"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey guys, basically i am looking for a workout that will prep my body and nervous system to get into heavier weights and bulking over the course of a couple months or so. A little about me first though:

I am 6'2" about 160 lbs, 31 years old, and for a long time (about 10 yrs) i have had IBS that has consistently cramped (literally) my lifestyle and made eating enough difficult (due to lack of appetite), so i am finally throwing down the gauntlet and deciding to make a lifestyle change. I havent worked out in any serious way for a good 8-9 years, so i would at this point be pretty much a total newbie. So to start, i am going to be making some diet changes, eating better, and hitting the weights 3 times a week. Any suggestions for where to start? Remember, what i am looking for is a good total-body workout that will up my general fitness level and help get my biological systems (ie. digestive and nervous) healthy again and get into a state where the bigger meals and harder workouts will be possible. I wanna make what i have hard and fit before taking that next step. Advice please :)

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I never really understood the need to "get your body ready" to lift weights. Isn't the whole point of lifting to FORCE your body to adapt?
 

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wannabebigforums.com has some good stuff on it. It's more geared towards body building/weight lifting than this site, and there are a lot of guys/girls there that know their stuff.

Bodybuilding.com also has some good articles about getting into weight lifting, so some research might be in order.
 

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start out slow, if your rush into things you will fail. The first 2 - 5 weeks you'll most likely just quit again if you try to jump right into it. Start out by doing cardio, jog every day...try to run further each time. Do this for about 2 weeks, along with a healthy diet, and then slowly start lifting.
 

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Skilla_Staz said:
I never really understood the need to "get your body ready" to lift weights.

You've never heard of warming up?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don't get grumpy...He's a newbie, he even said so in his post.

My advice, take it or leave it:
1) Some dude mentioned doing cardio every day....Do it, start jogging and get your body/mind into a healthy routine. Aim for a 10 - 15 minute jog.

2) Stretch. Spend 10 - 15 minutes (i do 30 minutes) a day stretching and loosening up muscles. Do it right before & right after your jog.

3) Bodyweight exercises. Start doing some pushups and situps, chinups if you can, and use those dumbbells if you have em. Sure it won't put on much muscle, but with a basic routine of jogging, pushups and situps, chinups and bicep curls for afew weeks it'll really help, especially coming off 9 years of no exercise. It also gets discipline going, to do something health related every day, something you'll need heaps of if you intend to start lifting.

4) I know you didn't mention this, but don't forget your diet, you know the deal...plenty of water, veggies, and protein.
 

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mrRuckus said:
You've never heard of warming up?

Of course I've heard of warming up. Warming up is totally different than what I gather hes talking about.

****ydude said:
Hey guys, basically i am looking for a workout that will prep my body and nervous system to get into heavier weights and bulking over the course of a couple months or so. A little about me first though:

People are always looking for a routine that gets them ready to lift heavy weights. It's as if they think that lifting heavy to begin with is going to screw them over. I feel if your form is good, go ahead and pack on the iron baby. Warmups are NEEDED of course, but I dont feel that you really need an "acclimation period" in lifting.
 
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