"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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handling a hissy fit

TheFlyingMan

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Long story, I work as a tutor at college, but basically yesterday a girl threw a hissy fit at me when I was trying to explain some homework to her. Everyone knows she's attracted to me, but obviously I can't do anything about it as a professional...she's about a HB 8...

ANyway she got real upset cos I spent some time teaching her the software we were learning and she said she wanted to leave. I said if you want, I can spend some more time teaching, just let me get my own stuff out of the way first. She was basically whinging and whining a lot.

After a few minutes, I just said if you want to go, go. Copy the notes from your friend tomorrow to make up for what you missed. And she packed her bags and left. SHe looked at me a few times, maybe wanted to see my reaction but I ignored her. I was getting a bit annoyed at her childishness, so I didnt want to say much more.

Today she was back to normal, and always flirting with me, hitting my arm playfully etc, maybe even more then she was before yesterday.

The way I handled this was a lot better then before I became an RAFC, but I still think there's a lot of room for improvement.

Now I don't and CAN'T want this woman, but I can imagine other biatches doing this stuff to me in the future, I want to know how to handle THEM. So please no comments on how I should stay away from students, I know that already, and I never ever flirt back.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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THE_ADDMAN

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if shes being childish, tell her to leave and only come back when shes ready to act mature.

be firm and dont show any hint of fear or doubt in your eyes.

attracted or not, dont let her use her power over you.
 

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you handled her well. just when she starts whining and acting sooky, use this word.....Silence! but say it in a goofy stern way. it's like a villian talking to his subordinates. it always disarms most women that start acting like that.
 

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thanks, quick and good responses guys!

I love that SILENCE! idea, LOL! I'll use that from now on. I'll crack myself up even if no one else laughs!
 

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THE_ADDMAN said:
if shes being childish, tell her to leave and only come back when shes ready to act mature.

be firm and dont show any hint of fear or doubt in your eyes.

attracted or not, dont let her use her power over you.

thats good.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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