"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Happiness.

The Dreamer

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"There is no way to Happiness, Happiness is the way" once said Buddha. He was so right.

Most people's goal in life is to reach a state of Happiness, but the only thing they don't realise is that Happiness is not an end in itself. You can't do things to be happy, you have to BE happy.

See every moment as an opportunity to be happy, to have fun and make it an infinite moment in your mind.

Live.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Great quote to live by, and if you follow it you will never end making a choice that you will later question and think was bad. Live for the moment, and let those moments make up your life.
 

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Scientific research indicates "happiness" is not a state you can "achieve." When we accomplish goals we feel happy and vice versa, but the feeling is evolutionary programmed to be fleeting. Hence the term "hedonic treadmill" (google this if you don't believe me).

Therefore, stop focussing on trying to feel bubbly and start pursuing what you think constitutes "the good."
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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BE, so you can DO, then HAVE.


Be , as in BE PRESENT.

Be, as in BECOMING.

Be, as in BELIEF.

Be, as in BEING.


Focus on what is STOPPING you from feeling Good, and Happy, and Joyful.

What are these obstacles?
What issues are you dealing with?
are you even aware you are having difficulties seeing the positive side?
Why arent you seeing this as positive?

These are questions you must ask yourself.

If not, you let your subconscious, and all the primal subconscious fears do the acting and make your own sub beleif system.

You will operate from a paradigm of fear and irrational beliefs.

Your mind is a tool.
A way to interpret phenomena and experiences.
Your subconsious is a an influence HOW you PERCEIVE your 'reality'.
WHAT REALITY are YOU CREATING?




Watch this video, and pay attention at 1:10:
http://video.google.com/videoplay?d...&q=adyashanti&ei=vJpqSOHiJKem4QKDvPXKAg&hl=en
 

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As demonstrated on the video, everything is in our minds. You can choose, you can program your reality to be full of opportunities and joy, or to be dark and full of fears.

It reminds me about a technique used by PUAs to program their mind with the belief that they are attractive, and that all women perceive them as being hot. And it is no surprise that the thing works well, because by creating this reality you start to find evidence that your belief is true.
As well, if you think of yourself as a total loser with women your mind will focus on finding truth for the reality you've just created, and you'll just be caught in the loser trap.

No concept can be stated as true or false, because it totally depends on which reality you see it with, and seeing the positive side is just the consequence of having created a bright and positive reality for yourself.

Live.
 

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Why confuse thinking positively with "creating your own reality"?

That mindset is harmful because it assumes you don't have to conform to anything objectively. IE, I can't just create a reality where a brick wall isn't in front of me. It's not just "in my mind." It's there and I have to move around it, albeit thinking positively.

Women have a specific nature that must be mastered objectively. In order to do this you have to think positively, but this doesn't mean you can just start creating false realities in your mind where all women think you are a stud even though you masturbate and play halo every hour of your life.

If you're the alpha male you won't attract many women. It just so happens that alpha males have to think positively.
 
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