Had my first ever experience/interaction with an escort (not what you think)

[sangheilios]

I've considered this a few times in the past, though I had never actually acted out on it, as a means to just enjoy myself and help ease the drought, etc. Thursday evening I went through an escort review site and was browsing through the profiles in my area and found one that I liked. She was a hot slutty looking latina who had a handful of reviews... This was on the high end of the escort spectrum, not something off the street or what have you.

I decided to text her and received a response relatively quickly, I had explained that I had never done something like this before and just asked a few questions. I then proceeded to ask if she'd be willing to meet up for a drink, I wanted to do this in order to get a feel if this was something I'd really want to do. She agreed to meeting up for a short bit at a bar near my area, so we arranged a time. Before leaving I told her to take a selfie with her giving my the finger and her tongue sticking out, just to confirm this was a real person. She sent it pretty quickly, and it was clearly the same person in the photos that I had seen on her profile, so I left and got there around the time we had planned. I was probably there for about 20 minutes waiting when I get a text from her saying her car broke down and then said she was available on the weekend and that we could reschedule, whether or not this was actually true I have no idea, though I'd lean towards not.

I leave after getting that text and on the drive home reflected upon this.

I discussed this with one of my close friends and he encouraged me to go for it, as he felt it might be an interesting experience and loosen me up. To be safe, he said I could use his apartment to bring her over, so my actual address wouldn't be known and that if there was an issue I could easily bail without actually having her know where his place was. He was going to be out of town for the weekend so it all lined up.

We had arranged plans for her to show up to the apartment complex at 11:30 this Saturday evening, I didn't mention want apartment number, so I got there a bit early just to tidy up the place and relax. She told me she was getting ready and then mentioned she'd text me when she was on her way, this was a little after 11. I sat there for a while, at first just in anticipation but then later on I was reflecting upon this on a deeper level. It was getting close to 12 and by this point I verbally said out loud to myself that if I didn't hear anything by then that this was a sign this was NOT supposed to happen at all.

A few minutes shortly after 12 I sent a quick texting saying how late it was, how we had planned for 11:30 and since I had no idea if she was on her way or not I was just going to call it a night. Shortly after that she sends me these string of texts saying how she doesn't like to be rushed and all sorts of drama. I sent her a reply saying that I don't like to be kept waiting sitting there and that I expect my time to be respected, I then thanked her for time. I grabbed my stuff and then went home reflecting upon this experience.

I took this as a sign that this was NOT supposed to happen and that my life has something else in store for me. What the deal was with that individual I have no idea, the whole thing felt very off and strange but it was an interesting experience to say the least. I am never going to consider doing something like this ever again, I felt the universe was telling me something and I listened.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Interesting. I feel the same way about some stuff too, even though it still pisses me off to end because it's out of my control. I still refuse to settle for less than I'm worth, and I KNOW my ****ing worth. But that aside, you should be careful with this type of stuff:

My brother was telling me about a coworker of his who used tinder and said the same thing about how he felt a bit strange with someone he was messaging. But he ended up going to the house anyway, and was told to come downstair to her basement. He went down trying not to make too much noise and saw a bunch of black dudes with baseball bats and stuff like that, no woman. So he ran the **** out of there and didn't look back.

Another story is the owner of this convenience store near my old school (elementary/middle school). His son was looking to buy a car found one somewhere far away. He went down there, and when he got there, the people killed him and took his money. Not sure if they found him. His funeral was a few weeks ago.

My dad has additional stories too that would make anyone a misanthrope lol. What a sad, cruel, ****ed up world. RIP Earth.

 

[sangheilios]

Interesting. I feel the same way about some stuff too, even though it still pisses me off to end because it's out of my control. I still refuse to settle for less than I'm worth, and I KNOW my ****ing worth. But that aside, you should be careful with this type of stuff:

My brother was telling me about a coworker of his who used tinder and said the same thing about how he felt a bit strange with someone he was messaging. But he ended up going to the house anyway, and was told to come downstair to her basement. He went down trying not to make too much noise and saw a bunch of black dudes with baseball bats and stuff like that, no woman. So he ran the **** out of there and didn't look back.

Another story is the owner of this convenience store near my old school (elementary/middle school). His son was looking to buy a car found one somewhere far away. He went down there, and when he got there, the people killed him and took his money. Not sure if they found him. His funeral was a few weeks ago.

My dad has additional stories too that would make anyone a misanthrope lol. What a sad, cruel, ****ed up world. RIP Earth.

