Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
What is she going to do about all her wrinkles?Aging isn't for the weak of heart. Anyway, who wants to be invisible? If I were her, first thing I would do is dye my hair - women with gray hair are not as appealing as men with gray hair, because men love signs of youth and fertility.
There are things she could do to improve them, but just as a baseline she's always going to look older. It's just a question of looksmaxxing. She's never going to get the attention she did when she was younger, but she can try to look the best she can. What else can one do?What is she going to do about all her wrinkles?
1:34 Welcome to humanity, honeybun. EVERYONE fears that. All the more incentive to salute today's young men, for getting more enthusiastic about self-care
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I've always thought that "harridan" refers to an obviously older woman.OP, it seems like you love the word harridan. You describe many women as such, but it doesn't often fit.
A harridan is a colloquial term for a woman who is considered to be overly aggressive, loud-mouthed, or difficult to deal with. The term is often used to describe someone who is perceived as unreasonable, quarrelsome, or argumentative.
The word "harridan" has its roots in the 17th-century French term "harridan," which referred to a woman who was considered loud-mouthed and aggressive. Over time, the term evolved to encompass a broader range of negative traits, including overly critical, demanding, or aggressive.
In modern usage, the term "harridan" is often used derogatorily to describe someone who is perceived as difficult to get along with or overly opinionated. However, it's worth noting that the term can also be used more neutrally or affectionately to describe someone passionate and outspoken.
Example sentence: "She's such a harridan when she doesn't get her way – always yelling and carrying on!"
Synonyms for "harridan" might include words like "scold," "shrew," or "termagant."
To me, a shrew is a decidedly young woman with a bad attitude (because man will put up with such an attitude in a young woman.OP, it seems like you love the word harridan. You describe many women as such, but it doesn't often fit.
A harridan is a colloquial term for a woman who is considered to be overly aggressive, loud-mouthed, or difficult to deal with. The term is often used to describe someone who is perceived as unreasonable, quarrelsome, or argumentative.
The word "harridan" has its roots in the 17th-century French term "harridan," which referred to a woman who was considered loud-mouthed and aggressive. Over time, the term evolved to encompass a broader range of negative traits, including overly critical, demanding, or aggressive.
In modern usage, the term "harridan" is often used derogatorily to describe someone who is perceived as difficult to get along with or overly opinionated. However, it's worth noting that the term can also be used more neutrally or affectionately to describe someone passionate and outspoken.
Example sentence: "She's such a harridan when she doesn't get her way – always yelling and carrying on!"
Synonyms for "harridan" might include words like "scold," "shrew," or "termagant."
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Spineless, ignorant men of any age will do soTo me, a shrew is a decidedly young woman with a bad attitude (because man will put up with such an attitude in a young woman.)
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I learned the word harridan from @MatureDJ . I had never heard that word before @MatureDJ .the word harridan.
Yes, we do.men love signs of youth and fertility.
I have heard some stories about women 50+ getting a lot of attention on Match and OurTime and even the swipe apps.She's never going to get the attention she did when she was younger, but she can try to look the best she can. What else can one do?
No one wants that feeling. I think men feel the feelings of invisibility more than women. Women don't tend to feel these feelings until later in life. Some women online report feeling it in their 30s, but I think it's more common for women to feel it at 45+ (around menopause and beyond). Men can feel invisible early in life, often prior to age 25.who wants to be invisible?
As I've gotten older, I've gradually but completely lost interest in alcohol, bars, and nightclubs. So it isn't just a matter of having fewer male connections, although your point is valid. A lot of guys stick with that stuff, and great for them. But a lot of guys move past it, because they just don't find it that interesting.When men age into their 30s/40s, they often have fewer male connections who are able to accompany them to bars for nightgame. This reduces their exposure to the opposite sex and the opportunities to even get IOIs.
Damned straight. Since my mid-20s I've also found grocery stores to be superb places to meet some of the coolest chicks on the planet, ever since learning about this from guys like Doc Love and David DeAngelo, during the days of Pre-Woke Askmen. They're inevitably of a higher caliber than the vapid skanks who too often lurk around night clubsAs I've gotten older, I've gradually but completely lost interest in alcohol, bars, and nightclubs. So it isn't just a matter of having fewer male connections, although your point is valid. A lot of guys stick with that stuff, and great for them. But a lot of guys move past it, because they just don't find it that interesting.
Anyway, I like to cook, so I often go shopping on my own, and I notice that's when I get a lot of IOIs, or at least give a glance, and women will even come up and interact with me
Here's another example: Sometimes I'll offer to help get a girl something off the high shelf if they seem to be having trouble. I honestly think the thing I enjoy most about these interactions is that I'm not looking to get anything out of it.I don't plan anything, but I enjoy playing with new women and I don't need to chase anyone
Interesting. I forgot to mention that a few years ago on this forum, helping out like that would get you called a "Captain Save-a-Ho" lol.I've seen women skimming right over several tall enough men in order to ask me to fetch them something out of their reach. I think there are quite a lot of 'helpless' women who are only playing at 'damsel in distress', even if only to see which men offer their help.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Within The Manosphere, hurling the epithet "Simp" over the slightest transgression, real or imagined, is the equivalent of Woke Warriors invoking the equal hackneyed Uncle TomI don't think that expression was for helping a woman in the supermarket to take an item from the top shelf ( I think ignorant incels may call that 'simping')...
Damned straight. Since my mid-20s I've also found grocery stores to be superb places to meet some of the coolest chicks on the planet, ever since learning about this from guys like Doc Love and David DeAngelo, during the days of Pre-Woke Askmen. They're inevitably of a higher caliber than the vapid skanks who too often lurk around night clubs
You still want to show me your cucumber?