hanging around with popular kids

[Humble Young Man]

I've definately improved my mindset and my actions and I no longer act like a nerd anymore but rather a relatively cool guy and outgoing.

But here is the problem: Everybody in the school sorta knows me but I rarely talk to the popular kids, yea, because I'm sorta intimidated by them.

Right now my friend group is a bunch of people who are averagely known but unpopular. I would like to hang around with the popular kids in my grade but it seems like I have no opportunity to talk to them; eg, I don't have same classes with them ironically.

If I just walk up and talk to them I would look random and weird...

Is there any approach to talking to the popular kids? I really wanna get close to them because all popular kids hang around with other popular kids.

 

[Five To One]

You need to befriend one of them. That will be your ticket in.

You wont be able to just jump in their group and be well accepted. You need to be approved by one so he can give the "your a-okay" to his buddies.

 

[Bonafide]

What are you intimidated by? They are nothing. They are humans just like me and you.

 

[Relationship-Buddy]

The guy above is right: make friends with one and start your own chain reaction.

 

[PhunGar]

yea as above use one to get in
if you just jump in to try fit in you will be excluded
happened at my school this kid just wanted to be a part of the popular group and tried hanging with them, they ended up hating him

 

[=Nathan=]

Popular Kids are usally in dumb classes.

 

[Cashew]

When I was still in school I remember befriending one of the popular kids. Then I remember overhearing him talking to the other popular kids "Hey, Cashew is actually pretty cool...."

From then on I was in and was able to move up the rest of the way on my own.

Befriend one from outside of the group, and when you've got him, you're in.

 

[Humble Young Man]

Yes I am friends with one of the populars (we played table tennis together once) but how am I suppose to befriend other popular kids? It looks weird if I just step in to them and have convos right?

I've got him, but how can I be in cashew?

 

[It's-Me]

Yes I am friends with one of the populars (we played table tennis together once) but how am I suppose to befriend other popular kids? It looks weird if I just step in to them and have convos right?

I've got him, but how can I be in cashew?

How does it look weird? Your just trying to make some friends - how else are you going to do it?

 

[Fluid]

Run game on the popular friends, I was in as soon as the heavy kino started

 

[cky]

Run game on the popular friends, I was in as soon as the heavy kino started

Sure you wanna do that if the friends are dudes?

 

[Fluid]

Sure you wanna do that if the friends are dudes?

yep, Game works on everyone, of course your not going to be sleeping with the friends, but you can still use some of the thing game teaches to meet other people.

ie. 3 Second rule, indirect opener, and all that bs, just dont go into kino, and fvck closing and you should be fine

 

[roel88]

Why do you feel intimidated, insecure?They are just as normal as you. Just be yourself and you'll be fine.

 

[cky]

yep, Game works on everyone, of course your not going to be sleeping with the friends, but you can still use some of the thing game teaches to meet other people.

ie. 3 Second rule, indirect opener, and all that bs, just dont go into kino, and fvck closing and you should be fine

Just said this cause you said you got in as soon as the heavy kino started. Figured using kino on guys wouldn't exactly work out. I get your point, however, just messing with you.

 

[Adam B]

Why do you want to be friends with the "popular" kids so badly? They're often times the lamest, most boring, most insecure bunch in the entire school.

You can be "cool" without selling out and compromising yourself.

 

[Furnezz]

I don't get it, why's hanging with the popular people so important? I thought being a DJ was about doing whatever makes you happy, and if you have to rely on gettign a specific group's approval to be happy ...then that seems wrong. You can't really just base your personality on who you hang out with (although unfortunately high school is all based on who you hang with- but fvck that, I'm not gonna hang out with lameass people just so I can get some poon). Just be confident and outgoing and [hopefully] the chicks will come to you.

 

[search1ng]

screw hanging with the popular kids, do your thing and be the Don Juan. They'll be the ones to flock to you. Be the leader not the follower

 

[Fluid]

in all honesty, ull realize this after high skool, your friends define who you are, and they like and love you for who you are. Ditching them for "popular" friends is a slap in the face

 

[Humble Young Man]

in all honesty, ull realize this after high skool, your friends define who you are, and they like and love you for who you are. Ditching them for "popular" friends is a slap in the face

yea that hit me... I realize that the most popular kid in my grade is immature and stupid.

 

[Pdizzzzzzle]

ah, the good old problem that plagues most of us before we come here. We'll I'm gonna lt you in on a little secret. I was in the same situation as you not long ago. I spent my fridays and Saturdays sitting at home playing xbox live. Spent the weekdays and sunday studying for all of my advanced courses. I wanted to be popular but, was intimidated. No, I felt more of an anger against them for making fun of me, taking all the girls etc.

Then I found this site.

Over time I've learned, improve YOURSELF, do not throw away your identity for a new one that will ultimately fail. You said you made new friends. THATS GREAT! Get to know more people, the more your friendly with the more popular you wil be.As for fitting in with the actual popular kids. Just act as if your cooler than them, and your doing them a favor by letting them hang wit you. Have them over to chill if you want, but dont act like their dog. You got to make it look like the populars could benefit from you if you want them to pay any attention.

Now as you think it is very important to be popular. Girls pay a lot more attention to guys who have great personalities. Work on that first.