Hang ups about sex

[JackRyanJuan]

Had to ask ya'll about this since it's one of my inner game issues.

I have a hangup about sex. I came from a christian background, where sex before marriage was frowned upon. This was in my early teens, and I've grown a lot since then. My views on life are much deeper and more profound than they were in my early days. I'm also aware of the virtual brainwashing that goes on with many religious institutions. However, my own experiences with religion have confused me regarding sex. I'm no fundamentalist; I buy into evolution and I don't think sex is bad, two stereotypical, fundamentalist christian beliefs.

I guess the real conflict is my hormones versus my logic. My body pushes for sex, but I really don't think it's a good idea if I don't have a strong connection with the woman I'm having sex with. In other words, random hookups and ONS's don't appeal to me, and I think they would affect me negatively.

I'm really torn on this issue, it's just a heap of confusion. Any advice or experiences/stories are appreciated.

 

[Warrior74]

Go with what you're feeling man. I wouldn't push you to go towards random hookups or one night stands if you aren't feeling it. Look for women you have a connection with. That's what I do these days. I get laid less but the sex and the relationship seems better to me. Even if its just a FB, its an FB I feel some connection to, not just some random girl.

 

[j0n024]

.....Noone is pressuring you into having sex with anyone, your body is just doing what thousands of years of what your ancestors did.....have sex. Noone is pressuring you into doing anything you dont want to do remember YOU have the control of whether you want to have sex with a women or not (Of course there are people who will say that the women has the final say) do what you feel like doing if you dont feel like having sex with a ONS then dont find someone that you at least hit it off with and have a decent connection to....noone is saying that not having sex with a ONS is bad just personal preference

Now me on the other hand when I was younger...(Still young lol) I just wanted to bust my nut on every girl I saw not that that hasnt changed but is that a bad thing? NO just personal preference....

 

[DannykDJ]

Do what you are comfortable with and what you feel is right. Bottom line is nothing else matters but how you feel about it.

I personally view sex as a very important act that two people use to physically show their commitment to each other. Alot of people disagree with that but it's just my own personal opinion.

I don't think that you're ready for it since you are questioning it and doubting whether or not you want to do it. Don't put pressure like that on yourself. Just relax and take life slowly and figure out what you want and what you believe is right.

At the end of the the only thing that matters is whether or not you are happy

 

[MotownMack]

In other words, random hookups and ONS's don't appeal to me, and I think they would affect me negatively.

ONS's and random hook ups are overrated.

Yes, this is easy for me to say, since I don't have issues with getting laid.

But nonetheless, my point still stands. I don't have religious conflict or any guilt issues really, and even I can honestly say sex with random partners, especially when it's a one time deal and you never have the chance to get comfortable with them, is usually not something I am interested in.

Having said that, my advice is don't trade your beliefs in for a piece of ass. You'll regret it.

Your other option is to reconsider your beliefs and what they mean to you.

Give some thought to these things before you dive in.