"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Haha what a complete flake

Kaim Argonar

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One week ago (I think you're a nice girl, you go out with me some time?)

"Sure why not! *gives MSN handle*"

I get added, but my IM gets unanswered, and this morning when I see her again at college

"Sorry, I wasn't expecting this last week, now I think I'm not that interested"

Eh I thought that I'd be very resentful, but surprisingly even if I feel kinda bad, I feel mostly amused to witness once more that girls don't know whatever the hell they want.

And now for how I'll go on about the coming weeks, I don't know. Looking for new prospects, that's the part where I feel a bit more disenchanted. Sure, girls are everywhere, but it's a pretty ****ty game to attempt an approach when none really seem to give you special signs of interest.

I could join more groups, but honestly most of the time when I join some kind of college group it's long, tedious, and I don't give a damn about the activities, and have no motivation to keep partaking in them when there isn't an interesting girl to target.

And I don't think I could hit some meat market.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Kaim Argonar said:
One week ago (I think you're a nice girl, you go out with me some time?)

"Sure why not! *gives MSN handle*"

I get added, but my IM gets unanswered, and this morning when I see her again at college

"Sorry, I wasn't expecting this last week, now I think I'm not that interested"

Eh I thought that I'd be very resentful, but surprisingly even if I feel kinda bad, I feel mostly amused to witness once more that girls don't know whatever the hell they want.

And now for how I'll go on about the coming weeks, I don't know. Looking for new prospects, that's the part where I feel a bit more disenchanted. Sure, girls are everywhere, but it's a pretty ****ty game to attempt an approach when none really seem to give you special signs of interest.

I could join more groups, but honestly most of the time when I join some kind of college group it's long, tedious, and I don't give a damn about the activities, and have no motivation to keep partaking in them when there isn't an interesting girl to target.

And I don't think I could hit some meat market.
It's a game, and if the woman is 1/2 ways attractive, she will reserve the right to be a flake. If you are on the singles scene, part of what you must deal with it flaky *****es, uninterested *****es, and the Worst of the Diseased Lepers, the "Lets Just be Friends" dumb ass *****es. Keep your chin up. Right now, I have just dealt with a Flake, my way of dealing with it was to "next" her ass, and instead of feeling sorry for myself, I started texting another woman who seems interested, and may get naked for me with enough shots. Then, there is an old FB of mine who I havent talked to in 3 years and I know where she works now.
 

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That wasn't that bad, she was straight up. I would have just laughed and said good for you. Recently got flaked on in the best way ever haha im still amused
 

Kaim Argonar

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JackPrescott said:
It's a game, and if the woman is 1/2 ways attractive, she will reserve the right to be a flake. If you are on the singles scene, part of what you must deal with it flaky *****es, uninterested *****es, and the Worst of the Diseased Lepers, the "Lets Just be Friends" dumb ass *****es. Keep your chin up. Right now, I have just dealt with a Flake, my way of dealing with it was to "next" her ass, and instead of feeling sorry for myself, I started texting another woman who seems interested, and may get naked for me with enough shots. Then, there is an old FB of mine who I havent talked to in 3 years and I know where she works now.
Still such smugness isn't at everyone's reach, since many don't have any such readily available alternative options when they're dealt a blow. I guess that at the start, she was surprised and flattered by the attention, and only faintly interested in me, and then it died out.

If I had concluded specifics for a date right on the first approach as I originally intended to, she would probably have flaked later and in more hurtful ways, so this is probably an outcome that's not so bad.

mutambo: I am the kind of person who'd do that, but I try to control my spite, especially in public, since in the past I've often been called assholish and overly negative. Yes it's a dog eat dog world and the golden rule is a load of bull****, but I guess that I like to still keep some humanity by not retaliating cheaply.

Otherwise I felt like chuckling a bit and saying something like "more proof that girls don't know whatever the hell they want", but because of what I described above I just said "OK, cool", kept my smile, and went away.
 

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Well **** it, I do it. I'm a total as.shole if I want to be one. I laugh to put out there, like saying; you are so wrong have a nice day kind of way. Did not mean laugh your guts out, just smile you know ;) . So you did, great. I maybe have another definition of lauging, thats just me.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I wonder if flaking is just a B*tch test to see if you start complaining after you initially meet a chick and show interest. This is really starting to get popular now, and I hear alot of guys talkin about the same thing. I just act like I don't give a **** and then it seems like they eventually call back.... It's crazy out here!
 
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