Doggystyle
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I believe that your confidence and personality flows from your happiness inside, sure you can force an outgoing happy personality get good results and thus make you happy on the inside, but this is reliant on external factors.
If you can make your self happy on the inside then you should be happy no matter what happens, thus external factors do not effect your internal state giving you confidence as you know whatever the outcome then you will still be going away happy. Some people rely on outcome of the event to effect there happiness, and if that goes badly then it makes them worse. That’s why people fear rejection so much as it will effect there internal state so dramatically. Kind of like kicking you when your down.
If you try to mask your internal state, I.e. fake it till you make it, then it will be quite easy for the person to see what’s going on underneath ….unless you are a damn fine actor, and this could be the reason that people don’t get the results they should for the effort they put in.
I think that being happy on the inside is that ultimate inner game tactics, forget trying to be the man or alpha male and just focus on making your self happy on the inside, everything else will flow from that and make you more desirable. Being happy on the inside will affect you externally a lot without you even trying, you voice will sound better and louder, you will carry yourself better, smile more, your wit will be sharper and faster, you will find your self naturally kinoing people more, you won’t care what they think of you as no matter happens you will remain happy, people are more drawn towards you and you are drawn to more people, its easier to listen to people and have conversations with them.
How to get in a happy state? I find doing regular cardio helps a lot, I used to avoid cardio because of weight lifting (this is a separate issue), but I find its makes me feel so good for days afterwards that’s its definitely worth doing. Get plenty of sleep and eat well….just generally looking after yourself should work.
Check out the post below “How To Be Happy” by The Writer for more ideas
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16775
Of course you don’t want to be so happy that you simply don’t care about anything, if you can make your self happy sitting in your room rocking back and forth all day then great! But don’t do it, get out there and project your happiness on other people and always have that drive to be successful in whatever you do, being happy before you take action will make that road to success a lot easier, don’t rely on success to make you happy.
If you can make your self happy on the inside then you should be happy no matter what happens, thus external factors do not effect your internal state giving you confidence as you know whatever the outcome then you will still be going away happy. Some people rely on outcome of the event to effect there happiness, and if that goes badly then it makes them worse. That’s why people fear rejection so much as it will effect there internal state so dramatically. Kind of like kicking you when your down.
If you try to mask your internal state, I.e. fake it till you make it, then it will be quite easy for the person to see what’s going on underneath ….unless you are a damn fine actor, and this could be the reason that people don’t get the results they should for the effort they put in.
I think that being happy on the inside is that ultimate inner game tactics, forget trying to be the man or alpha male and just focus on making your self happy on the inside, everything else will flow from that and make you more desirable. Being happy on the inside will affect you externally a lot without you even trying, you voice will sound better and louder, you will carry yourself better, smile more, your wit will be sharper and faster, you will find your self naturally kinoing people more, you won’t care what they think of you as no matter happens you will remain happy, people are more drawn towards you and you are drawn to more people, its easier to listen to people and have conversations with them.
How to get in a happy state? I find doing regular cardio helps a lot, I used to avoid cardio because of weight lifting (this is a separate issue), but I find its makes me feel so good for days afterwards that’s its definitely worth doing. Get plenty of sleep and eat well….just generally looking after yourself should work.
Check out the post below “How To Be Happy” by The Writer for more ideas
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16775
Of course you don’t want to be so happy that you simply don’t care about anything, if you can make your self happy sitting in your room rocking back and forth all day then great! But don’t do it, get out there and project your happiness on other people and always have that drive to be successful in whatever you do, being happy before you take action will make that road to success a lot easier, don’t rely on success to make you happy.
