hanging out with girl that has a bf

[crazyquicks]

I met this girl at work about a month ago and I never talked to her until i asked her how old she was and told me 20, I was thinking she was a lot younger. So after that we kinda just exchanged numbers and decided to hang out(she doesnt work w/me anymore). She wasnt with her bf at this point they had an argument and broke up for a week maybe. So we make plans to hang out and she mentions that she is back with her bf but he wont ever know

Fast forwarding ahead, we hung out about 3-4 times now and we def flirt a lot and theres lots of kino initiated by both of us. Now shes told me a bunch of times how im one in a million, how any girl would be lucky to have me and that I give her butterflies. Hell she even insists to pay every other time we go out! last week she was saying to me how shes interested in me and last night she sent me a text saying how she would be with me if it wasn't for her bf now.

Her relationship with her bf is very rocky. They actually just broke up again the other night but got back together. She has def hinted to me before that she wants to leave him for good but im just thinkin she doesnt want to be by herself since im leaving for school and will be 6hrs away. The thing is, is that she knows im a better man then him but she is attached to him for some reason. She keeps telling me she doesnt want to lead me on and i believe her but im just wondering if i should keep talking to this girl while im away at school? Something is honestly telling me i should because we have a crazy connection and she is always involving me in her future plans. So I just wanna know what you guys would do in this situation.

 

[backbreaker]

Now shes told me a bunch of times how im one in a million and how any girl would be lucky to have me

live and learn. women who actually think you are a one in a million don't waste time teling you that youa re one in a million.. they do anything in thier power to take you off the market.... becuase you are one in a million.

No, what she's doing is playing her cards. she's telling you what you want to hear. she knows you like her. she knows you want to get in her pants and probably date her. but she isn't attracted to you like she is her EX.. or else she wouldnt' be dating him, she'd be dating you. it's quite simple actually. people date who they are attracted to.

Hell she even insists to pay every other time we go out! last week she was saying to me how shes interested in me and last night she sent me a text saying how she would be with me if it wasn't for her bf now.

again, you win with action, never with words.

Her relationship with her bf is very rocky.

aren't they all

what woman EVER says "you know what..... damn.. this relationship is the ****!" But you are my surrgate BF and if I told you that you might actually grow some balls and walk away, and we can't have that happen.

The thing is, is that she knows im a better man then him but she is attached to him for some reason

lol, this is becoming pretty fuuny. SHE'S ATTACHED TO HIM BECAUSE SHE HAS NO BETTER OPTIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


READ THE WRITING ON THE WALL. If brad pitt walked in her life right now, you think she would be that damn drawn to her BF?

I remember my last REAL GF... when i met her she was dating someone for 6 years.. then the last 6 months, excactly how you described this relationship above.. off and on.. the guy had my EX because she basically had no better long term options. Then one day she just stopped calling him and didn't want to see him. she met me. and I laid it down.. that **** wasn't taking place. him or me... (and i was still seeing other women.. i know) and she didn't think twice.

women who really are in to you aren't Torn. Women who are attracted to you can't wait to take you off the market, or even better... there is no barginging sex when there is real attraction. 4/5 first dates I go on end up in sex. And I usually don't even have to push it. It's them having to keep up with the compitition.

Something is honestly telling me i should because we have a crazy connection and she is always involving me in her future plans

you need to move your pusssy whipped ass on. you haven't even ****ed this girl and you are harping on some "crazy connection" that you have.


LEAVE. GROW UP. MEET OTHER WOMEN. LEARN TO PLAY THE GAME.

right now you are a pawn in this woman's life. that's not a situtation that is very promising.

the point of this forum, the point of it all, is to have REAL options. women you can call up and have dates/sex/relationships with. if you laid the law to this woman she would laugh and leave. you aren't a real option. she doesn't even look at you in a sexual manner. you might be good looking, but that has little if anything to do with it.


What you need to do is move on, and go to school and forget about this chick. she has more experience dating and is playing you bad. and study this forum

 

[RogueWarrior]

Okay, backbreaker, here's a challenge for you and anyone on here who has reached Master DJ status: How would you game this girl? The fate of the free world rests on whether or not you can score with THIS girl. Grab your sword, your spear, and all your armor. Are you up for it?

 

[DJDamage]

She wasnt with her bf at this point they had an argument and broke up for a week maybe. So we make plans to hang out and she mentions that she is back with her bf but he wont ever know .

This statment does not warrant thumbs up but thumbs down! You ain't fvcking her so what is the big secret to keep away from her boyfriend???!! there is none! This chick is stringing you along for the ride.

Now shes told me a bunch of times how im one in a million, how any girl would be lucky to have me and that I give her butterflies. Hell she even insists to pay every other time we go out! last week she was saying to me how shes interested in me and last night she sent me a text saying how she would be with me if it wasn't for her bf now..

LOL she is stringing you along! she is toying with you buddy. When a woman says you are one in the million and you haven't fvcked her yet, you are in deep friendzone trouble! Don't pay attention to what women say but pay attention ot what women do! by making excuses she won't go for you because of her BF she is controlling the frame and making you believe there is hope. In actuality you are being used as validation and attention for her being attractive.

