"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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HAHAHA beauty and the geek!! - AWESOME, and there is a guy from community there!

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So the show is awesome. I love it! Shows how internal part of a person is very important - those who are real and nice win.

But.. the funiest thing is that the asian kid on the show is from the community. He kind of reminds me of loverboy. But I laughed my ass when he did Mystery's bit about "only having 5 available women back in prehistoric times"

I wish that guy would come on this board and talk more about the experience - obviosly he is new to all this, but this must have been awesome being on that show.

and MAN, is that blond (Jenny Lee) girl awesome - that is pretty much my pefrect girl looks/personality wise... if only she was a brunette.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I don't think that comment necessarily means he's in the community. It's a logical idea.

And Jenny Lee's tits are too small for my taste. I mean I'd still fvck her, but she's not perfect.
 

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The Asian dude is a PICK-UP COACH for Pickup 101. Would you want him teaching you how to get laid?

That's pretty much the number one thing I hate about the community, "coaches" like that.
 

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he is a coach? well i sure hope he improved since the show :)

He is definitely in the community man. there is no doubt about it.

and i like the girl , as long as she has at least B cups. Preferably C's
 

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Pickup coach?? Yea right. Didn't you see the episode where they had the competition to see who could get the most phone numbers? He got completely blown out and just stopped trying after a couple. You're thinking of someone else.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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most of the dudes in "the community" or lairs or whatever the **** you want to call it are dweeb wannabes

i've seen it firsthand what kind of ilk come from the speedsed stuff and if you think otherwise you're obviousely not with it socialwise and are a nerd yourself.
 

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I guess when you don't know who you are you try and try different things and see what happens. I wonder if mystery finally figured out who he was and stopped being ****ed up.
 

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The guy is an instructor for PU101. I personally know him, it is all an act...he told me to look forward to the future eposodes.

Check pu101's website for more info.

night
 

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I agree that the guys in that show are geeks. But as for the girls being beauties...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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THERE IS NO WAY HE KNEW WHAT HE WAS DOING ON THAT SHOW. NO. WAY.

He wasn't acting - you can tell.. even p101 guys admit he was a major dork.

To go on tangent - I strongly believe you can't get comfortable with women and develop good game under at least 2-3 years. This guy has been doing this for what, 2 weeks, and he is a coach?
 
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Well what did you think of his game on the clip I just posted above?

I think it's funny how he used that same Starbucks pick-up line that he crashed with on the show.
 

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I'm not impressed by his skills to date, let alone his AFC performance on Beauty and the Geek.
 

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He is all about indirect, I don't play that anymore - I mean I want to hook up with this girl.. watching the bodylanguage he was doing all the closing in - but did he hook up with her? did she kiss him?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Nighthawk said:
I agree that the guys in that show are geeks. But as for the girls being beauties...
With you on that one buddy. Personally I though the best looking girls got voted off first though didn't think any of them were drop dead gorgeous.
 

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I'm not impressed, though he seems cooler than he did on the show. Lower voice, a little more relaxed, I don't like his clothing but it's okay. If he was just some dude in the community and not taking tools' dollars, I would say he's pretty okay. Unfortunately he needs to be a LOT better to be worth it, at least from what I can see in that video.
 

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That was a totally easy target to approach. She was alone, wasn´t hot and you could see that she was looking at a map, so it was not really tough to find an opener. She was also very talkative. I wanna see that guy approach a set of HB8 and 9´s. Any fool can approach a woman like that. If he would have approached a woman from where I live she would have immediately given him a "WTF, get off of me you creep" look...
 

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How funny. I wonder if he was actually an instructor when the show was taped or what. I mean I've seen better approaches (did you guys notice her moving away from him too?), but he wasn't that bad. He must've been acting for that show - makes me wonder how much of it is real and staged.
 

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Wait am I in the community too. I don't do routines I'm more natural. But I was never really into beauty and the geek. I just don't like reality shows. The last I looked at was flavor of love and that pissed me off big time.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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