Hard time talking on the phone

[KillingTime]

Im 21 and have rarely ever talked to people on the phone.
I have a really hard time doing so, every minute on the phone feels like 10 and it seems like there's constant awkward silence.
I get on the phone and turn into the most dull person, I have nothing to say

Any ideas on how to get over this?

 

[whatdude]

Hey man, i used to be the same way but i got over it. All you have to do is not be nervous or think about what to say really. Just let her do the talking and say like one or two words like ''oh yea... wow... what was that like?'' .. easy sh1t like that, let her control the conversation.

All you have to do is 'dissect' what she is sayin.. and when there is awkward silence.. ask her what she is doing.. and she'll be like ''nothing why' .. or something like that.. and you just be like '' i dunno, you're just quiet all of a sudden, i thought you left me'' ... easy sh1t like that dude.. just let her direct it all.

And don't be afraid to have some fun on the phone too... lol.. throw in a moan once in a while and tell her how tired you are..act like you're real cold .. she'll say something like.. awww want me to warm you up?'' .. lol **** like that, its corny but it works.

Hope this helped any.

Later

 

[ev3nst3v3n]

drink a couple beers on an empty stomach and you'll be mr. funtime phoney mctalk alot.

 

[smeckle]

whatdude

whatdude has the right idea. That's how my girlfriend and I do it, and we can have record length conversations without stalling. It's impressive. haha

But, yeah: follow that advice and you should be golden.

 

[True Realness]

Phone game and decent conversational skills are crucial assets when trying to progress with new girls. With many guys, the game ends with getting the girl's number because they lack these skills. Your goal when conversing on the phone with a new girl is to ultimately ask open ended questions that will allow her to convery information you can use to extend the conversation. If your afraid of saying something stupid during a convo, you can limit your talking by allowing her to carry most of the load. For example

You: Yesterday for lunch, I decided to check out this Italian resturant to see if the food there was any good. What type of food do you like the most?

Her: I like going out for Chinese on the weekends with my friends, we have lots and lots of fun hanging out. Sara and Jessica are absolutely two of the most craziest girls I've ever met in my life!

You: Sounds like you guys know how to party, but what types of things do you and your friends get into on the weekends?

Her: Sometimes we'll just hang around my apartment watching DVD's. Other times we'll go out to dance at a club, grab some drinks at a lounge or do something really fun like playing pool or bowling.

You: You bowl? Hmmm, I'm pretty sure I could beat you at that with no problems at all ;-)

Her: omg, I would totally kick your ass....blah blah blah blah (this will really get her to open up more with a playful challenge by you)

You: I see we won't be able to settle this over the phone, we're just gonna have to duke it out on the alley one night soon. (A little phone game here by hinting at a future "date". However, your initial goal should be establishing more rapport while building a comfort level with her)

Her: I guess so, you haven't seen bowling into you've seen me bowl.

You: Ha ha ha ha, yea we'll see. But earlier you spoke of your friends Sara and Jessica; where did you meet the two of them and how long have you known each?



This made up dialogue points out how you would ask questions to find out things about herself while using that info to further extend the conversation. It's not as hard as you would think, it requires actual listening so that you can properly respond to her question, answer or comment with relevent material previously mentioned.

 

[I_Only_Live_Once]

Ask questions and volunteer tidbits of information about yourself relating to the topic at hand. Also, convey your voice so that the girl knows you're comfortable and confident talking to her.