"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hanging Out With a Female Friend? Should I Tell my Girlfriend?

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So tonight I'm going to the movies with a good friend of mine, probably one of my best friends. We've hooked up before, we had a thing going over the summer and I really liked her. And I started dating my current girlfriend, and things have been going pretty good, it's almost 3 months now. The thing is, I kissed this friend of mine about a week into my current relationship. I was drunk and probably still had a thing for my friend and stuff, but everything with my girlfriend is good now. However, she gets upset when I mention this friend of mine or when she talks to me, sends me a comment on facebook, or something along the lines. I haven't hung out with my friend since the incident because I wanted to keep my current relationship going, so me and my friend are finally hanging out tonight.
Now I was wondering, should I tell my girlfriend and tell her I just wanted to tell her and reassure her that nothing will happen and we're just hanging out. Or should I just not say anything or wait till she asks or what?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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foomee said:
So tonight I'm going to the movies with a good friend of mine, probably one of my best friends. We've hooked up before, we had a thing going over the summer and I really liked her. And I started dating my current girlfriend, and things have been going pretty good, it's almost 3 months now. The thing is, I kissed this friend of mine about a week into my current relationship. I was drunk and probably still had a thing for my friend and stuff, but everything with my girlfriend is good now. However, she gets upset when I mention this friend of mine or when she talks to me, sends me a comment on facebook, or something along the lines. I haven't hung out with my friend since the incident because I wanted to keep my current relationship going, so me and my friend are finally hanging out tonight.
Now I was wondering, should I tell my girlfriend and tell her I just wanted to tell her and reassure her that nothing will happen and we're just hanging out. Or should I just not say anything or wait till she asks or what?
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Make sure you tell your gf EVERYTHING. Honesty is the only way to go. If she finds out by herself, you are in trouble.
 
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Tell her.
You can in no way ask for dislcosure from her if you dont give her disclosure.
 
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I told her and now she's mad at me and won't answer my phone calls.... :/
I talked to my sister about it and she said I should think about how my girlfriend feels and look at the situation since it's just us two going to the movies. She said it sounds like a date, but to me it doesn't...I go to the movies with my friends one on one all the time. Anyhow, any advice? Should I just cancel everything or find something else to do?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yeah it's best to be honest. My girlfriend has GUY friends like you do girl friends. Sometimes it annoys me but, she's honest with me about them and I trust her. (so far)

Also, I just read that your girlfriend is mad with you. You need to talk to her and tell her the other girl is only a friend and nothing more. Why don't you invite her to go with you? I'd be kinda mad if my girl friend wanted to go out to the movies with some guy friend and not inviting me or telling me.
 
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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Also, I just read that your girlfriend is mad with you. You need to talk to her and tell her the other girl is only a friend and nothing more. Why don't you invite her to go with you? I'd be kinda mad if my girl friend wanted to go out to the movies with some guy friend and not inviting me or telling me.
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Yeah... but they are NOT just friends. didn't you read the part where they had sex in the past, and kissed while he was in a relationship? that is more than a friend.
 
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I'd be kinda mad if my girl friend wanted to go out to the movies with some guy friend and not inviting me or telling me.
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^ yep. i've gotten cheated on in afc days when a similar scenario took place. i'm not saying i don't trust you, but if you look at it from her point of view, she does have a reason to not trust you. i mean, it's not like you and the other girl are completely plutonic friends (considering the "thing going over the summer") no matter how much you wanna believe you are. If i were you i'd cancel the whole thing (with intent to try again later on) and then just see if it blows over. obviously, though, there's a line there. your gf shouldn't be allowed to dictate every aspect of your life, but you have to find a comfortable balance.
 
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I agree with Iqqi gentlemen. She is not your friend, if anyone still has feelings for each other, then you are not true friends. There cannot be ulterior motives in a friendship. Think of same sex friendships that you have, there is no feelings of really wanting to sex them up (is there?).

I have a similar situation going on right now with a completely different outcome.

My girlfriend and I have been going out for over half a year, but I have a friend (actually one of my best female friends) that I have made out with and fooled around with in the past, but since has been friends'ed. We are now just friends, she is in a LTR of over a year.

She was telling me about how her roommate is leaving at the end of the upcoming semester and that she is looking for a roommate (someone that is a good friend).

I asked her if it would be alright if I could move in with her next school year. She agreed.

I told my girlfriend everything that transpired that day, when i saw my girlfriend later on. She thought that it was AWESOME because my friend and I are really good friends AND my girlfriend could cook real food for all three of us (food bill split three ways :cool: ).

Actually everyone that heard it was asking how my girlfriend dealt with it. She was great with it and cannot wait.

The differences in our relationship is that:
1.) I didn't makeout with her in my relationship
2.) I told my girlfriend about it as soon as it was happening.
3.) She is in a LTR as well as I am.
4.) We are 99% sure that neither of us would cheat.

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