"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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'Hang Out' ?

nek08

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So, my friend was dumb enough to tell the girl that I like that I liked her, she replied saying that she does not want to go on a date with me, but just wants to hang out, so I'm pretty confused right now, she told my friend that I seemed nice and stuff.

Can I ask her like after class if she would like to 'hang out with me and go to the movies, so we can get each other better, just us two?'

I might feel awkward now because my friend asked over aim, and if I asked tomorrow then yeah... she might get suspicious no?

also, i do not think that i am at the friend zone yet as I do not speak to her very much.


so what I have in mine right now when i ask speak to her alone after class is

-she might be with friends-

hey ***** walk with me for a sec
anyways, maybe this saturday you and I could go see a movie together
that way I could get to know you better, i get stage fright in school *wink*
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if she says yes, I will say

okay cool, here, give me your number and i'll tell you the details later.

right now it looks awkward and it will probably be, so i need some advice from u pros :)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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theobserver

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nek08 said:
So, my friend was dumb enough to tell the girl that I like that I liked her, she replied saying that she does not want to go on a date with me, but just wants to hang out, so I'm pretty confused right now, she told my friend that I seemed nice and stuff.

Can I ask her like after class if she would like to 'hang out with me and go to the movies, so we can get each other better, just us two?'

I might feel awkward now because my friend asked over aim, and if I asked tomorrow then yeah... she might get suspicious no?

also, i do not think that i am at the friend zone yet as I do not speak to her very much.
wow, well hmm if she wants to hangout then what i would do is not ask her, but tell her. "let's go to the movies tonight" really casually and comfortably, like you'd ask your friend. then you have to build attraction, tease her, make things interesting, all that jazz. show her how great of a guy you really are. you can even ask her like "technically you agreed to hangout with me, so what time should i pick you up?" or something along the lines of that. just remember it has to be somethingi you'd say when you're in a confident, relaxed attitude

I might feel awkward now because my friend asked over aim, and if I asked tomorrow then yeah... she might get suspicious no?

suspicious of what? since your friend put you in this situation, might as well roll with it since there's no turning back now. you either do it or drop her. just don't care about the outcome.

it was wrong of your friend to do that, but sometimes you gotta work with what you got.

hope i've helped, good luck

Patrick
 

jeffthechef

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one thing...don't prepare any "catch" lines...like the stage fright thing :nono:

only drop a funny if it comes to mind right there....if you're a beginner..it might be better to prepare..but i would start now trying to do em on the fly..

usually lines like that don't seem as funny later on...i would know :D

but basically...in this case, a day is enough...don't ask for the number...just demand it..subtly...

this part is the easy part....i think you're going to be more worried about the actually hang out
 

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dont do movies on the first 'hangout' bro, u hardly even know this chick and ur gonna spend an hour or 2 in a dark room in silence with her, contemplating whether you should do the yawn trick or not?

awkward city here we come..

take her tenpin bowling, mini golf, pool, whatever - something to do with action

somewhere where you can actually talk without some old lady telling you to shut the f_ck up cos shes missing the best part

movie dates are overrated bruv.


trust me, with action dates your gonna be able to lay down alot of kino and joke around with her in a non awkward way



now getting the date: first thing you gotta do is spark up a convo, hey hows it going blah blah blah, its gonna be a little awkward cos of ur mate thinking hes helping you out, but ur a funny guy so you can make humour out of hte situation. then suddenly you've got somewhere to be so you say "hey i gotta go, but whats your number" as you pull out your phone..

shes gives you the number, you say "sweet, maybe we'll hangout sometime, cya"

then the next day you give her a txt "hey what you up to on ~day~? wanna hangout?" or you can do a little fluff talk via txt if you wanna beat around the bush, up to you.

she either says yes i'd love to! (yay, you go from there), no im busy that day (you ask a different day) or some bull**** excuse that you reply to with "k, cya around" then delete her number


easy!
 
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