Her relationship with her bf is very rocky.

Rocky means it fills with drama and many chicks love drama. He is probably a jerk that knows how to push her buttons and he is in better position then you are.

The thing is, is that she knows im a better man then him but she is attached to him for some reason. She keeps telling me she doesnt want to lead me on and i believe her but im just wondering if i should keep talking to this girl while im away at school? Something is honestly telling me i should because we have a crazy connection and she is always involving me in her future plans. So I just wanna know what you guys would do in this situation.

There is a difference between knowing you are a better man and being attracted to that man. There is no crazy connection between you too! you are just projecting your own feelings towards her.

I suggest that you start reading the DJ Bible because thus far you seem clueless about women and the reasons they are doing what they are doing. This girl has you wrapped around her finger so tightly and you don't even know it.

 

[lYlasTer]

she's having an emotional affair with you, move on

 

[Themanthatcan]

If you flirt as much with her as you say you do, then -maybe- she considers you an option. The reason she's not leaving her BF is you haven't attracted her enough to feel the need to do so.

On the other side of the spectrum, when things get rocky with her BF, she might be using you for an ego boost and self validation.

Things to ask yourself:
Does she tell you all her problems?
Does she ever seek emotional comfort from you?
Is she REALLY flirting with you or are you seeing it for something it's not?

Either way I would just forget her and move on to the next girl.

TMTC

 

[Someone Much cooler]

let her call you and stop making effort. Honestly if she wants to chill on her dime i would be with it. If she wants to spend gas $$$ I'm with it, but if i would have to do anything other than put on clothes and walk out my door (she would have to pick me up) then I wouldn't be wit it. honestly mack some other girls and see what she does....she ain't your man find another one.

 

[CF9]

Okay, backbreaker, here's a challenge for you and anyone on here who has reached Master DJ status: How would you game this girl? The fate of the free world rests on whether or not you can score with THIS girl. Grab your sword, your spear, and all your armor. Are you up for it?

Why would you want to game this girl? Just to seek some sort of empty validation? She's not truly interested...get over it. Locking onto one target--a marginal one at that--is a waste of time. If you want a challenge, climb El Capitan. At least then you would have accomplished something worth talking about. Bagging a woman is a dime a dozen experience..

 

[backbreaker]

Why would you want to game this girl? Just to seek some sort of empty validation? She's not truly interested...get over it. Locking onto one target--a marginal one at that--is a waste of time. If you want a challenge, climb El Capitan. At least then you would have accomplished something worth talking about. Bagging a woman is a dime a dozen experience..

exactly... how would I? I wouldn't.

I am not interested in building intrest in women.


if I walk in a club, and there are 10 girls who are hot, and are giving me clear "go" signs.. why focus on the one who isn't? **** her! no hard feelings but there are too many girls that meet my criteria (i.e wanting me) to focus on this chick.

and here is the mistake men make.... alot of them

when you do decide to move on, she will come back... and you being the dumbass you are will start right back from square one because it's "different" ... and when you show interest again, she's back doing what she does best.


it's a hamster in one of thoose exercise thingys... there is no end, so end it.

all she wants is for her to know she can have you. that's her winning ticket. when you give it to her, the game's over.


you dotn' win by holding out attention.. you win by finding girls that want to fvck you and moving on!

 

[Someone Much cooler]

*chimes in over backbreakers should*...and let her trick on you...I'm not manipulative but hey a fool and her $$$ ought part.

I would get her to pay me for her sessions validations. When she wanted to chill I would let her pay. I would tell her that i chill wit cause you cause your cool and a great person, and then i would inquire of her homegirls. If she ever got mad at her BF, I would suggest her slobbin my knob, like corn on the cob as a means of revenge. When she got sick of it I would spaz and black on her, switch the tables, and accuse her of using me as her emotional tampon and dip out. (make sure you have an alternative ride/way home)
if you look at it you have the ulitmate control over her...if your not into childish games then ditch her and move on.

 

[christz]

can i just say, while this case seems lost not all cases of friendszone are lost... and only because of the time frame of this dude knowing this girl. i honestly think she's just validateing herself as others have said.

but i've intentionally put girls in the friendzone or vise versa because i want to have a bullpen full of women i can pick from. any girl that has been a friend of mine save a few i've flirted openly with on a daily basis hell one friend i've pulled out of the bullpen we were play flirting and she told me she wasn't wearing a bra. so i just gave the twins a squeeze or two.. or three haha and she laughed and loved it..

and by all respects WE ARE FRIENDS.. so don't be so fast to just shoot down friendszone.. its not as bad as people make it seem.

and to the guy that challenged people on how to game this girl? simple be sexual.. be the agressor walk out on her.. show her she don't matter, you got other options let me tell you a few quick short witted exits without so much of a word.. and she'll be clamoreing over you.. IF she ever actually gave a shyt