handed a chick my number and

[donjon11]

the first question on your mind is, "why hand a chick your number?". It was at Lenscrafters. I'm 25. I work and go to college, and this chick knew it because I told her during one of several conversations.

I was with my parents, waiting for my name to be called, and this attractive woman calls my name to be tested. We were chatting throughout, and being flirtatious the entire time.

My parents go in next and she gives them their eye test.

I get called in by the doctor, finish my eye exam, and the chick approaches me for the type of glasses im getting. We continue to flirt and chat, and when my parents finish their eye exam, all of us go through the process of getting lenses.

I thought to myself "hey, this girl is cool, and might like me a little". This is a 2 and a half hour process.

At the very end, before we all leave, I shake the girl's hand, and while shaking, hand a folded card with my number written on it, and without trying to look at it or do anything, hesitates to receive it and slips her hand away, leaving me with the card.
She looks at me, not open to any questions, and shuts the gate of the store in front of me because the store was closing.

All I can feel is fire, and I gave her a look she will probably never forget. That isnt enough for me.

How could a person be capable of rejection like that? She could have chosen many creative ways for rejection, as I did when I was talking to her and having conversations.

hate face >< haha...deep hate.

 

[donjon11]

and I knew I shouldn't have handed it to her, but I thought why not just throw myself out there.

and when I did, the wolves came. I have no compassion for women. Maybe one of you in here can enlighten me, but after being dumped by a chick I had a kid with, I am full of nothing but hate and it is growing.

 

[donjon11]

I don't want to feel this way anymore, but these things happen. I don't know what to do.

 

[Leopold]

1-) You DONT give your phone!!! You ask for hers PERIOD.

2-) You get rejected... too bad!!! GET OVER IT!!!

3-) Still mad about it? My AFCnomemter is pointing in the red zone. Better start reading Pook's book, Bible and dig the forums.

Welcome aboard mate!!!

 

[donjon11]

im 25, I've read all that stuff at your age son. Your advice is light as a feather. You have no damn clue what I'm going through, so be considerate before you post something like that. This issue is obviously deeper then the number, it has to do with my kid, and I ain't no damn AFC.

 

[Leopold]

Ummm.. Ok... you seem to know what you are doing then....

GL with the anger problem *shrugs*

Perhaps others with more experience could give you a better advice.

 

[IamJosan]

Leopold has a point. You'll get nowhere with women if you continue to cry like a baby over something like this. Getting good with women takes a lot of practice. And in that journey, you will be rejected, A LOT! So stop crying and read the materials that this site provides.

As for your number-on-the-card gesture, when she rejected it, instead of giving her the eyes of hell, you should've smiled at her like it didn't phase you, or made some joke about it. It shouldn't matter to you, because there are WAY more girls out there, and more attractive as well. You are the catch, and she is missing out on you.

 

[donjon11]

Leopold, you are simply making yourself look bad by calling random people AFC's. This is more then an anger problem but it isn't nothing an experienced DJ would have an answer for. One who's had a family and knows what I'm going through. "You'll get nowhere with women if you continue to cry like a baby over something like this."

I'll tell you one thing, when I meet a new women, they know nothing about it.

You guys aren't reading my posts and are being slightly inconsiderate.

I handed her the card and she didn't have to blow it off in that way.

I want to know how hardened people have changed from being angry and hateful to forgiving.

I don't care about getting some in bed, I want to forgive.

You misunderstand the WHOLE point.

 

[f283000]

Giving a woman your number on a card just doesn't work. It's what a guy does when hes afraid to go after the digits directly. I know from personal experience i did it in the past and failed each time with it. I learned my lesson.

Maybe it would work if after you hand them your # you then took your keyless remote, pressed the button and the door to your Lambo opened up and she saw you driving that. In that case i'm sure she'll probably be calling you in 5 minutes but other than that it just doesn't work

 

[donjon11]

I see, but I wasn't afraid. It was just something new I wanted to try that I've never done before. And this is what I get in return from her.

 

[Echoes]

I see, but I wasn't afraid. It was just something new I wanted to try that I've never done before. And this is what I get in return from her.

I feel your pain...that must have sucked.

Try to cut her a little slack though. Maybe she was just taken off guard and didn't know what to do. Who knows...maybe she's feeling bad about the way she handled it. You're not a mind reader remember!

On the other hand, some people just suck so F her if that's the case.

Good luck friend!

 

[backseatjuan]

In my experience when chick asks you for your number in 100% of time it's crap. She's either won't call, or she'll call you while out with her friends, and send you to a flake date on the other side of town during rush hour. Too bad we don't have rejection hot lines in my country, or I'll be giving rejection hot line number out.

Chick asks you for your number (romantically speaking, not work) - REJECTION.

Hey! At least in my experience.

 

[donjon11]

I feel your pain...that must have sucked.

Try to cut her a little slack though. Maybe she was just taken off guard and didn't know what to do. Who knows...maybe she's feeling bad about the way she handled it. You're not a mind reader remember!

On the other hand, some people just suck so F her if that's the case.

Good luck friend!

That's true. Thank you. I'll keep this in mind.

 

[donjon11]

In my experience when chick asks you for your number in 100% of time it's crap. She's either won't call, or she'll call you while out with her friends, and send you to a flake date on the other side of town during rush hour. Too bad we don't have rejection hot lines in my country, or I'll be giving rejection hot line number out.

Chick asks you for your number (romantically speaking, not work) - REJECTION.

Hey! At least in my experience.

That's another thing that I am beginning to open my mind to. The reality of women teasing. It's probably just in the moment.

 

[runner83]

Rejection is always better than regret.

Quit your whining boy, this girl owes you nothing.

But like the others have said, giving her your number instead of getting hers is a sign of a lack of balls. Rejection will still happen sometimes, but the least you can do is man up and be proactive.

You are saying you hate this chick just because she didn't take your number. She was doing you the favour of letting you know straight away she wasn't interested.

Forget all this hate about women, they are what they are. A sure sign of an AFC is getting angry with how things are and how women act, whilst real man accept reality and learn to adjust it to their own advantage.

QUOTE:
I see, but I wasn't afraid. It was just something new I wanted to try that I've never done before. And this is what I get in return from her.


The sooner you get over the idea that a women will feels she owes you anything for anything that you do for her the happier you will be.

Rollo Tomassi- Attraction is not a process of negotiation, it is a spontaneous chemical reaction.

As you may know, a woman might marry you, have your kids, be supported by you, and yet leave it all at the drop of a hat if she finds another dude she is more attracted to;

So, the choice is up to you:

1) Man the fvck up and keep playing the game, and take rejection in your stride;

2) Or keep hating and spiral down into AFCism.


Up to you.

 

[Diaforetikos]

Do you know if she even had a boyfriend?

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

It's all about the vibe you give off when your trying to get a chick. I give girls my number all the time. Saves me a lot of time because if their interested they will contact you. You must understand though that every girl doesn't want you. Just keep improving your game. I been with some dimes in my life and sometimes I've been rejected by some ugly chicks. It's just part of life. Work on improving yourself and don't worry too much how the girls respond.