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Had a ONS with a chick, how to see her again without looking like an afc?

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All right so I went out last night with a female friend (we'll call her girl A) and a female friend of hers (girl B) who I had never met. Girl B is an HB 8--cute face, bangin' body, tight ass. She also seems like a really cool, down to earth chick who's fun and motivated. We had good chemistry the whole night and long story short we went to a few places, and me and girl B ended up getting fairly hammered.

The three of us wound up back at my place (I own a house and live alone), and me and girl B eventually started making out and ended up in my bed f*cking. She didn't leave til late this morning, and when she did we did the whole awkward goodbye thing and I didn't even end up getting her number at that point.

After both girls left I got a text from girl A asking what I thought about girl B. I basically said I thought she was cool and should have gotten her number but was out of it from being hung over and not sleeping all night.

Girl A's reply text was girl's B's phone number. I clarified that girl B knew girl A was giving it to me and that it was cool with her and girl A said it was. So here I am now, with the number and I'm looking for some advice.

I'd like to see this chick again because I was into her and we had a good time, but I'm not sure how to go about it. Given that we spent most the night/morning ****ing, do any "wait 3-5 day" etc rules apply to contacting her, or in this case would it be cool to send a text saying I had good time or something similar. The other part is that she lives out of town, and I'm obviously trying not to turn this into an LDR or anything like that, but she comes to town about once a month and I'd like to try to make her a f*ck buddy at the very least.

I guess the question could be summed up as how do I stay in contact with this chick while not looking like an afc?
 

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So you had enough game to bang this chick the day you met her but your stressing about calling her and saying you thought she's cool and want to chill again? ****, I can't even bang a girl yet this is a no brainer for me. Call her.
 

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By not being an afc. stop stressing and flow...your making yourself an "afc" by posting on this board about her
 

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Just call her in a couple of days to see when she's gonna be in town again.
 

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try texting...lower pressure at first.

Ask her to HANG OUT. Do not say "date" at any effing time whatsoever. Girls are like deer, they will BOLT at the slightest provocation. that said, she obviously likes you, so just be your charming self. Lead. Attract. Qualify. Build rapport. You'll be banging again soon enough.
 

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I sent her a text last night around 5, super casual just asking how she was holding up seeing as how we both got maybe an hour of sleep...no response.

When she left my place that morning things were different, it was a little awkward, it was hard to tell if she was showing a lack of interest, regret, embarrassment, who knows. Anyway we weren't vibing the way we had been all night.

I sent her one text, if I don't hear anything back I'll probably just leave it alone. I pride myself on moving on asap and not looking back, I'm not gonna lie though this girl's in my head a little bit. I'd like to hear from her but I'm not gonna force the issue.
 

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I sent her one text, if I don't hear anything back I'll probably just leave it alone. I pride myself on moving on asap and not looking back, I'm not gonna lie though this girl's in my head a little bit. I'd like to hear from her but I'm not gonna force the issue.
DO This, personally I'm not gonna lie, I was in a similar situation, called the chick kept me waiting on the phone (she clicked over, and didn't call back F That), then wouldn't respond to my text.

believe it or not sometimes girls just want a ONS as well, with no strings attached, for various reason, i.e. she needs to get laid, buyers remorse etc

don't come off needy keep it moving

peace
 
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