"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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dotcomwill said:
I didn't read it, but I did read the title.
It reminded me of this comedian I once saw.

He said this:
So you think money can buy happieness huh? Well, money can buy a Jetski..Have you ever seen someone Frown on a jetski? Hell no!
Next time your riding a jetski, try and fvcking frown, lmao.
differentiating between the people who believe in buying things to get happiness vs other individuals looking for social and life experiences to define happiness.
However, the things is right now I'm doing both, as I'm buying everything that I like and experiencing everything I desire, so will there be a new category for people who have it all, how will they rate happiness for this new category, will I have to give double effort to shine in both aspect...
 

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As animals, most of us live in paradise. Top of the food chain, no predators, rarely go hungry, amazingly comfortable shelter, endless access to entertainment, art and knowledge - we should all be happy as pigs in shit. But we're not, because people are never satisfied. Which is no bad thing, and how we achieved so much.

But eternal happiness is impossible, you need the troughs to measure the peaks. Though I think it is possible to reach a peaceful, stressfree disposition with an open mind and the right attitude. Even then, depression can strike without warning. We just need to accept that no one ever said it was going to be easy, stay positive and appreciate the free ride.
 

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I didn't bother reading it, but seriously, I've been so bummed out lately. How do you stay happy?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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to quote a line from Blow... "when you're up, it's never as good as you think it will be, and when you're down you think you'll never be up again." Basically, don't take things for granted. Good times come and good times go. Learn to take everything with a grain of salt, and try your best to keep an even keel.
 
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