"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Has a boyfriend but still very much into me

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I am a college student living with my mum most of the time, and I stay over at my dad's house occasionally during holidays etc. I number closed a seemingly shy/innocent HB7/8 (1 year younger than me) I met at a sports shop where my dad lives about a month ago (she was shopping there) and we arranged to go out the next day so she could show me around the town as my dad had just moved there after I chatted with her for about 20 minutes or so. We met as planned and hung out for about 2 hours before I had to go to a football match, however the entire thing was personally for me just for experience as I'm still relatively new to the game and have only been working on improving myself for about a year now so I was definately not down for the idea of a LDR.

Anyway she txt msgs me the next day, when I've actually went home to my mum's house who lives an hour and a half away from my dad's town and it bcomes dirty text messages somehow, and well we've exchanged them for about 3 weeks now and I can safely say I've gotten a hell of a lot better at dirty talking and txting ;) Now, I still don't want a LTR/LDR but wouldn't mind something to keep me busy when I stay at my dad's house lol :) Anyway we have arranged to meet up next week when I am next staying there, and she has clearly expressed what she wants to do with me but I won't go into specifics heh So I was suggesting what we could do and she said "Haha I don't know what my boyfriend would think to that" :eek:

Now I thought wtf lol, what a good boyfriend he must be or what an amazing player I must be, or what a major slut she must be :p I didn't react to this at all, I think I said something like "U have a boyfriend? ah well i'm glad to hear you can keep yourself busy when I'm not around haha" or something and the vibe was not destroyed at all and we continue flirting over the phone... can anyone tell me wtf is going on here because she didn't flake the first time we met up and her Interest Levels seemed to rocket the entire time I was with her, and have stayed high since (with her continuously dirty txt msging me etc). Should I just go in for the kill since her boyfriend obviously isn't satisfying her or just forget about this because I'm being played ?

Sorry for the long post guys haha, I need to work on getting straight to the ****ing point in future. Cheers in advance.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Ahh..the ethics of cheating...

Well...you can either
a) Not do anything, out of respect for the poor guy
b) Kill! (close)

Meh. I think that's about it for advice.
 

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Docs said:
Ahh..the ethics of cheating...

Well...you can either
a) Not do anything, out of respect for the poor guy
b) Kill! (close)

Meh. I think that's about it for advice.
Now I wouldn't normally go for it, but ffs the Interest she has in me well her BF can't be doing much right and in the end she will just bang some other guy probably. Yes, I might end up feeling guilty about it in the end but I can't see their relationship lasting anyway if she acts like that. I dunno :| I used to care but then I found websites like this and femalefirst.com or something in which the majority of women seem to be proud of ****ing cheating and behaving like sluts.
 

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You must be better than what she's getting. He might just be her jackass who spends all his money on her.
 

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She's an attention *****. These girls will do virtually anything to get attention from guys (most likely because daddy wasn't around when they were growing up). It doesn't matter if its you, the guy down the street or the salesman at the mall, they go for them all. They are VERY GOOD at seducing and will use their sexuality to get what they want. Meaning if she has to spread her legs for you to get attention, then that's what she'll do. However, just know that at any one time she's got 3-4 (probably more) guys she's doing this to. Then a steady bf and another few that she's lining up to work on. Its a vicious cycle and will likely never end.

As long as you don't get attached, then your good. However if you do get attached, your in for a tornado from hell.



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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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