"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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hanging out with girls and going on dates feels like a hassle

garruk

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im supposed to hit up happy hour with this chick later whose a good friend of mine. somehow it feels like a hassle and i ve realized that sometimes i dont call girls for dates or to hang out because it just feels like a hassle to me.


anyone else feel like this? and how can i resolve this?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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ARrocket

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If you're horny enough, you'll find it worthwhile. So make that happen.

I've noticed that when I don't jerk off for awhile, I just really wanna bone some girls. So, I make the extra effort.

The other aspect of this is the actual "going out" part. Which is why if you have several plates, you could always make one of them come to you for some fun.

But of course, you'll only do that if you feel the sexual desire for them.
 

Borknagar

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Yeah unless you're gonna get laid or a bj it seems that way to me as well. during the week I don't bother with it unless they happen to be in the same place I am. It is a hassle though which is why if I'm out on the weekend I just go for SNLs and thats it, cause I don't see too many women being worth much else to be honest.
 

Vanilla

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You haven't found the right person you care about. I'm the same way, it's just low interest.
 

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garruk said:
im supposed to hit up happy hour with this chick later whose a good friend of mine. somehow it feels like a hassle and i ve realized that sometimes i dont call girls for dates or to hang out because it just feels like a hassle to me.


anyone else feel like this? and how can i resolve this?
In my experience predictable dates suck. predictable = you know whats gonna happen. You will sit&talk and then maybe a goodbye kiss. That is a waste of time, and it feels like a hassle ...yes.

I dont know what you mean by "good friend" but i cant imagine a date with a good-friend-girl(where we already dont view each other as fvck-material), ...except if i want an LTR.

...and dont jerk off.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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horaholic

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maybe you shouldnt be so predictable yourself?
 

JustLurk

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Ideally, the date should be something fun and exciting. Ideally, the chick should not feel like a hassle.. If you don't want to date, don't date, lol.
Try to aim less for going on dates if they feel like a hassle or try to do something more fun on dates.
 
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