"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Happiness is the best innergame tactic

Doggystyle

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I believe that your confidence and personality flows from your happiness inside, sure you can force an outgoing happy personality get good results and thus make you happy on the inside, but this is reliant on external factors.

If you can make your self happy on the inside then you should be happy no matter what happens, thus external factors do not effect your internal state giving you confidence as you know whatever the outcome then you will still be going away happy. Some people rely on outcome of the event to effect there happiness, and if that goes badly then it makes them worse. That’s why people fear rejection so much as it will effect there internal state so dramatically. Kind of like kicking you when your down.

If you try to mask your internal state, I.e. fake it till you make it, then it will be quite easy for the person to see what’s going on underneath ….unless you are a damn fine actor, and this could be the reason that people don’t get the results they should for the effort they put in.

I think that being happy on the inside is that ultimate inner game tactics, forget trying to be the man or alpha male and just focus on making your self happy on the inside, everything else will flow from that and make you more desirable. Being happy on the inside will affect you externally a lot without you even trying, you voice will sound better and louder, you will carry yourself better, smile more, your wit will be sharper and faster, you will find your self naturally kinoing people more, you won’t care what they think of you as no matter happens you will remain happy, people are more drawn towards you and you are drawn to more people, its easier to listen to people and have conversations with them.

How to get in a happy state? I find doing regular cardio helps a lot, I used to avoid cardio because of weight lifting (this is a separate issue), but I find its makes me feel so good for days afterwards that’s its definitely worth doing. Get plenty of sleep and eat well….just generally looking after yourself should work.

Check out the post below “How To Be Happy” by The Writer for more ideas

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16775

Of course you don’t want to be so happy that you simply don’t care about anything, if you can make your self happy sitting in your room rocking back and forth all day then great! But don’t do it, get out there and project your happiness on other people and always have that drive to be successful in whatever you do, being happy before you take action will make that road to success a lot easier, don’t rely on success to make you happy.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Jariel

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Spot on! This is absolutely essential thinking and your happiness (or contentment) should be your primary goal.

I can add that during all my successful dates and relationships I was in a fun and laidback state of mind, and our time together was enjoyable. I can look back and smile at these experiences. The unsuccessful ones were strained, awkward and I was in a stressed out state of mind.

Good post!
 

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Not enough can be said about the importance of confidence and personality. :up:
 

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I read somewhere the other day that: MEN ARE THE SHORELINE, ROCKS AND WOMEN ARE THE SEA, FOREVER TURBULENT. THE ROCKS PREVENT THE SEA FROM CRASHING ONTO THE LAND ALLOWING THE SEA TO DO IT'S THING UNHINDERED. Let them be emotional, just make sure you are firm and in control, a natural by-product of being centred and happy in yourself. True temperance is not allowing anything external to affect you internally. Once you are affected internally it shows itself externally and therefore affecting how to come across to others. As PlasticSurgeon said above "stability in mood" is crucial and he's right. Be a rock.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Freddy1

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Yeah HAPPINESS is where it all starts. You have to have that within yourself or the rest of the stuff is going to be futile.

When you are Happy and content with yourself (to a degree at least) women will notice that.
 
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