"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Had Sex on the job May Be Fired

Chosen1

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I recently finally had sex at my house with this chick that works with me. She went off telling everybody we had sex and it caused sort of a hostile situation. As at the time I was seeing someone else who works at the same place.

My Prime Girl confronted the girl I had sex with and they are threatening to fire, the "other women". I'm afraid this might spell out on me and I don't think I should be fired. What do you guys think
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Mind_Body_Soul

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Yeah - you could have a lawsuit all over their a$$es. You don't happen to be of non-caucasian descent or in a wheelchair do you? You may stand to make a lot of money :)
 

PRMoon

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Yeah unless you work in a right to work state (in which they can fire you for any reason...like here in nevada) they can't fire someone becaue of their off duty relationships. If the girl in question was your boss or directly in charge of you and there were policies forbidding against, then that's grounds for termination but it doesn't seem to be the case here.
 

bigjohnson

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Don't dip your pen in company ink, or as a Russian buddy says, don't buy bread and meat at the same place. Never understood that one.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Don't **** where you eat.

Of course there are exceptions. I have ****ed co-workers and subordinates and gotten away with it. To this day nobody at my old workplaces knows about it, and they will never find out.

You just gotta understand how to set it up so nobody will find out, ever. It has to do with psychologically preparing the girl. Some may say "You can't control a woman she will always tell!" But that's not true, women absolutely CAN be controlled, and there are some things they will NEVER speak about.
 

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bigjohnson said:
Don't dip your pen in company ink, or as a Russian buddy says, don't buy bread and meat at the same place. Never understood that one.
My russian buddy said "dont put your gorbachev in your stalin ink, red ink that is, bro"
 

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George Costanza: [pause] Was that wrong? Should I not have done that? I tell you, I gotta plead ignorence on this thing, because if anyone had said anything to me at all when I first started here that that sort of thing is frowned upon... you know, cause I've worked in a lot of offices, and I tell you, people do that all the time.
 

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I'm against workplace relationships, :nono: I know its tempting, I worked with a Women, we always maintained eye contact, always nice to one another etc.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Nothing against the ladies but I can't think of any woman who's worth putting your job in jeopardy.
 

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Wait wait lemme get this straight. You ****ed her. So far so good. Then SHE went and told people?

You don't kiss and tell, thats rule #1, as long as you didn't, let her take the fall for it. You shouldn't be fired for something out of work.. Let her get fired and clean up the mess, teach her to shut her mouth.
 

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She went off and told everyone?

What a dumb slvt.

That's why you don't screw chicks at work.
 

Chosen1

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Thanks everybody I think I know what I will do. I can't stay in this enviroment though becaust things are getting hostile. Besides I don't like everybody at work questioning me. :box:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Chosen1 said:
I recently finally had sex at my house with this chick that works with me.
Your thread said "Had sex on the job" and you did it at your house. So you work at home? had sex with the house keeper? :confused:
 

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Technically, if you get fired for having sex with a co-worker on your own time, and they fire you, you're sitting right smack ass in the middle of Lawsuit Country. Wrongful Termination, as well as a possible Slander suit against the gal who can't keep her mouth (and legs) shut.

If you were on company time, you're screwed, it'd be easier to go ahead and resign, so as to save face at the next job down the line. They'd much rather hear "I quit because I wanted to go in a different direction" than to hear "I was fired for sexual harrassment." (which is what they'd probably try to hang on you.)

Now, about sex with co-workers. Personally, I try to avoid the hassle and conflict of working with a lover. This is what I say when women at work approach me with interest. The truth is, I don't need all that clingy crap while i'm trying to put in an honest 40. Last thing any worker needs is to have his boss reprimand him for talking and not working.

Plus, I've noticed when you are forced to be around a woman for 6-8 hours at a time, and you've been sexually active with her, the women start to overthink the relationship. Usually this leads to more problems than it is worth IMO.
 

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If it is a right-to-work state, like PR said, then there is no wrongful termination suit. Also, there is no slander suit against her, because she was telling the truth.

Ironically, they couldn't fire you for having sex with a male co-worker off the job, because that would be discrimination against sexual orientation, which is now illegal in most states. But white hetero males are not a group with many legal protections.
 

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thirtyplus said:
You just gotta understand how to set it up so nobody will find out, ever. It has to do with psychologically preparing the girl. Some may say "You can't control a woman she will always tell!" But that's not true, women absolutely CAN be controlled, and there are some things they will NEVER speak about.
Care to elaborate?

Tape it on hidden camera to keep as blackmail? :D
 

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Your thread said "Had sex on the job" and you did it at your house. So you work at home? had sex with the house keeper? :confused:
For the record, I clicked on this thread because I thought the title was awesome. Sex at work?! That's some interesting stuff.

Now if the title was honest and said, "had sex with co-worker," I most likely would have skipped over it.

Now as his punishment for misleading me, he gets a worthless post in his thread.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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