"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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'haha u dont give up do u' test or leave me alone msg?

big weezy

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there's this girl i was pursuing who i was flirting with on facebook.. she went away last week but the night prior we got into a back and forth which she gave me signs she may be interested or an attention wh0re.. i think potentially the latter.

she didn't reply to my last msg but i sent it at like 1am and she was abroad for a week and i duno if she's gona reply to some stranger via her blackberry when roaming is expensive. anyway she's back now so i decided to check in on her to gauge interest. i asked her 'how was your trip?'

she msgs me 'haha u dont give up do u x whatsup'

is that a sign basically translated as saying: 'i'm an attention wh0re i'm not interested in u but i want u to keep pursuing me unless u send something which demonstrates an emotional reaction from me in the next msg?'

thats how i saw it. couldn't think of anything on the spot.

what would u guys have said? or just dont bother.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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JdelaSilviera

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big weezy said:
there's this girl i was pursuing who i was flirting with on facebook.. she went away last week but the night prior we got into a back and forth which she gave me signs she may be interested or an attention wh0re.. i think potentially the latter.

she didn't reply to my last msg but i sent it at like 1am and she was abroad for a week and i duno if she's gona reply to some stranger via her blackberry when roaming is expensive. anyway she's back now so i decided to check in on her to gauge interest. i asked her 'how was your trip?'

she msgs me 'haha u dont give up do u x whatsup'

is that a sign basically translated as saying: 'i'm an attention wh0re i'm not interested in u but i want u to keep pursuing me unless u send something which demonstrates an emotional reaction from me in the next msg?'

thats how i saw it. couldn't think of anything on the spot.

what would u guys have said? or just dont bother.
I would use David Deangelo LJBF, something like: "oh I see, but you were mistaken I just thought we could be good friends". This kills 90% of the girls, and then they start chasing you.
 

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>>she msgs me 'haha u dont give up do u x whatsup'

Just because I'm sexy doesn't mean I give it up easily.
 

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First off, never use the words "friends". David whatever the fucvk his name is doesn't know dik. You are a sex machine, and they should know this. Second, if you don't ask her out, make a move, etc. How the fuvk am I suppose to know what she's thinking? My only advice; She has to know you can fuvk her brains out (in a charming way). Never use the word friends. That's what homosexuals use during lunch when they first meet. "Hey Gary, love your friendship, wan't to take this further???" haha That's probably how they talk.

You are a sex machine. Ask her out, get some drinks, and let's find out what she's thinking. You're the species with the covk, act like it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Die Hard

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She said "you don't give up, do you?" because you are pursuing her too enthusiastically. You're showing way too much interest in her!

You were the last one to text her before she went abroad, then when she comes back, first thing you do is text her how her trip was. First of all, you don't send a second text message before she has replied to the first one, that's fukkin weak.

Secondly, texting her when she's back makes it obvious to her that you have been waiting for her to return, probably counting the days until she got back. That's fukkin weak, too!

You're screwing this up, but it's not too late to turn things around. Be distant and unavailable in the coming time, wait a few days before replying to her texts messages etc. Let her pursue you! And don't think of her in those days between texting her back, get yourself under control...
 

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Die Hard said:
She said "you don't give up, do you?" because you are pursuing her too enthusiastically. You're showing way too much interest in her!
Spot on!!

This is a golden rule of seduction. Never chase women. Let them chase you. She knows you're interested and if she wanted to pursue anything with you, she would make the next move.

However, by acting pushy this early on, this tells her you're gonna be hard to deal with and maybe too needy if you ever go any further, and that is a deal breaker.

She may be an attention wh0re or she might just be testing the water with you. She's most definitely flirts with a lot of guys, but the ones she will chase are the ones who offer the most challenge.
 

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who cares.. your over analyzing this... ask her out and she will show you if she's interested in you or not...

What I like to do in any situation where I dont like the comment or question i just ignore it and keep going.. you can always make it seem like a bad joke on their part... "I dont get it... weirdo" and leave it alone up to you but who cares at the end of the day.. it's a few words on bbm..
 

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you could just bypass all this bullsh!t by inviting her out with you. She already knows if she'll accept or decline.
and notice I didn't say ask her out, you invite her to do something with you.
 

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She's definately not suggesting you leave her alone, or she wouldn't have written "what's up?" at the end of the message. If a girl wants you to leave her alone she'll make it obvious by either ignoring you or blaitently telling you to leave her alone.
Although personally I wouldn't have sent her a message as soon as she got home, I wouldn't really say you have been doing too much to imply that you "don't give up," unless she has flat out rejected you and you've carried on, which I'm assuming hasn't happened, then you would have no cause to 'give up.'

Personally, and I may be wrong, I think it's actually an encouraging sign, she's awknowledging that you have sexual interest in her. She obviously loves herself a bit by suggesting that you don't give up etc, but that's just what some girls are like, especially if she's good looking.

If it were me I would do what others say and carry on as normal, be a bit more distant but do not just flat out ignore the message, that would be too obvious.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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