part of my strategy to hopefully get used for sex more!

But seriously, to the original poster, take that situation as an example of how not to be. Unfortunately alot of girls will use guys like this but don't let it be you. Yes it may upset her if she is manipulative and you don't let her get away with it but you have to stay strong and they will see you can't be manipulated.

And yes the reason I hate manipulative women so much is because I have been with some crazy ones in the past and in the end I learnt not to put up with it and have a much lower threshold for crap.

 

[Packers2010]

the last girl i was with used me to get over her last bf.

it was pretty epic.. lots of sex. some boose and her folks finding out by a used condom.

good times...

 

[SJ413]

I've been strolling, searching, reading for a while. I havent posted yet, but I can actually add something to this. Two relationships here.

First was three years ago, dating this girl, she was about a hb9. Black hair, fair skin, 36DD's that stuck strait out (damn I miss them things), slim waist, she was fine! First relationship, first fvck, things went fast. Claimed she loved me (you know, typical story). She had previously dropped out of high school. No job, no education, no car. So essentially I was her source of entertainment since she sat around her house all day. She would degrade me, dumb ***** had the gall to call ME stupid, she was borderline physically abusive. But, she was a good fvck, always up for anything.

Second was a little more than a year ago, I went afc on this sh!t bad. I stooped low, was desperate, about a hb5. "Best friends" when we were in high school (see where this is going?) Several months in, I ain't gettin none, rejects my advances, acts as though she could care less about me. Her folks loved me, hell, I miss hanging with her dad and her mom's cooking more than I ever did her. But anyway, come to find out I was just a way to appease her folks while she was fvcking her ex of three years. Done with that hoe. Made my jeep stink like damn cigarettes, took forever to get the smell out.

Live and learn eh? Never going back to that again. Well, I kinda miss the 36DD's, not.gonna lie.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Mostly used me for validation and feed their desire of slvttiness while staying with their boyfriend who were getting the full cake instead of a slice.
I still suspect that a girl toke me to the club to be manhadled only to be turned on and come back home to be nailed from her bf the following morning.

It also happened that a young girl tried to use me as a walking wallet for her and her friend(wanted me to offer the club entrance for her and her friend) but thankfully it costed me less that 10 euros since I paid for her only but then my gut shown discomfort and I came here asking for feedback till you guys gave the right tip.

But at the same time Im in no position to complain since I used girls as well, mostly when my sex drive was too high and in order to have sex I mindfvcked and bvllsh1tted some of them.

 

[bigneil]

If we interchange the word "used" with "utilized" we see that everyone "uses" everyone. An employee utilizes his employer. A cat uses it's owner for food. Therefore, saying someone used you is just sour grapes. "He's using her for sex". "She's using him for resources". Duh!

Men only hope a hottie will use them!

 

[Scars]

Not really. Maybe for alcohol/rides when I was younger, but nothing drastic and I generally always got my fair share anyways.

I think I've used a lot more women than women have used me.

-Scars