"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

hanging out with friends for the first time

suaveplayer

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 2, 2008
Messages
178
Reaction score
1
hey, the summer is here. i have made a lot of new friends this year, but they are outside my "clique". i want to hang out with them, make new friends, and just have a good time. how do i invite people who may not know my friends or who i am hanging out with for the first time. wont it be awkard for them and me?

also, what are some suggestions for some fun things to do with friends in the summer?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

ecilop

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 18, 2008
Messages
41
Reaction score
0
find something fun & chill to do that you're both super comfortable with and it'll be tight
 

metalfan20

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 10, 2008
Messages
16
Reaction score
1
forget cliques it may take you a while to realize it but it's of no consequence. just have fun go to the beach, the mall, or if you lfe in some hick town thats totally land locked or is nowhere near soceity then go cow tipping. Go over to some ones house prank call a couple of people or something.
 

suaveplayer

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 2, 2008
Messages
178
Reaction score
1
yea i guess im just sorta afraid cuz these ppl are of different cliques. im scared that they'll just be like wtf. but i guess i just gotta treat it like approcaching girls the DJ way huh

any personal experiences? breaking clique boundaries?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

Northern Lights

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 19, 2007
Messages
11
Reaction score
1
suaveplayer said:
yea i guess im just sorta afraid cuz these ppl are of different cliques. im scared that they'll just be like wtf. but i guess i just gotta treat it like approcaching girls the DJ way huh

any personal experiences? breaking clique boundaries?
As a guy who has a million different friends all I have to say is just do it, invite them over to chill. Go out and have a few beers pr w/e. Meeting new people is just like Nike, just do it
 

Teh_Wolf

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 20, 2008
Messages
99
Reaction score
1
Yeah man just hang out with them, have a bbq in the backyard with volleyball or something (assuming you have space to set up). Dont even see cliques, dont acknowledge them
 

suaveplayer

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 2, 2008
Messages
178
Reaction score
1
hey guys i just had a very positive experience with this at the dance (not the same thing, but still kinda applies).

so i was hanging around my normal "clique" and then i saw a pretty cool guy that i knew, and i went to dance with him, and he would lead me to more ppl. basically i did that the whole night: i hung out with my buddies in other cliques and they helped me to get exposed to other new people. it was awesome. i think i should apply this to real life.
 

suaveplayer

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 2, 2008
Messages
178
Reaction score
1
ok guys lets brainstorm some fun and easy ways to hangout:

movie night
dance party

come on guys lets make this list long!
 
Top