HARDCORE DJs: SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND, HOW DO I STEAL HER ANYWAY?

[MVPlaya]

She Has A Man

I met this hot chick in one of my college classes (HB 8.5, intelligent, fun) who is 3.5 yrs older than me. She showed me signs of interest and everything, but she wanted to know my age... I stupidly said 18. After that she turned weird for a while but has since lightened up to me again and were flirting again. Every time we work together on something we don't get it done cause were too busy talking to each other, but... I have one HUGE problem. I just figured out she has a man who is 30 (12yrs older than me) who she's been seeing for a year or two. I asked her if she liked older guys, to which she responded, "i don't discriminate, I mean I like older guys, but if youre 18 and mature i have no quarrel with you." I told her we should go out for lunch sometime and she seemed receptive to that (I have her number because of group projects). I'm wondering tho, is she wasting my time? What are the odds of me stealing her from her man and HOW DO I STEAL HER?

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[dbot]

your odds are 1 in 7

 

[MVPlaya]

LOL, well, when I ask for my odds I'm asking the SENIOR DON JUANS to give me some strategy in getting her. She still gives me attention, she dresses nicely whenever we do work together, and we flirt etc. etc., but at the same time, she did show me her man's picture and she was gaging my response. I just laughed, (feeling like ****) played it cool and continued talking with her like I didn't care. I want to know what the hell I should do if I want to get her. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

 

[HuuBinh]

Don't waste time trying to court her. F-closed her asap bc shes probably interested in your looks, but might not want a relationship. Since she was receptive and you have her number, why don't you call her up and invite her to your place to study or work on that project. You then can put your moves on her, don't choke.

 

[jakethasnake]

MV - I have no CLUE why you would have the words 'playa' in your name. Talk about a misnomer.

 

[becker]

As a connoiseur of BF-stealing, I have to tell you that you're in for a long ride. However, unlike many of the folks here, I won't discourage you from trying. To me, girls w/ BFs are fair game provided they are broken up before you get with them (that must have been the 1000th time I've said that here). Anyways, don't be sneaking around behind the BF's back if you're going to do this.

If she showed you the BF's picture, chances are that she might not be that interested in you. The last girl who I was going after was someone I knew for 4 years and never did I once see a picture of a BF. I didn't even know she had one for the first 3 years I knew her, because she never mentioned him. Anyways, long story short, she's engaged now and I haven't spoken to her for 3 weeks. I'm going to keep her as a friend, but I had to just move on.

Anyways, the only person who can have any say here is her, not you. She's holding the keys to the kingdom here. I can see how most guys here would say NEXT, and move on. I am actually tempted to say it right now. However, I see how easy it is to say that when you're not the one in the position of having to next a girl who you have grown attached to. Try to find another girl if you can, while you work on this one. You're probably not going to get anywhere until she breaks up with him anyways.

 

[echo1212]

What should you do? Ahhh... How about leave her alone..she has a bf. Its not a moral thing to do plus there are so many out there unattached. I really think guys that always need to go after girls that are taken have their own relationship issues. Such as saying they want to be in one but knowing the chances of it actually happening arent good. Or maybe they were cheated on in the past. Regardless, leave her alone until shes single again.

 

[becker]

Actually, echo1212, I don't purposely go after girls w/ BFs myself, I just go after girls that I want, and I just don't let the BF thing stop me.

 

[echo1212]

Ok becker, thats up to you if you want-free world. Just don't come crying here if your future wife or some girl you've really fallen for cheats on you with some guy that has the same attitude as you. Remember, bad karma has a way of coming back to bite you. What goes around comes around.

 

[Legend]

girls with bf's are a waste of time...why put the work in and get nothing out. Most of the time it will end up pretty bad. Boyfriends have a why of sticking around if they were the ones that were dumped.

Find yourself another girl before you actually start liking this one....the more time you put into her now the harder it will be to get away from her.

Get out while you still can my friend

-John

 

[Craig Reeves]

You have got to be kidding me!

I met this hot chick in one of my college classes who is 3.5 yrs older than me. She showed me signs of interest and everything, but she wanted to know my age... I stupidly said 18. After that she turned weird for a while but has since lightened up to me again and were flirting again. Every time we work together on something we don't get it done cause were too busy talking to each other, but... I have one HUGE problem. I just figured out she has a man who is 30 (12yrs older than me) who she's been seeing for a year or two. I asked her if she liked older guys, to which she responded, "i don't discriminate, I mean I like older guys, but if youre 18 and mature i have no quarrel with you." I told her we should go out for lunch sometime and she seemed receptive to that (I have her number because of group projects). I'm wondering tho, is she wasting my time? What are the odds of me stealing her from her man and HOW DO I STEAL HER?

Surely, you cannot sound that desperate, man. I mean, why would you really want to go after somebody else's girl when there's so many other single ones that are of the same quality? Look man, even if you did get her, what the hell is going to keep her from cheating on you ? Trust me, if you cheat.....somebody will ALWAYS cheat on you in the future. You reap what you sow.

 

[Kuen1]

Get Your OWN girl. What's up with all these cats trying to "steal" the next mans girl? If you keep it up...I hope he beats your a$$.

 

[becker]

Originally posted by Legend
girls with bf's are a waste of time...why put the work in and get nothing out. Most of the time it will end up pretty bad. Boyfriends have a why of sticking around if they were the ones that were dumped.

Find yourself another girl before you actually start liking this one....the more time you put into her now the harder it will be to get away from her.

Get out while you still can my friend

-John

Well, the key here, like I said is to make sure of 2 things:

1. Go after other women while not breaking contact with the girl that has a BF, and

2. Don't do anything with the girl until she has officially broken up for good with the BF. This means you can flirt, create attraction, etc. until she can't handle it anymore, and then if she decides that you're better, then she may dump the BF for you. Don't sit there waiting for it to happen, just prepare yourself for if it does.