i've tried to have sex with my girlfriend 2 or 3 times (we are both virgin), always with a condom on, but i've never managed to. as soon as my penis touches her puss1, either she suddenly becomes dry, or my d1ck becomes soft... what the hell is happening? 2 days ago, i managed to stick my d1ck in her ass (without condom), but it was difficult too, because my **** lifted down. finally, i managed to and it was pretty cool (although i expected it to be better). then i took it out (before ejaculatin), i put a condom on and i tried to have sex with her, but i couldn't. what is happening?!?!?!?!?! i'm not too much worried about, so i can't believe it's all due to nervousness... is it because of the condom? is it just inexperience? please, help me, 'cuz i don't want to wait years before havin' real sex;-)
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Just some performance anxiety.
When she goes too dry to go in with a condom it's a sign of lacking a good foreplay and little anxiety too. Make sure you work her up really good and make her comfortable.
The thing when you fail to keep your **** hard can be because of too much masturbation and stress in your case.
Don't masturbate for few days before having sex and while you are working her up try to relax as much as possible and don't think about it. It helps when you put the condom on when you just get the boner so it don't go away that fast.
Keep your d!ck stimulated so the boner won't go away with your hands or her hands or rubbing your penis against her legs etc.
Also asking her to give some head helps usually too!
What's happening to you is just normal especially when you are both virgins. Just relax, have a good foreplay and don't stress about it! You will be able to do it and you don't have to wait years to have sex.
One thing that might help too is making her help put you a condom and make it a part of foreplay and not just some extra phase between foreplay and sex.
Just be sure how to put a condom on properly, make sure there is not gonna be any air in, roll it down over the head and let her roll it down just making sure she doesn't break the condom.
I hope this helps!
When she goes too dry to go in with a condom it's a sign of lacking a good foreplay and little anxiety too. Make sure you work her up really good and make her comfortable.
The thing when you fail to keep your **** hard can be because of too much masturbation and stress in your case.
Don't masturbate for few days before having sex and while you are working her up try to relax as much as possible and don't think about it. It helps when you put the condom on when you just get the boner so it don't go away that fast.
Keep your d!ck stimulated so the boner won't go away with your hands or her hands or rubbing your penis against her legs etc.
Also asking her to give some head helps usually too!
What's happening to you is just normal especially when you are both virgins. Just relax, have a good foreplay and don't stress about it! You will be able to do it and you don't have to wait years to have sex.
One thing that might help too is making her help put you a condom and make it a part of foreplay and not just some extra phase between foreplay and sex.
Just be sure how to put a condom on properly, make sure there is not gonna be any air in, roll it down over the head and let her roll it down just making sure she doesn't break the condom.
I hope this helps!
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You stuck it in her ass. I wish I had this problem.
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you're not turning her on enough if she's dry down there.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.