bigjohnson said:
Age has never been a significant issue, although at some point I suppose it will be. My last few girlfriends have been 12, 15, and 16 years younger than me.
My youngest plates are 22 years younger but have not graduated to GF status yet.
I gravitate towards younger women.
Friday I was at an event where afterwards a group pleaded with me to go to the bar with them, then a party afterwards. They were all in their twenties,early to late. One of them, I'm guessing she's about 23, 24, showed particular interest in me, and it surprised me because I go with the flow and forget I'm "different", when she asked me my age. The group immediately jumped on her and gave her a hard time. When I mentioned that I'm learning how to surf she said she wants to come.
Saturday I came back from a hike and in my hiking duds slid into a neighborhood cafe to catch a singer I recently met. This twenty-something I know slid over and patted the chair for my butt next to her. Then I went out with her and her seven buddies to a pub. There I got the no. of one of her buds because she wants to go hiking with me.
My buddies my age ask me how I do it. I have no idea. I'm not a smooth PUA, and as a recovering AFC and LTR refugee, my sense is that I'm learning who I am and how to be all over again.
A female friend my age asked me what I could possibly have in common with the 27 y.o. I was seeing. The 27 y.o. and I stayed up to 5, 6 am talking, routinely. My friend my age and I could NEVER do that, especially considering that by 9:30pm she can't keep her eyes open....
After my LTR I felt awkward about this young woman thing and I'm still "feeling" my way. What I know is that I am attracted to and comfortable with young women, less so with "available" women my age who often seem incredibly neurotic and baggage-laden.
I have absolutely no problem attracting them and engaging them;
I don't have easy answers about the age difference in terms of practicalities and how to deal with their considerations about age.
I intend to keep pursuing this path until I get more comfortable with the dynamic and issues that arise. I am not averse to older women and that door is open but I am not going to deny my natural bent, not to mention that I am more fit than most 30 year olds.
I realize that my situation is extreme relative to the OP, but this is me and may be of interest to some of you.
MM has been an incredibly useful resource for me and a few people, like Jophil, have provided keen insights, but when it comes to this age difference thing I realized that I am mostly on my own and will have to create my own reality, which I am now up for.
....maybe the cute girl coming over for dinner in a couple of days will provide more "data" for my ongoing research....
I'm actually not bragging; I have often felt like I've been swimming upstream coming back into the world post LTR and did look at "acting my age".
Boring.
I may have my work cut out for me but I'm going for it.
If there's a Creator, that guy made me to appreciate young women, so who am I to fight it?
