Handling an inexperienced woman -- advice wanted.

[EbbsAndFlows]

Just had a 2nd date with a chick last night who is really inexperienced yet not shy. I know the two aren't synonymous, but she's definitely got an interesting personality. Outspoken (says whatever she wants whenever), dominant acting but willing to be led, very not awkward. She's had 1 bf short term and is extremely sexually inexperienced.

Met her at a bar. We made out, exchanged numbers, went separate ways. She hit ME up the next morning. I played it super cool; kept the texting exchange short and light-hearted; putting off the "i'm interested but busy" vibe, which is true anyways.

Got a first date: i chose a day and she made her self available. Met for drinks which turned into 3 hours of talking. Very candid conversation, almost too deep of convo for first date. She hugs me when we split ways and she texted me she had a good time with emoticons shortly after. Nailed it.

4 days later I line up a second date: I set up and she agrees right away again. Pick her up, get dinner. She'd never been to the place I set up for us and loved it. Go grab a drink at a bar nextdoor before leaving. Again, good and light convo: we both remember a lot from the first date about eachother, I'm teasing her playfully, etc.

Hop in my ride and I take her home. She hops out quickly and thanks me for dinner/drinks. Def wasn't trying to get physical at that moment. Normally after a 2nd date, I expect a kiss at least. Instead, the act of dropping her off was definitely weird to her because she hopped out as soon as I pulled up. I think these situations are just strange to her, and no matter how cool I am, she's gonna be weird at certain benchmarks.

Next steps? I'm not used to a girl who is so aggressive in conversation yet shy and inexperienced physically. It's almost like she acts like a dude half the time and a woman the other half. She still listens when I lead which is necessary. Also, I noticed she mirrors my texting. If I'm joking around, she's lathers her texts with emoticons, if I'm chill (short, more direct), she acts just as chill and hasn't made a habit of chasing me at all.

What do I do with this awkwardly not awkward chick?

 

[gravityeyelids]

how do you know she's sexually inexperienced? Did she say so? Did she say she had only sexual with one person (her BF)? Especially if you havent even made out yet. Maybe you mucked something up on the second date and she doesnt want to go further with you (no offense)

 

[TheGambino]

Dude you have to get to the next level. Use light kino, make her comfortable touching you. If you see that she copies you, you should touch her more often. Her shoulders while speaking, her legs while making a joke and try to make more and longer eye contact. Get used to kissing her way more at the actual date. Kiss her cheek sometimes and say 'your cute' afterwards and change the convo again when she thanks you. You have to step it up bro if you know what I mean. When shes comfortable with you doing that make out more often at the date. Grabb her hand and pull her towards you while your walking back to your car and make out longer, that way you create sexual tension and you can escalate way faster to sex and thats exactley what you want. When this works and your hands are wrapped around her shoulders while walking, kiss her, make out put your hands on her waist touch her ass and kiss, kiss and kiss, try to escalate in the car and she'll do the rest. So step it up the next date asap

If you see that she doesnt respond to your escalating moves, just back off and get more indifferent, replie later to texts, be short and make her feel that she can loose you, thats my style. I even next girls that withold sex man but that's me. Just try to back off if she isnt comfortable touching you, be more indifferent and act like nothing happened then go ghost for a bit let her work more and she'll realize that she has to open up more to keep you around

 

[EbbsAndFlows]

how do you know she's sexually inexperienced? Did she say so? Did she say she had only sexual with one person (her BF)? Especially if you havent even made out yet. Maybe you mucked something up on the second date and she doesnt want to go further with you (no offense)

She straight up told me. You nailed it.

And yeah, I mean that's possible. It was just last night, so I'm not worked up that she hasn't initiated contact in the last 18 hours. I'd prefer that actually.

I was more just looking for advice on the mindset to have when deal with this type of girl. I haven't had any difficulty thus far. I think I could mess this one up easy and I'm not good with these types of girls.

 

[EbbsAndFlows]

Dude you have to get to the next level. Use light kino, make her comfortable touching you. If you see that she copies you, you should touch her more often. Her shoulders while speaking, her legs while making a joke and try to make more and longer eye contact. Get used to kissing her way more at the actual date. Kiss her cheek sometimes and say 'your cute' afterwards and change the convo again when she thanks you. You have to step it up bro if you know what I mean. When shes comfortable with you doing that make out more often at the date. Grabb her hand and pull her towards you while your walking back to your car and make out longer, that way you create sexual tension and you can escalate way faster to sex and thats exactley what you want. When this works and your hands are wrapped around her shoulders while walking, kiss her, make out put your hands on her waist touch her ass and kiss, kiss and kiss, try to escalate in the car and she'll do the rest. So step it up the next date asap

Yeah, all that is easy with girls who are more "feminine". She's all-woman physically, but she has a dude-like attitude. I'd prob be turned off if she wasn't really, really good looking.

I'm thinking for the 3rd date (which I will initiate contact on early next week, weekend over) is something engaging. We need to get out and do something. FIrst two dates were drinks/food and conversation which I'm fine with. I want a slow pace anyways. this is a woman in her mid 20s with no dating/sexual experience. Trying to break her in. Third date we need to be moving around. Maybe a baseball game, brewery tour, etc. I think that'll open the doors to physical interation.

 

[HoneyHitter]

Met her at a bar. We made out, exchanged numbers, went separate ways. She hit ME up the next morning. I played it super cool; kept the texting exchange short and light-hearted; putting off the "i'm interested but busy" vibe, which is true anyways.

I hate to break it to you, but it seems like YOU are the inexperienced one.

This girl couldn't have made it any easier for you, short of her reaching into your pants, but you still managed to screw it up.

You probably could have laid her on the first date. She never resisted anything you did, and yet you STILL didn't escalate. And to make things even worse, you're starting to act needy by planning out yet another pointless date. Weren't you "interested but busy"?

Just leave her alone for a while.
Learn from this mistake:
When a woman doesn't resist, she wants you to give it to her RIGHT NOW, not 10 dates later.

Set up the date so you can fu<k her: make up a plausible reason to drop by your place or for her to invite you to her place. Don't just "drop her off" like she's on the schoolbus, lol.

Go find a new girl. You need the experience. You're almost there, but you need to master your end-game.

Good luck!

 

[Tictac]

Take your time. Enjoy the ride.

Figure things out as you go.

Steadily instigate, escalate and then isolate.

You know - game her.

 

[RagingBalls]

You "made" out with her on your first encounter at the bar, then nothing came out on those 2 dates?

It's odd and You know why? Because You failed to make your move to take things further when it matters.



You don't expect a girl to initiate, it should be you. The girl is just waiting for you to lead and you wasted an opportunity for it. You hesitated man, she knows it, would she grab you by the balls of your nut-sac into her place? No amigo, you'll be jacking off in your place instead, because hesitation leads to masturbation.:nono:

Remember, on your next date, initiate...escalate and DONT hesitate.