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Had coffeedate this afternoon - good experience but need more advice for future dates

LittleBigOne

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So i know this girl for a little while. Got her number during our first conversation.
Last saturday during nightlife she came to me and we chatted up a bit. We both have holiday and i told her i would call her to meet up. So phoned her monday and arranged meeting this afternoon to have a lunch and some coffee.
My experience with this coffee'date':
- Felt myself really comfortable
- Was able to qualify her and noticed she was dressing well (however no make up) and that she is not more pretty in daylight. Also she was a bit less mature then i expected.
- Time went very quick, i really had to cut it off after two hours (too long but i did not noticed the time, neither did she).
- No ugly silences, lot's of joking, laughing, open minded convo's.
- Listening/ talking was about 70% / 30%.
- Asked her to go to playground when i am back from my orient holiday and she is really into that.

And:
- Not enough kino, my mistake, i was sitting in front of her, not left or right. Was not able to reach her legs, sometimes her hand.
- kisses on the cheek only during goodbye + her saying call me when your back.

In general i have a positive feeling about the whole meeting / date, i amused myself much. It feels like a 'step by step' with her. Did not had the idea to escalate, but i realize afterwards i had to take her to the riverside to lay down on the water or something like that. Well, the playground will be a good place to escalate.
And now i look forward to meet chicks in the orient.

More advice and tips for coffeedates or playground dates? Very welcome!
 

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Thanks Espi,

I think i did well indeed. Time was probably too long but since we have both holiday it did not really matter the meeting took longer, she knows i am not that bussy this moment. However i was glad that i was the one who finished the meeting.
When i am back i call for sure for a new meeting, she is expecting it. Might be a good idea to get more physical then. Playground is a good place for that i am sure. Feels good that i am getting on holiday now so i can get her out of my mind for a bit (as long as i don't get out of her mind).

Thing is i am a bit traumatic of entering her friendzone. I just don't wanne get in there! So i need to take a risk next time i see here without giving her a vibe of desperation from my side. She is allowed to give me! But i am sure she is not a fool and she knows why i asked her for this meeting, i just need to work it out properly. Guess i have to be patience and make her wants me.
And there is my handicap...

Help very welcome!
 
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