Happiness and being a DJ

[MinusoneAFC]

Okay here are my issues. I was brought to this site because of a b$tch like most. Well the system and this site brought me to lots of new girlfriends and I dated one serious off/on for about 3 years (I kept breaking up with her), thought she was the one).

Well here are my issues:
Why can't I be myself
I get tired of having to read DJ and the system over and over. Why can't I just get this Sh@t and not have to keep rereading it.
I know that the DJ works and in someways it scares me how well it works (when I use it I sometimes feel like i am being unathentic or not me). Also when I practied my friends and family thought I was kind of a ****. The reality is a I am a good guy and that is what I want to be.
I guess what I am struggling with is pulling down a bunch of numbers and dating mutliple chicks is no longer fullfilling and just wondering what I can do to fix it.

 

[ElChoclo]

There is a tendency for human beings to over rate themselves. Everyone for example thinks that they are good drivers. The idea of taking driving instruction would prove irksome.

You should ask yourself what being yourself means. Do you think that you innately know how to engage in social rituals. No you don't. It is learnt. Your concept of being yourself is false. You are, whatever you have learnt to be from society. If you want to just accept that, OK. But remember that inertia is a powerful force in human behaviour.

Your problem therefore, is not too different to the problem which the reluctant individual faces in other situations. Maybe Tiger Woods could have just been himself and said " I can't be bothered hitting all these balls every day", I'll just keep slicing and hooking (which I do naturally)." Sure, just be yourself, if you want to , but look where that has gotten you in the past. Think in terms of goals.

 

[MinusoneAFC]

Thanks for your post

I realized something over the last couple of days. I just realized I gave myself a self-imposed early mid-life crisis. That I was 30 years old, told myself a story that I was getting old and that I should be married, Time was running out, LOL, wow....I have to laugh as I write this.

I guess now I am getting clearer about how I want my new lifestyle to be. I have shagged many girls over my time and when I found doc's system and this site my sex life was tripled, (not to brag but has sex with 2 different girls on same day). Now sure my ego was high but I just wasn't fullfilled. I realized something now that I put all my hapiness in the pursuit woman and not the pursuit of what I enjoyed and my own happiness. I guess now just want to write a new plan and new script for the life that I want to live.



Thanks all.