"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Hair Problem.Feeling unconfortable around woman

NoMoreAFC

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guys i need all the help you can give...i 'm feeling really bad with myself because of my hair, and girls notice that too which makes me even more unconfortable around them. since i was 21/22 that i had hair problems, my hair is very thin, and with 28 a patch can be seen in the crown of my head, i've seen worse cases cuz i still have some hair but not enough. i'm dating a girl who is younger than me and when i asked her about cutting it short ( like a 2 on the sides and top ) or totally shaving it clean,she said she wouldnt like it... well my parents also said they wouldnt like it, cuz they say it wouldnt go well with the shape of my head,etc... myself i dont really know if i want to shave it now, i seem to have lost the confidence i had
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Post up a pick bud, we'll give you some DJ views.

Generally though sounds like however bald or double chinned you are it won't make 10% of the difference having the right atitude will.

I used to feel the same way, I haven't changed tremendously physically, yet I'm fine pulling nowadays, the key is SKILLS and you just don't give a **** about rejection/criticism, you are the guardian of your thoughts and emotions, no one else.

If you are slighly overweight start working out, that will help with overall tone. I believe that lethecin injections are getting rid of stubborn deposits like under the chin. (no spot reduction flames please, it's true)
 

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SuperGigalo is right. If, at 28 years old, you are worrying about what your parents think of your style then you gotta seriously look at yourself. Most people get over that by mid-teens. And if a girl told me she wouldn't like me to shave her head, I'd do it the next chance I got, otherwise you're giving her power over you without even fighting for it.
 

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I have lost a lot of hair this year and it fuggin sucks. I seem to catch a lot of the $hit in life, but what are you going to do?

Believe me, it does no good feeling sorry for yourself because the parade of life keeps moving regardless of your situation!
 

MetalFortress

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Originally posted by NoMoreAFC
guys i need all the help you can give...i 'm feeling really bad with myself because of my hair, and girls notice that too which makes me even more unconfortable around them. since i was 21/22 that i had hair problems, my hair is very thin, and with 28 a patch can be seen in the crown of my head, i've seen worse cases cuz i still have some hair but not enough. i'm dating a girl who is younger than me and when i asked her about cutting it short ( like a 2 on the sides and top ) or totally shaving it clean,she said she wouldnt like it... well my parents also said they wouldnt like it, cuz they say it wouldnt go well with the shape of my head,etc... myself i dont really know if i want to shave it now, i seem to have lost the confidence i had
You're 28. Shave it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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h7amzeh

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dude,

**** what people think. thin hair and bald heads are a lot more common than you think! people are concerned about the way they look in that they think everyone else notices to a point it that it affects the way they interact socially.

as guys, we're primarily attracted to looks; women aren't. generally, they don't give a **** about the way you look as long as you are clean and not 4,000 pounds overweight. they care about WHO you are and HOW you make them FEEL. look at all the "sexiest men of the year", vin deisel, sean connery, bruce willis, brad pitt, tom cruise, etc.

bald or not, it doesn't matter. its WHO they are that matters. and what do all these guys have in common? they're their own men. MASCULINE men. when was the last time looks actually counted for girls? juniour high?

women are generally more concerned with their looks because they know how important looks are in the world of dating and attraction. but still, you always see a good number of women getting up on t.v. with crooked teeth and what not, and... well, obviously they don't care. if its not a big deal to them, i don't think a guy, one among millions in the same situation, should worry about some as natural and common as loosing hair.

**** happens. don't let it enter your mind. i'm TWENTY-ONE and have been loosing hair since i was SIXTEEN! **** it man, if its gonna happen, its gonna happen. worry and improve the thing that count, like skill and game.

...BTW, this is my first non-"i have a question" post. so let me know if this was helpful or not.:woo: :woo:
 

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Originally posted by h7amzeh
dude,

**** what people think. thin hair and bald heads are a lot more common than you think! people are concerned about the way they look in that they think everyone else notices to a point it that it affects the way they interact socially.

as guys, we're primarily attracted to looks; women aren't. generally, they don't give a **** about the way you look as long as you are clean and not 4,000 pounds overweight. they care about WHO you are and HOW you make them FEEL. look at all the "sexiest men of the year", vin deisel, sean connery, bruce willis, brad pitt, tom cruise, etc.

bald or not, it doesn't matter. its WHO they are that matters. and what do all these guys have in common? they're their own men. MASCULINE men. when was the last time looks actually counted for girls? juniour high?

women are generally more concerned with their looks because they know how important looks are in the world of dating and attraction. but still, you always see a good number of women getting up on t.v. with crooked teeth and what not, and... well, obviously they don't care. if its not a big deal to them, i don't think a guy, one among millions in the same situation, should worry about some as natural and common as loosing hair.

**** happens. don't let it enter your mind. i'm TWENTY-ONE and have been loosing hair since i was SIXTEEN! **** it man, if its gonna happen, its gonna happen. worry and improve the thing that count, like skill and game.

...BTW, this is my first non-"i have a question" post. so let me know if this was helpful or not.:woo: :woo:

to me, it's a good post, so big it up to you man:)


p.s.: anyway, i'm just about to post a reeeeeally AFC question on another thread, so don't blame me:D
 

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I agree with h7amzeh. Losing your hair is NOT a big deal, unless YOU make it to be. Just keep it short and don't fuzz about it.
 
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