"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Had a terrible performance in bed yesterday

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So I've been dating/seeing this girl for about at least a month, and we've both been really into each other. We usually would kiss/touch in one of our cars and whatever. So I finally have my place to myself yesterday, and I bring her over and we just start kissing and everything starts out normal, and then I bring her to my bed...And I just couldn't get hard. I think I maybe got hard and fvcked her for a few minutes and then it went away. I really don't know what could have went wrong, as she gave me BJ's in her car several times and I was very hard the whole way through. She even said to me, "I really don't think it's gonna happen, babe."

I'm still not sure what went wrong, but I know that i'm gonna try and cut out almost all my masturbation and do kegels, in case that had anything to do with it. Also I now have to deal with the akward part of it. When I took her and dropped her to her car, the whole way I just didn't want to talk because I was so bummed, and I didn't text her the whole rest of the day. What can I do to make sure anything between us in the future isn't akward?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Been there, done that. And it wasn't whiskey d*ck either. It was my first time and I was just thinking too much. As for the girl, I never saw her again, although we did have phone sex a couple times...

Things shouldn't be awkward between you, this happens to every guy at least once and girls ought to know it. Still, I'd try cracking a joke about it. If you act like it's no big deal, she'll follow and maybe even let you have a second go ;).
 
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Well, now you have an excuse to hit your doc up for some Viagra.

I may tell my doc your story just so I can get some. I'm dying to try it out. I just need a female to use it on.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Well, now you have an excuse to hit your doc up for some Viagra.

I may tell my doc your story just so I can get some. I'm dying to try it out. I just need a female to use it on.
Careful with that junk. Quoting side effects: "permanent blindness, liver failure, heart disease, penile amputation, bladder pain, convulsions, anxiety, diarrhea, hemorrhoids, dizziness, severe headaches", and the list goes on. I would only go near that stuff if I was over 50 and about to get laid with Jessica Alba :up: .
 
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mikeyb said:
Careful with that junk. Quoting side effects: "permanent blindness, liver failure, heart disease, penile amputation, bladder pain, convulsions, anxiety, diarrhea, hemorrhoids, dizziness, severe headaches", and the list goes on. I would only go near that stuff if I was over 50 and about to get laid with Jessica Alba :up: .

Who cares about side effects?? I want to bang all night baby!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Social_disturbance said:
So I've been dating/seeing this girl for about at least a month, and we've both been really into each other. We usually would kiss/touch in one of our cars and whatever. So I finally have my place to myself yesterday, and I bring her over and we just start kissing and everything starts out normal, and then I bring her to my bed...And I just couldn't get hard. I think I maybe got hard and fvcked her for a few minutes and then it went away. I really don't know what could have went wrong, as she gave me BJ's in her car several times and I was very hard the whole way through. She even said to me, "I really don't think it's gonna happen, babe."

I'm still not sure what went wrong, but I know that i'm gonna try and cut out almost all my masturbation and do kegels, in case that had anything to do with it. Also I now have to deal with the akward part of it. When I took her and dropped her to her car, the whole way I just didn't want to talk because I was so bummed, and I didn't text her the whole rest of the day. What can I do to make sure anything between us in the future isn't akward?
Had you been depressed by anything or have been preoccupied? Also, had you been drinking? How about rest? Were you tired? Had you just eaten a large meal? Contrary to popular belief we (men) can't just turn it on and off with a switch even though it seems that way most of the time (at least turning it on ;) ).
 
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Yeah man actually no...I NEVER drink alcohol. I had no stress at all, as I had finished most of my school projects and my oral presentations, and am generally very happy in my life now. I did eat a fairly large meal, but that was a couple hours prior and I don't think it would have affected me.

I guess the only thing I'm gonna try and do is stop masturbating for the most part and work my kegels. But its still weird because whenever she gave me a BJ in her car I was a like a rock. I just remember that with my last gf, I banged the sh1t out of her, so i'll have to see if it was because I didn't masturbate or because I did my kegel exercises.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Who cares about side effects?? I want to bang all night baby!
If at 40 I can bang all night (without viagra)...I am sure you can do the same too.

Using that stuff without needing it is going to have a negative impact in you. In fact, when you TRULY need it (60s or so)...your body might reject it because it will get used to it if you use it way before you need it.
 

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I already know his problem is that he masturbates way too much. How can puzzy compete with the tightness of a hand grip?

Stop masturbation for several days...and try again. You will be alright.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Latinoman said:
If at 40 I can bang all night (without viagra)...I am sure you can do the same too.

Using that stuff without needing it is going to have a negative impact in you. In fact, when you TRULY need it (60s or so)...your body might reject it because it will get used to it if you use it way before you need it.

I've already tried other drugs that allow me to hit it for hours and hours without busting a nut. And it was awesome. Does viagra do that?

I've sworn off all the other drugs, so I'm wondering what exactly viagra does.
 

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mikeyb said:
Careful with that junk. Quoting side effects: "permanent blindness, liver failure, heart disease, penile amputation, bladder pain, convulsions, anxiety, diarrhea, hemorrhoids, dizziness, severe headaches", and the list goes on. I would only go near that stuff if I was over 50 and about to get laid with Jessica Alba :up: .
I dont know about Jessica Alba...u know she has the Herp my man. Id go with Megan Fox. :up:
 

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Jelqing can give you longer lasting and harder erections. Plus make your d!ck bigger.... But, I don't think your old enough to have erectile disfunction. So, it was just probably your mind set and the mood you were in.
 
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