The manner of which I had set everything up I honestly wasn't all that worried about safety. The bar I had planned for this person to meet me at was pretty busy and not at all isolated, was right off a major road and well populated area near where I live.

The apartment complex my friend lives at houses hundreds of people and is in the downtown area of our city, so very well populated with a lot of people around. To get into the apartment complex you have to have an access key and a clicker to get through the gated driveway. I could easily see if she would have been with someone without having physical proximity, as I could sit safely on the balcony and watch from a distance without anyone knowing. I also did not give the apartment number, so if I did have to bail there wouldn't be an issue, whereas if I gave my actual residential address it would have been a serious problem.

I also was prepared for possible subtle robbery when this person would have been in my friend's apartment, so before our planned time I cleaned up the place and also hid anything of remote value and kept it out of obvious sight. Common sense stuff like that, making sure to lock the door behind me when she came in, etc.

My first concern was whether or not this was a real person, which I had solved pretty early on. However, looking back I could say that either this woman just likes to troll guys and gets some sort of sick pleasure from it or there is some sort of robbery/real crime associated with it and given how I had set everything up it made that more difficult and thus the weird flaking and all that. I honestly cannot say for certain what any of this was about, but to say the least it was strange and turned out for the better.

 

[Mike32ct]

I don’t have time to do a detailed reply here. Will just say a few things.

1. Don’t get involved with escorts. Many in the US are angry/violent or “ghetto” of sorts. Sorry for term. Don’t know how else to describe it.

2. Canceling an appointment (even if you feel justified in doing so) can stir up the proverbial hornets nest with her (and her potential pimp).

3. On the other hand, if you do meet up with her, you could also run the risk of being robbed by her pimp and his boys.

Anyway, let it go, and I recommend that you don’t go there again.

While there might be some decent independent escorts out there, you won’t know which are which. That’s the problem.

 

[Hal9000]

Yeah I'd tread lightly when dealing with escorts, even the "high end" ones. I would recommend never meeting them where you or anyone else actually lives as they could very easily case the place for a later robbery. I realized hotels costs money but the piece of minds worth it if you decide to try it anyway. As far as this particular girls behavior is concerned its really not that out of the normal. Most of these women have substance abuse issues and reliability isn't going to be a trait you find regularly. When it comes to escorts its kind of like online dating. For every one good experience you'll have ten sketchy, scary, or otherwise completely not worth it experiences.

 

[backseatjuan]

My interaction with prostitute online, on dating site. She said in her ad photos is not her, photos over whats up. I message asking for whatsapp. She asks me my place or hers. I tell her, I'm not sure, maybe yours, maybe mine, it don't matter. She asks me for concrete offer. I tell her, I want to see your photos before I can offer you anything concrete. She told me she don't roll that way. I tell her you will find plenty of champs willing to roll with your sht, I'm not one of them, and wished her luck in her career.

 

[sangheilios]

I don’t have time to do a detailed reply here. Will just say a few things.

1. Don’t get involved with escorts. Many in the US are angry/violent or “ghetto” of sorts. Sorry for term. Don’t know how else to describe it.

2. Canceling an appointment (even if you feel justified in doing so) can stir up the proverbial hornets nest with her (and her potential pimp).

3. On the other hand, if you do meet up with her, you could also run the risk of being robbed by her pimp and his boys.

Anyway, let it go, and I recommend that you don’t go there again.

While there might be some decent independent escorts out there, you won’t know which are which. That’s the problem.

Yeah I'd tread lightly when dealing with escorts, even the "high end" ones. I would recommend never meeting them where you or anyone else actually lives as they could very easily case the place for a later robbery. I realized hotels costs money but the piece of minds worth it if you decide to try it anyway. As far as this particular girls behavior is concerned its really not that out of the normal. Most of these women have substance abuse issues and reliability isn't going to be a trait you find regularly. When it comes to escorts its kind of like online dating. For every one good experience you'll have ten sketchy, scary, or otherwise completely not worth it experiences.

Like I said, I'm not planning on revisiting this at all. I just took everything as a sign from the universe, or god if you believe in that, that this wasn't supposed to happen and that it was for the better. Perhaps I would have followed through with it and regretted it after the fact, which I really couldn't say. Perhaps I prevented a potential robbery, assault or some other kind of negative outcome.....who knows.

 

[Julian]

Dont be some simp, some weak ass trick paying for these unstable hoes. Thats basically blasphemy on this site. Very dumb move dealing with escorts.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Always go with your gut. If a situation feels shady then walk away.

 

[Walkman]

Always have the escort come to your place, never to hers unless its a massage parlor.

