Happiness attracts girls

[GeoMan]

True or false? Just being happy and outgoing attracts females towards you?

 

[Jetleg]

No, it doesnt attract women, but it is an attractive trait, because its usually means you're suceesful (got enough money, have a good job, can handle problems easily etc). Its defintly more attracting than being sad.

The thing you mean is probably confidence, not hapiness

 

[mrgoodstuff]

No, it doesnt attract women, but it is an attractive trait, because its usually means you're suceesful (got enough money, have a good job, can handle problems easily etc). Its defintly more attracting than being sad.

The thing you mean is probably confidence, not hapiness

I think they mean both. You can have confidence but be in a normally angered state or perhaps you have a "lack" in your life whether money, opportunities, etc...

It will be more attractive to be confident AND have a good life where you don't have a lack, and you are generally actually happy because you are living so well.

They will want a piece of this too especially if they don't have it on their own.

 

[fastlife]

The keyword here is outgoing--of course that's going to increase your opportunities to meet a woman who's attracted to you. And being happy will allow more people into your life, some of whom will be women that may or may not be attracted to you.

But as far as innate attraction, I don't think happiness matters at all--as long as you don't burden other people with your negative emotions. I'm more of the dark, brooding, quiet type; no issues here, still have to approach, but I let the girl invest in my world if they want any meaningful access; and keep them working for those moments when I am happy--and there's something to be said for that as far as frame control and intermittent reward. Plus I don't have to put in effort to keep up my state or keep them entertained. If you're the 'happy' guy how is she going to react when you hit a rough patch? How do you maintain congruence in that kind of situation?

 

[gravityeyelids]

If you're going to walk around disillusioned and mopey all day you had better be a hell of an artist or musician

 

[Yewki]

Happiness is probably more attractive than sadness in general. So a happy person, all else being equal, will probably be more attractive. But all else is certainly not equal. It's not nearly that simple. There's plenty of sad people who have attractive personalities, and happy people who are just the opposite. Other factors have to be considered. Some people here have brought up confidence. That is definitely a big one to consider.

 

[OlympicTim]

If you're actually happy you won't be worried if its attracting girls

 

[Yewki]

If you're actually happy you won't be worried if its attracting girls

Exactly.

Ask yourself this. Would you rather be happy and unattractive, or unhappy and attractive?

If you answered unhappy and attractive, you probably... aren't very smart.

Just sayin.

 

[nismo-4]

Happiness attracts women as long as they've got an interest in you.

Hell, everything attracts women as long as they have an interest in you!

 

[Serenity]

Happiness is a result of how you're doing. If you're doing good then you'll feel good and act good. That's the real test here from women, to determine wether you're mostly like that or they just happen to catch you on a good day. That's the congruency test. You could have a brief period of happiness and women may become attracted to that in the belief you do good things, that's what they're really after. However if you sink back down in a short time as your reality comes smashing down they leave, because the truth about you would be that you don't have it as good as you acted.

So sure, happiness attracts them, that's not the hard part. You'll attract them and then eventually lose them. The real challenge is to create and sustain happiness for yourself, because that will keep them attracted forever. You won't be happy just out of nothing and so you will not attract women out of nothing. Happiness comes from work towards being happy and being attractive is a result of it.

Basically it means if you put your time and energy into making yourself happy you'll attract women.

 

[El Payaso]

If you're actually happy you won't be worried if its attracting girls

So spot on. I don't even need to say more.

 

[RangerMIke]

Men who know what they want, who believe in themselves, and have the will to go after it an stick to it are attractive to women.

Men who are happy, good looking, and rich have certain advantages, and long as you are authentically one or more of those is a definite plus, but none of that really matters if you can not use those traits to improve your sociability. A good looking rich guy will eventually fail with women, if the guys is a @ss and no one likes him. A man that has lots of friends and people who like and respect him will always win out.... happy does not always mean that.

A really happy guy that loves his life watching porn and playing Xbox is not going to be attractive to women.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Study up on the concept of "emotional contagion". Happiness is a huge advantage with initial attraction because she will feel what you feel.