Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Quagmire911

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The diet looks great. Remember the carb cutoff 4-6 hours before bed.

I'd think about adding in maybe one HIIT day a week for anaerobic conditioning.

Have you gained weight in the last week? If not add another 300 calories a day, something like an extra two tablespoons of Olive oil. If you gained more than a pound do the reverse and drop a hundred or so calories a day.

Quagmire
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So after my last workout, it got the flu this time. I attribute it to going back to university and being in that germ factory, but man, my immune system must suck, because I wash my hands all the damn time.

Anyways, I'll probably be out for at least a week. Very bad timing, just as I was getting into the swing of things so to speak.

How should my diet look during this period of illness? still eat the same foods, but just less of them?
 

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Harpe said:
still eat the same foods, but just less of them?

yes, also drink lots of water, get in lots of vitamin C, and rest
 

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So, after a a month off from lifting I am back to start again.
I had a severe cold that lasted about 2 weeks, then a bout of food posioning.
The problem for the last week is that I have felt drained and out of energy. In the mornings my nose is a bit stuffed up and if I stay up too late (but only a a bit over 16 hours awake) my throat begins to tickle/get sore.

I have been taking it easy, drinking lots of water and eating lots of oranges/taking a multivitamin and eating the same foods though a lesser amount. One problem is that a couple of nights a week in the past 4 weeks I have only gotten 4-5 hours of sleep as I have to get up at 4:30am for work a few times a week. So, now I am going to try and get to sleep by 9, and I am hoping that working out and doing light cardio will help me be able to fall asleep easier.

So, first workout in a month today. Didn't feel 100% so I took it easy.

Deadlift 2x5 180lbs
Pendlow Rows 2x6 110lbs
DB curls 2x10 30lbs
Reverse forearm curl 2x10 40lbs
 

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So I think I'm finally over whatever it was I was fighting. After a few extra days off, I got back to it:

Hack Squats 2x5 200lbs
Hack Squats 2x13 130lbs
Stiff Leg Deadlift 2x8 145lbs
Calf Raises 2x10 180lbs

My scale broke but I'm going to reweigh myself soon, as it's like I'm starting over.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Remember the set of 15 on squats is ONE set and and not two.

I just read your first post again about you saying squats hurt your UPPER ARMS when the bar is on them. This doesn't make sense...
 

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Oh, I only did one set of 15 reps. The 2 is mistakenly there.

My shoulders/upper chest would hurt when I was doing front squats with the bar resting on them, not a regular or hack squat. That would indeed make no sense. I'm sure my form was a little off, but I'm more comfortable doing hack squats for the time being.
 
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