"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Hanging around other DJ's

Hockey Playa

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I am moving into a house with 4 males, 2 of which i consider better DJ's and more alpha than myself. Im not belittling me own game, im way above average looks and game, but these guys are still above. I am wondering if this experience is a good idea....... When i bring ladies back, will they compare me to them??, and look at me less??Will they try and DJ my girls? or will this experience improve my game even more from hanging around them, and raise me to an even higher social level what do u think?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hockey Playa said:
I am moving into a house with 4 males, 2 of which i consider better DJ's and more alpha than myself. Im not belittling me own game, im way above average looks and game, but these guys are still above. I am wondering if this experience is a good idea....... When i bring ladies back, will they compare me to them??, and look at me less??Will they try and DJ my girls? or will this experience improve my game even more from hanging around them, and raise me to an even higher social level what do u think?
DJ?

Look man, having guys around that are better in life is a GOOD thing, shame most people get jealous of other people and get RESENTFUL.

You should make an effort to be mates with SUCCESSFUL people as they can only help you GROW and there mind frame is projected towards you.

Having jealousy and insecurity illustrates your more concerned about being outclassed, you cant go on through life that way.

think about what you wrote and i mean really think about it, from the girls perspective, from the guys perspective and from your perspective.
 

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jonwon said:
DJ?

Look man, having guys around that are better in life is a GOOD thing, shame most people get jealous of other people and get RESENTFUL.

You should make an effort to be mates with SUCCESSFUL people as they can only help you GROW and there mind frame is projected towards you.

Having jealousy and insecurity illustrates your more concerned about being outclassed, you cant go on through life that way.

think about what you wrote and i mean really think about it, from the girls perspective, from the guys perspective and from your perspective.
:up:

When you're around successful people, you naturally take things from them. When you're around people less successful than yourself, you usually settle for the least.
 

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As aforementioned by my fellow DJ's, its a great thing to be surrounded by other DJ's / alpha males. I spent a year and a half living with an alpha male. It was a great power struggle, I loved every minute of it.

We had very different backgrounds but at that point in time, we had the same goals. He was a natural, both male and females looked up to him. I was more of the smart charismatic type. However, in large part to spending so much time with him, I had to elevate my game around him. It was the best thing that could ever happen to me.

These DJ's won't stand for AFC behaviour around them and you'll quickly learn to swim or sink. Use it to your advantage. Never show weakness either. They'll know they are better than you but if they are true alphas, they won't rub it in your face. They'll simply worry about their game and not want you to bring them down.
 

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I'd love to have the chance to be around other DJs that are naturals and better than me.

Some of my friends are Alpha, but they all suck when it comes to women.

One guy, he got me into this.

Man do i owe him alot. Spending about 3-4 months with him, i came from AFC to way above average, and well on my way to true DJism.

3 months ago, i couldn't stand the thought of approaching women.
Now, i do it all the time, 3 months later, i have started a 100 approaches challenge.

When i think about it, 100 is more than any AFC will do in a lifetime!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The prob won't be them stealing...

You will be massively socially proofed. Just as long as you guys agree to keep your hands off each others babes.

The problem I have had in this area is that guys are usually hopeless at domestic chores and when you have five guys in a house together things tend to slide.

Then you have girls turn up scrunching their noses at the smell and fleeing the house after their first visit to the bathroom. They will be intimidated by all these other guys about. You won't be able to use your place as a seduction lair as there will always be some bloke playing playstation in his undies.

Don't worry so much about them stealing your girls. Be more concerned with five guys scaring them off.
 

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Very good point. I was thinking about that too, the house is actually a pretty big dump. But the bedrooms themselves are massive. Do you think if i clean mine up and pimp i out, it can be used for seduction? And yes there will always be someone in there boxers playing xbox or playstation, but whatever chicks gotta expect that if they come over, they'll probably get a good laugh, ill just bring them to my room. I just don't want to bring a catch home and have to go throguh 3 more DJ's
 

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Well, on one hand you are a guy and girls do like guys being guys. Living a party life style with the lads is sexy in its own way.

I have just found that when you live alone girls have zero self consciuosness aoiut getting funky and its easier to get a chick back to your place. The more people a girl has to pass on her way to and from your room the stronger the ASD.

I wouldn't worry about your housemates grabbing a catch, she's coming home with you. If you have built attraction properly she'll like you.

Sure your room can be used as a seductionlair. Its just that having candlelit dinners and baths are a difficult option.

I lived in a house with a bunch of guys. Had an absolute blast! Eventually the place looked like a bomb hit it. We all did pretty good with the ladies, but I did do way more than my share of the house work keeping the housea place a woman would get naked in.

Amusing ancedote

One night one of my housemates brought back a 9.5 He didn't even have a door on his bedroom.

At 3am this babe decides she needs to pis, gets lost (it was a pretty big house) and walks stark naked into my bedroom. I woke up and was like, "well hello."

"Ahhhh!"

She still came back quite often (to the house not my room). So living with the boys does have its upside.

All I'm saying is that its not the ideal situation but you should be able to get through.

JJ

p.s. Check my "the I'd get naked here factor" I stuck up in tips.
 

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I lived (moving back in) with a friend like that. And he would hook me up and me to him with girls we got, he is more alpha then me and was a bartender (which helps a lot). If your bringing a girl over just text them to be quiet and stay out of sight for a min to get her to your room if your worried, if there cool they will understand. Plus if there cool they will build you up to her.
 

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There's a good lesson here...

Choose your housemates wisely.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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