Had the first date, now what?

[Maxtro]

A couple of days have passed since I had my "date" with the girl that I talked about in this thread. I haven't called her because I figured that I would see her today at the gym but she didn't show up. The date went pretty well. We went to a nice place for lunch and then we just walked around a park afterwards. Lots of good conversation with very little silence, she was talking the majority of the time. I gave her lots of light kino, but she never returned it.

The conversation worked its way towards relationships and she brought up that she has never had a boyfriend. She said that she's always been too busy and that there is a lot of stress in her life right now and that she doesn't have the time for one, or desire more problems in her life. She asked about me and I told her that I was really shy up until a few years ago and was surprised. I learned that she is having difficulty with her living situation and that she won't be settled until the 1st until then she is staying with some friends for a few days. I also learned that she is going to be moving back to LA at the end of December. She told me that she was very happy that I invited her out and that she had a great time. Parking was bad so I gave her a hug in the car and dropped her off. I think the whole thing lasted 3 hours.

As I mentioned earlier I hoped to see her in the gym but that didn't happen. Around 2 she texted me telling me that she got a new cell number. And I replied that I missed her at the gym and I was wondering how she was doing. I haven't gotten a response.

So now I'm not even sure what I have now. I don't know if she likes me as more than a friend but she can also wonder the same thing about me. I haven't really done anything to convey that I have a sexual interest in her besides eye contact and kino on her arms/shoulders. I would like to see her again and try to get farther with her.

Any ideas what I should do next?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

... I haven't called her because I figured that I would see her today at the gym but she didn't show up. ...

Why do you guys do this?

 

[Maxtro]

I went out with her on Saturday and I don't really know the standard after date procedures so I assumed that it was ok to just see her on Tuesday. It was the first date I've ever been on so I'm pretty much clueless.

But now I understand that it's a bad idea to assume that anything will happen the way you want it.

 

[Maxtro]

Hmm I just realized that tomorrow is Halloween. That would be a good night to hang out with her. Ideally I would love to bring her to my place and watch movies with her but I unfortunately live with my grandmother and that isn't possible She is currently staying with some friends so I wonder if they will be doing anything.

I'm thinking about calling her and asking if she has any plans for that night. If she has plans I'll invite myself over if it's something I can join in on. If she doesn't have plans I don't know what to do because I can't think of anything to do.

Good idea, bad idea?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Hmm I just realized that tomorrow is Halloween. That would be a good night to hang out with her. Ideally I would love to bring her to my place and watch movies with her but I unfortunately live with my grandmother and that isn't possible She is currently staying with some friends so I wonder if they will be doing anything.

I'm thinking about calling her and asking if she has any plans for that night. If she has plans I'll invite myself over if it's something I can join in on. If she doesn't have plans I don't know what to do because I can't think of anything to do.

Good idea, bad idea?

Wait, tomorrow is Halloween and you want to take her back to your grandmother's place and watch movies???!!! WTF?? !!

No wait...

:kick:

That's better.....

 

[Maxtro]

No, I said that I would have liked to take her back to my place but I can't because I live with my grandmother. And now I really can't think of anything to do.

 

[Maxtro]

Ugh, no helpful advice at all?

 

[skirtChaser]

why would you tell her you miss her?...............what about the first twenty some odd years before you met her? how could you survive?.......who did you miss before her?....your mom? don't tell chicks you don't know that. stop fantasizing about bringing this chick over to watch some porn with you and your grandmother. and why would you invite yourself?......what happens if she doesn't really like you?......you think shes going to want you tagging along with her friends? don't ask a girl to go on a date with you a day before halloween. you are just setting yourself up for rejection. go make your own fun on halloween and wait to hear from her.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Ugh, no helpful advice at all?

Alright, give me her number because if you can't figure out anything to do on Halloween you might as well watch "It's The Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown" with your grandmother...

 

[DonJuan11]

Phone her 8 times and ask her why she didn't text you back.

Make sure you sound desparate, that will turn her on.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Go to a haunted house. Go to a party. Go to a bar. Walk in the park. Smoke weed. There is all KINDS of sh!t to do for a next date. It's Halloween kid; go do something fun.

 

[Maxtro]

why would you tell her you miss her?...............what about the first twenty some odd years before you met her? how could you survive?.......who did you miss before her?....your mom? don't tell chicks you don't know that. stop fantasizing about bringing this chick over to watch some porn with you and your grandmother. and why would you invite yourself?......what happens if she doesn't really like you?......you think shes going to want you tagging along with her friends? don't ask a girl to go on a date with you a day before halloween. you are just setting yourself up for rejection. go make your own fun on halloween and wait to hear from her.

Uh I missed her as in I didn't see her at the gym. Blame the English language. Ok, so trying to make plans with her for Halloween the day before is a bad idea.

Go to a haunted house. Go to a party. Go to a bar. Walk in the park. Smoke weed. There is all KINDS of sh!t to do for a next date. It's Halloween kid; go do something fun.

Thank you. It only took four hours to get a good answer. A haunted house is a good idea. I have no idea why I couldn't think of that.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...I have no idea why I couldn't think of that.

Ditto...

 

[guru1000]

Either she likes you or she don't. Bottomline!

Texting you her new cel phone is a show of interest.

Call her up , ask her out. If she says yes , guess what? She likes you.

If no she doesn't.

 

[Maxtro]

Either she likes you or she don't. Bottomline!

Texting you her new cel phone is a show of interest.

Call her up , ask her out. If she says yes , guess what? She likes you.

If no she doesn't.

Yeah thats what I thought but she didn't reply to the text that I sent.

Well I'm going to call her at school later today and tell her, "I'm going to go to a haunted house when it gets dark, you should come." I found a place close to where we live that seems cool. If she already has plans, then she already has plans.

 

[guru1000]

you-"What are you doing this weekend?"

her-" Not too sure yet"

you-" Let's do dinner saturday"



Have a nice day.

 

[Maxtro]

you-"What are you doing this weekend?"

her-" Not too sure yet"

you-" Let's do dinner saturday"



Have a nice day.

Thats my backup plan if she won't/can't go out tonight.