hard situation.. need to get this straight

[rapsta]

There is this girl who has been starring in my threads lately. She is the same age as me. She moved to chicago to study for 4 years. I might visit her some times, and she might come to visit me. Im in sweden. Here's the tricky part.. this woman has shown me love like no other woman before.. it made me turn all soft and kind of a nice guy.. yeah i know thats hella gay.. but i've gotten so damn close to her during the 3 months we spent together that it's sick.. she knows almost everything about me and vice versa. I kinda broke up with her.. and we got together again. She told me if i broke up with her again she would get really hurt and keep distance from me for a long time before she would start keeping in touch with me again, because she would be mourning and recovering and stuff. She wants to spend her life with me.. but there is only one thing. She says she wants me to change.. she wants me to become a real man.. a man that can love her the best way. And i've been acting like a jerk every now and then.. because i needed to defend myself when feeling too much of a niceguy. And she thinks that I dont love her like i should etc. I mean.. its good for me to change to a better man.. so thats not a problem. But I dont really know if I wanna spend my whole life with just one girl.. and im pretty sure that i wont find a woman treating me this well.. thats why i dont wanna break up with her and lose her. But then I cant have fun with other girls.. is that what i really want? is that what ANY man wants? I dont think so.. i really don't know what to do.. it feels like it wouldnt matter if we got married today or in 4-5 years. I still feel isolated. What should I do? I think i need to rethink.. i mean.. if i break up, i might have fun all my life.. but then i might not find a woman that will treat me this way? a woman that will love me this way.. damn this is a hard decision brothers.. got any suggestions?

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

Honestly, I think you are too young for this...She moved out of the country for 4 years doggie...Plus if shes in the same age group as you, she might be going through some puppy love sh1t...Go out and learn how to get some ladies so you can get a good idea of what you want, cause this girl might not be coming home anytime soon, and shes probably out doing her thing...Maybe when she comes back to the country after school is done and she still likes you, go for it, but I sure as hell wouldnt hold my breath...So....just sharpen your skills and look for girls in your area...

 

[rapsta]

bro i've been with almost every girl from my area.. and i've been with many girls from other towns as well.. i get nothing out of just having sex.. that's not what im out for.. i need a girlfriend. and i cant see myself with a girl from my area since i know everyone and i know they aint good for me.. do you feel me?
thats my problem.

 

[NRM]

How about you decide what you really want. If you want to be with this girl then choose to be with this girl, it might be hard, but it's what you want to do. Never deny yourself of what you want. If you want to date other girls than go with it.

If you aren't sure if you want to be with her or not, then it is NOT love. You should just drop the romance drama already. I think you don't want to be with her, but you're just scared no other girl is going to like you like this. Quit being a pansy. Don't drag her along if you aren't really into her.

And... she wanted you to change? If she's in love with you, she should be in love with you for you, not some guy that she wants you to be.

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

I see you...But you gotta be real though...This girl is in a whole other country...If you did pull a long distance relationship with her, she could meet some other dude and then "fall in love" with him...Plus how can you date and do bf/gf stuff when shes so far away and she only comes home on break?