"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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hard work or is it hard work n skill n talent

joe45

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do you think some ppl dont have to try so hard in school and still get good marks, while others have to work very hard and study and just get ok marks. do you guys think its just plain hard work or is it just skill n talent comes into play too.

. is it just laziness that he didnt want to study hard to become a doctor, engineer, or was it just he lacked the aptitude , skill and not smart enough/learning disabitly in certain areas that stopped him/her from being a engineer or accountant, computer programmer so he had to become a chef, or bus driver

you think some ppl are just lazy in why they do the jobs they do-bus driver, construction worker, chef, pastry chef, baker or do you think they just lacked the skill n talent and brain power or had learning disabilty as to why they didnt become a engineer or accountant, computer programmer

a career counsellor told us that one also has to have the aptitude to do that job.

ok how bout the ppl who actually study and work hard ,but still dont do good in school like C average and cant enter a univeristy ,but they study and go to class and do their homework. they just dont do good in school periodddd.

can you really just try and work hard. i mean can a Luke Walton(lakers ball player") even if he worked hard be as good as a Kobe Bryant and score like 40 pts per game or more. hmmm maybe on some odd days but i doubt it. isnt it just natural skill. you cant teach a Ryan Kesler(Canucks hockey player) to be like a Sidney Crosby. its either you have the talent or you dont

i have a close friend whos like this . i mean what is he/she works hard and still doesnt do good in school and later on cant get the job related to the stuyd of field. and also he/she told me they have a mild form of learning disabiltiy. looks normal and all and talk normal , little shy around ppl and lonerish, but said he/she has to study hard on weekends and jsut gets C average on exams and sometimes if better C plus or at most |a B minus. this is for most to all subjects from computer hardware to english in highschool to financiual accounting.
k then what do you do
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'm assuming this is related to game. So I'll give you the best reply you are going to get. You can either accept it or fail. Let's go with your basket ball analogy and see where exactly you missed the point.

can a Luke Walton(lakers ball player") even if he worked hard be as good as a Kobe Bryant and score like 40 pts per game or more. hmmm maybe on some odd days but i doubt it. isnt it just natural skill.
THEY ARE PLAYING THE GAME! That's the point. They aren't in the stands, not on the bench, not at home wishing they were playing. They are in the game. And that's all that matters. If you aren't in the game you can't win. As long as you play your best that's all that matters. Someone will always be better or worse unless you are the best there is. But that doesn't stop everyone else from playing the game and going home with a trophy or a pay check. This is the mentality that is lacking. This all or nothing mentality sucks. Remember...the worst guy in the NBA is still IN THE NBA! He's not in some local league or sitting at home wishing he was in the NBA, he's there. The worst player on a winning team just got a trophy. He won. If you are in the game, you beat out everyone else who isn't. If your a win some and lose some, excellent. If you win them all. Awesome. But if you never try...you get nothing.

So as this applies to game. You have to just get out there and play. You are either in the game or your not. Doesn't matter if your the best or the worst. If you play the game to the best of your ability you will get something out of it.
 
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