Also, unlike other people I don't think visiting escorts can harm your PUA career. I know a lot of PUA's who pay escorts yet still do game..etc.

 

[Robert28]

You just need to save up your money and go to the Bunny Ranch.

 

[corrector]

So you got stood up by an escort during a dry spell. Man that's hard, lol! Maybe it is the vibes you are giving off.

 

[sangheilios]

So you got stood up by an escort during a dry spell. Man that's hard, lol! Maybe it is the vibes you are giving off.

Nah, something was off about the whole thing, though I can't say what.

 

[biggoal]

Why not just visit a brothel in Nevada? Even regular online dating can be dangerous. Yesterday on the news they had on a story locally about a guy robbed of his card by a man and a woman. He met her online. They led police on a chase too. I legally carry I should start doing that on first dates when meeting people online for now on.

 

[corrector]

Nah, something was off about the whole thing, though I can't say what.

Off about the whole thing in principle, or this particular escort? Honestly, from what you wrote you don't sound like a typical john. These women just care about making money and moving on to the next client, they don't care about you, or that you never used one before, or that you want to meet up with her for drinks or coffee or any of that stuff. The minute you sound like trouble to them then they are on the run. The less talking you do then the better it is. Just behave as any other typical john would behave.

I would agree that there is something off the whole thing on principle.

 

[sangheilios]

Off about the whole thing in principle, or this particular escort? Honestly, from what you wrote you don't sound like a typical john. These women just care about making money and moving on to the next client, they don't care about you, or that you never used one before, or that you want to meet up with her for drinks or coffee or any of that stuff. The minute you sound like trouble to them then they are on the run. The less talking you do then the better it is. Just behave as any other typical john would behave.

I would agree that there is something off the whole thing on principle.

This particular escort, but then again all the women that do stuff like this are for sure "off" lol. As I had mentioned on this thread, we had both agreed to come to the apartment complex at 11:30, we had discussed this the evening prior but had set a specific time early that day. When it got past 12 and I hadn't heard a word from her I knew it was time to call it a night, as I have other things to do besides just sit there waiting to see when she'd be on her way lol.

It was an interesting experience but it all was for the better that it did not work the way I had initially wanted, and as I mentioned I'm not planning on revisiting this. I personally do not think there is anything morally unethical about any of this, I just feel for me personally this is something that is just not for me. I actually do believe that sex work should be legalized and regulated in some way in order to ensure physical safety, testing for STDs, etc.

On a side note, if I had a female friend or relative that did work like this I would encourage them to do another line of work. I don't feel that women are truly wired to be able to deal with casual sex and having tons of male partners, I don't think it is healthy for them and it degrades their soul. Now, with that said, these women have chosen to do this line of work, or in the case of highly promiscuous women they have chosen to live that type of life. Having sex with tons of men breaks women and I feel they become incapable of ever being truly happy or having a relationship with a man. I don't think any of this applies to men, in fact I feel having quite a lot of sexual partners is actually healthier for us.

 

[samspade]

Drama and tardiness from an escort. Whatever happened to professionalism?

 

[Xenom0rph]

What was your reason for trying this? I'm guessing s3x wasnt the primary reason because there are much easier options for quick s3x...

I'm guessing you were more interested in some conversation and some no-strings-attached fun to keep your game on point in between drought periods....

 

[sazc]

Drama and tardiness from an escort. Whatever happened to professionalism?

I'm guessing her clients are so sex-starved that they are willing to jump through hoops to see her

 

[sangheilios]

What was your reason for trying this? I'm guessing s3x wasnt the primary reason because there are much easier options for quick s3x...

I'm guessing you were more interested in some conversation and some no-strings-attached fun to keep your game on point in between drought periods....

Well, first off the woman I had contacted was hot AF. She was a hot slutty looking latina with a big butt, boobs, etc. This was going to cost me a few hundred bucks, which really isn't a big deal for me, and wasn't some lower tiered prostitute. I'd upload pictures but I don't want to have what I've got going online get connected to me and that woman, I'm sure you understand.

It wasn't just for sex but also for the experience, conversation and to fulfill some fantasies that I had. I had the whole evening planned out, I told her to bring a bathing suit so we could use the hot tub together at the apartment complex, was planning on just getting a show. Then after that go back to the apartment and get another show by having her dry off in front of me in the living room and then **** her on the balcony.

I honestly just wanted to live my life and enjoy myself for a bit that evening. I had no intention of having to rely upon this to get sex, though I could easily see how one could get addicted to hiring women like this, as it's quick and to the point. Like you said, I also saw it as a potential confidence booster as well.