Had my first ever cold approach and number close, but I have a problem..

[-Gripz-]

Was at the gym tonight and I noticed this girl with a magnificent ass she was easily an hb 8.5. When I took a closer look I noticed she used to go to my high school, so I decided to go talk to her. Since she had her hair dyed bright red I'll refer to her as "Red", anyway here's how it went:

( Walks up and gently touches her arm, she then turns around,smiles and looks a little awestruck, she then giggles a little bit.)

Gripz: (laughs) Are you shy or something?

Red: (laughs) no!

Gripz: You look familiar did you used to go to (Name of school).

Red: Whats your name?

Gripz: Gripz

Red: I'm Red

(I shake her hand)

Red: Yeah I went to (name of school) . Did we have any classes together?
(She squats down to my level and leans in a little bit [she was on a stair machine] and smiles)

Gripz: I think we did, but I'm not sure its been a long time.

Red: You know I didn't finish high school, I dropped out in junior year. (laughs)

Gripz: No wonder I didn't see you anymore, man time flies.

Red: Yeah

Gripz: How about I get your number?

Red: Hmm.. (she thinks for a few seconds)

Gripz: Ha, you have to think?

Red: ok

(She types her number in my phone as I stare at her ass)

Gripz: It was nice meeting you Red!

Red: (giggles) You too
_________
Well that was it how would you say I did for my first approach? Do you think she was interested. Some of the giggling had me suspicious. Also a big problem of mine is I have no car or a job. I used to have one before I moved back here last month. Without a car I don't know how the hell I'm going to take her anywhere! Any way to get around this? This girl is really attractive and I'm a virgin, I'm trying to lose it. :nervous:

 

[ARrocket]

That wasn't a very good approach, but you lucked out because 1) You kinda sorta knew her, and 2) She probably thinks you're at least decently attractive.

You need to work on your rapport-building skills it seems. Find out what she's been up to, tease her a bit, keep it light. 5 minutes or so would be good (again, generalizing for your next situation).

As for this girl, just have her meet you at a spot for a drink!

 

[-Gripz-]

That wasn't a very good approach, but you lucked out because 1) You kinda sorta knew her, and 2) She probably thinks you're at least decently attractive.

You need to work on your rapport-building skills it seems. Find out what she's been up to, tease her a bit, keep it light. 5 minutes or so would be good (again, generalizing for your next situation).

As for this girl, just have her meet you at a spot for a drink!

Yea It wasn't the best approach I will admit, but hey I'm learning. To be honest I don't see this going anywhere, and its a shame because this girl is sexy.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

Yea It wasn't the best approach I will admit, but hey I'm learning. To be honest I don't see this going anywhere, and its a shame because this girl is sexy.

Forget the past approach. Just learn from it. You should just tell chicks as you're talking to them as you pull out your phone IE: "Red give me your phone number and I'll give you a call sometime" as easy as you would ask some dude you know. No hesitation or asking. Like you are used to getting numbers like breathing.

You got her number regardless. Text her in a day or so saying: "Red! What's going on? It was good seeing you again the other day!"

When she replies respond to whatever she says along with: "Do me a favor and send me a pic of you for my picture caller ID on my phone."

IF she sends one. You can start light flirting and tell her to meet you out. If she asks what you think tell her she looks delicious with a . (She may even send you a better one. You never know..)

You have to move.

Either she has a boyfriend or doesn't. She may like and want to meet up with you either way or she doesn't. Don't wait. That delicious azz could be waiting..But not for long..

 

[-Gripz-]

Thread revived! Anyway I have a question for you more experienced guys. I'm thinking of telling her to meet me at this park with a bike path down the street from my house, do you think that would be a good first "date"? I know some of you guys have said that you shouldn't take her out to dinner if she hasn't earned it. I also have netflix and maybe I can bring her back for a movie since I'm right down the street. If I can get these people out of my house I probably can make that happen.

 

[Zion]

First dates should be something light.


Action-oriented dates are the best imo. Specially those that allow for some decent situational kino. Such as pool , bawling or ice-skating(my favorite).


Walks in the park or grabbing a coffee can also work. But nothing like dinners or movies , as you might realize you don't even like that girl , but then you're forced to sit there for a couple of hours because of a bad date choice.

 

[-Gripz-]

Well, I texted this girl and I don't think it went well... here's how it went:

7:16pm-Gripz:Hey what's up. Nice seeing you the other day even though you don't remember me at all!

8:47pm-Red: Lol who's this? & where u see me? Lol

8:49pm-Gripz: You know the dude from the gym yesterday. Gripz. Jeez am I that forgettable?

8:50pm-Red: Lmao my bad! But yeah sorry I must have a bad memory.

8:53pm-Gripz: Its cool. I must have accidentally used my Jedi mind wiping technique on you.

Haven't heard from her for hours after that, must not be that interested. This a lost cause or should I just wait it out?

 

[Purefilth]

^^ still kinda weak

No MOTIVE.

text:
" Hey RED, Gripz here. ive got some free time ABC wanna join me for XYZ?"

Boom. done.

From here you either get a yes or a no from her.

Get a Yes? its onnnnnnn!
Get a no? Ignore (DO NOT REPLY)

Try again in a day or two. Get another no - then NEXT.

Its a numbers game bro, the more you approach, the more numbers you pick up. then the less you care about rejections/flakes.

Eventually youll stop blasting and spraying at every girl you see and be able to pick out IOI's and cut down on flakes/rejects to almost zero.

(this does not count for online chicks - for them its flakey flakey flakey = NEXT)

 

[evan12]

yeah I think you lost her , but her giggling showed she had some interest in you may be because you are handsome as some one mentioned .

I must have accidentally used my Jedi mind wiping technique on you.

never mention about playing her or applying technique on a girl even by just mentioning these words ,her defenses go up to prove she is not easy .