hard to find the balance between showing too much interest and too little.

[garruk]

what do you guys do with girls/plates to keep a balance of interest going?


lately ive realized that i tend to show too little interest thinking that im avoiding being needy but instead i come off as not-interested and girls lose interest (thinking that im not into them).

 

[ken chang]

Wow, I have a problem with this, too! Hope someone can offer a solution. I also don't quite get how to "focus on her winning you"just yet, but I am working on it.

 

[vatoloco]

Different things work for different guys.

what do you guys do with girls/plates to keep a balance of interest going?

For me what works is placing my plates in the last order of priorities of things in my life. My family and myself come first, then my social obligations (friends, work, etc.), then my hobbies (motorcycling, working on my house, etc.) Women come in at 4th. By placing women that low in the totem pole, it places me in a state of "I don't really need you" that women find fascinating. I don't qualify to them. They're the ones qualifying to me to be the lucky recipients of my time and attention.

Now don't get me wrong. Female company is something that we all desire but, in my experience, it is when you're not ardently pursuing it that things tend to fall into place...

 

[maqnetik]

its not about how much interest you show but how much TIME you spend showing that interest

 

[Scars]

You've got to be able to read woman man. Girls like a chase, but if you over do it then they will move on. It's okay to be distant, but you also got to know when the time is right to poke your head back in and say hey! Then you get her emotions and juices flowing again, then all of a sudden.. you become distant again. You just keep repeating this cycle. You got to make her know that every time you are around she will be having fun and be happy. This is what makes her miss you. No contact/coldness is an amazing tactic that works, but it all goes to waste if you never return back. Woman love attention, and even if they aren't admitting to it when you ignore them they are going crazy inside. That's when you stop by again, even if you just talk to her for a couple minutes, she will be happy and feel wanted and special and she will like you even more. Learn the cycle man.

Good luck.

-Scars

 

[garruk]

You've got to be able to read woman man. Girls like a chase, but if you over do it then they will move on. It's okay to be distant, but you also got to know when the time is right to poke your head back in and say hey! Then you get her emotions and juices flowing again, then all of a sudden.. you become distant again. You just keep repeating this cycle. You got to make her know that every time you are around she will be having fun and be happy. This is what makes her miss you. No contact/coldness is an amazing tactic that works, but it all goes to waste if you never return back. Woman love attention, and even if they aren't admitting to it when you ignore them they are going crazy inside. That's when you stop by again, even if you just talk to her for a couple minutes, she will be happy and feel wanted and special and she will like you even more. Learn the cycle man.

Good luck.

-Scars

this was good post. thanks man.

 

[Galactus]

Great wisdom, Scars.