"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Happiness

The Duke

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How many of you are truly happy with your life? Take into consideration finances, assets, seeing the world, women, career, hobbies, retirement accounts, accomplishments, etc. Basically whatever is important to you.

I've kept my side of the street pretty clean over the years and exercised good discipline. I have always followed the advice of the older more experienced people and it has saved me from having to learn things the hard way. As a result, I don't have any baggage but an exwife and her and I respect each other.

I purchase whatever I want and do whatever I want, but always live within my means. I don't care what others think of me and don't live my life for others. Work doesn't stress me out. They don't pay me to think about it when I'm not there so I don't.

I feel living my life this way makes me content and I consider myself very fortunate. Life is really pretty easy.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SkrooU

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I be happy. Don't have everything I want, but my life could be much worse.
 

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Great question...

So much running towards things and people, forever grasping......so much running away from things and people, forever in aversion......

In the moments where grasping and aversion ceases simultaneously the sky parts and the light of happiness can shine. Everything
in between is delusion, whether you're a King or a Pauper.

 

sazc

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me, truly. your explanation of why you are happy could be my explanation. it's great to be truly comfortable in your own skin, eh?
 

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The problem with the pursuit of happiness is it tends to also be a flight from suffering.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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BeExcellent

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I'm happy. I'm if anything fighting complacency a bit because I'm pretty content.

I have a list of goals & things I'm working toward & dreams & creative endeavors I intend to pursue...but this afternoon I got to watch a baseball game & then got to make a pie with my younger daughter. Then we had a pile of people over for pizza & movie night. Made popcorn & the whole 9 yards.

Not bad for a Thursday.
 

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Happiness comes and goes for me.

I'm happy to not be living in the former shadow of the marriage I was in. I lived in a hollow state of depression for years while faking happiness to the world for years.

I've discovered more about myself in the last year and half single than when I was with the ex for nearly a decade. I picked up a ton of new hobbies which puts me around diverse social spheres I wouldn't have imagined joining before. I challenged myself and stretched myself thin to the point of breaking many times. The breaking and molding character was all for the growth my life desperately needed to jumpstart a dead soul.

I also credit this forum for helping me "unplug" and digest red pill logic. I've bugged a few DJs and many quandaries and that has helped me to practice the art of detachment more.

Transitioning a career in my mid-30s is difficult while working and going to school full time. I have the end goal in mind. I hope that goal grants me more financial freedom, security, and a balanced lifestyle.

My frame and self-esteem needs work. I'm trying to lead more in dating and in social groups.

I'm not plate spinning. I have zero plates and probably will stay that way until my life becomes more stable. Interest level is so fickle and I don't have a plate stack to leverage at the poker table with a plate's infinite options. Tbh, I'm happy I'm not stressing over plate(s) interest level. ;) I'll be happier when I can kick co-dependency attachment tendencies to the curb.

Accomplishing goals and milestones through true grit is helping me rebuild my self-esteem. A few months ago I was depressed. I looked in the mirror and didn't like my boney face. I lost twenty pounds after an accident at the start of the year. Since then, I've gained fifteen pounds back and want to continue training to bulk another 15-25 pounds to get to 160~170 range.
 
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I'm pretty consistently happy, my life is pretty simple. There are things I could be doing better. But overall when I think about where I'm at, and compare it to where I could be, I have to think that I've been blessed and fortunate. There are so many cool things going on, so many cool things to do and see, so much potential, how could you not be happy? Life is a gift, and if you take the time to appreciate it and be grateful for it, that alone should result in happiness.

I have a friend who is bipolar, he is very negative and depressed most of the time. It's hard to see, but some people just can't help but be unhappy.

Oops, almost forgot :) :
 

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I'm unhappy but I'll get over it. Since January life has sucked for me. Working all the time, no real positive things happening but I have to be thankful I'm financially secure, have a roof over my head, and I'm healthy. Looking forward to going overseas next month to clear my head.

I made a list of goals for the summer and hope to accomplish them. I'm at my best when I'm going to the gym every day.
 

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As Zekko said, life is a gift. I truly believe that. Every day is a gift and you should make the most of it.

I'll turn 60 this year and honestly, it gotten better every year.

I'm looking forward to many things (travel, writing, reading, spending time with my kids...).

I have so much to be thankful for.

-Augustus-
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A Rhyme Re-Written

That equilibrium of happiness
Exists when the water of our passion
Neither to disturbing elements lists,
Nor follows the fickle flow of fashion.
Nor does it stall at the rock of reason,
But rather floats freely as down a stream,
Where on the banks pass every season-
Contributory chapters of a dream.
 

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A Rhyme Re-Written

That equilibrium of happiness
Exists when the water of our passion
Neither to disturbing elements lists,
Nor follows the fickle flow of fashion.
Nor does it stall at the rock of reason,
But rather floats freely as down a stream,
Where on the banks pass every season-
Contributory chapters of a dream.
Quite beautiful.
 
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