Gym pick up - somewhat successful

[deeman]

Ok so there is this HB 8 in my gym, she goes to the aerobics class with my friend (who is a girl too, God bless female friends ). So I got the intro a while ago to her and would say 'Hi' to her when ever I saw her, (which was only a few times after the intro).

So last night I was at the gym on the treadmill and she walked in, we gave a mutual wave and I got a huge smile in addition, and I returned the gesture thinking *oh its on baby*. I Head down to the weight room to do my thing and 20 minutes later she comes down, so I proceed to talk to her when she takes a break between one of her sets.

So we are there fluffing away, (she is very interesting) and I ask her about what kind of dance she does (I knew she was a dancer already) so she gave me a whole list of what she did. I then tell her that in a few weeks I am going to start salsa classes with a couple of friends of mine. At this point her eyes lit up and she was like "really? with who?" so I told her with my friend (that she knows) and her boyfriend, but I didnt have a partner. At this point, without hesitation she was like "I'll be you partner, I'll go with you guys, I love that stuff".

I was kinda shocked and not ready for that response to be honest (but the bells were going off in my head *ding,ding,ding,ding* bingo). So I was like sure, we should exchange # but I didnt have a pen and nor did she. I offered to go get one from the front desk but she seemed hesitant for me to do that.

So in closing she was like she would be back on tuesday and give her # to my friend in the aerobics class if she doesn't see me and we'll set something up. I was like yeah sure, sounds like a plan.

As she left I got another big smile.

My Evaluation:
I kinda got messed up when she responded so positively out of the blue, it took me by suprise and I think she saw that. This may be why she didn't give me her number directly, she may want to test to see if I would have told my friend to follow up for me to see if I am serious.

I really didnt pull any DJ moves, I really wasn't even oozing any confidence like normal, I was just natural and made her laugh a bit.

I have learnt 3 things from this experince so far.
1. Most importantly I was very natural, u cant be too aggressive in the gym, could make u look desparate.
2. Female friends can be your best Allies in DJ thing(god bless them)
3. Always be ready for a senerio where a girl responds to you more enthusiastically than you expect, simply put, expect the unexpected.

I will have to see how this proceeds on tuesday. Do you guys think its safe to say she is interested? Since we probably wont start for a few weeks atleast, do you guys think I should askj her out b4 then? Any advice is welcome y'all.

 

[Chewy Bagel]

Nice work!

-she was like "I'll be you partner, I'll go with you guys, I love that stuff".

That is so $.

I love gym pick up stories.

 

[John11276]

I wouldn't ask her out before then. Make her wonder what your up to. Look at it this way...dance lessons eliminate the need to make sly kino. Your going to have to do it.

 

[deeman]

yeah, but I want her to feel comfortable with me b4 the whole thing, most people date for a while b4 they ever take dance classes together and here we are about jump right in.
Maybe a group outing with her, myfriend and her boyfriend (who is a major AFC) would be better?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by John11276
I wouldn't ask her out before then. Make her wonder what your up to. Look at it this way...dance lessons eliminate the need to make sly kino. Your going to have to do it.

Yeah, I would just keep in contact with her at the gym. Get to know her better without putting any pressure on her. Keep it 'friendly.' That will help keep her IL high along with her curiosity about you and why you haven't asked her out on a real date.

Play it right and she'll ask you out first. Otherwise start tuning up your DJ skills because things could take off fast once you start the dance lessons. Think about it, she has a high IL, she would have told you tons of things about herself, there will be tons of kino and Salsa in itself is a major attraction for most women.

 

[Chewy Bagel]

"yeah, but I want her to feel comfortable with me b4 the whole thing."

She offered to go with you, so it's a safe assumption that she already feels comfortable around you.

"most people date for a while b4 they ever take dance classes together and here we are about jump right in. Maybe a group outing with her, myfriend and her boyfriend (who is a major AFC) would be better?"

No, that would not be better and would possible throw you in the friend zone real quick. I've had sex with women who I had just met hours earlier. This girl is only going dancing with you. There is no need to set up anything outside the dancing lessons.

 

[deeman]

thanks felas, so basically you guys think I should make minimal contact with her outside of the gym (ie even on the phone) until the classes start?

Ahh, this is gonna be so MONEY! I can picture it now, twirling her ass up and down, she gotta have some wicked moves too, shes been a dancer all her life, good thing I can hold my own on the dance floor

From experience, I LUV the way electricty builds when two people can dance well togther. Its money.
Can anyone say 'dancing scene from SWINGERS'

 

[deeman]

update

It looks as though this salsa lessons thing may not work out, its to complicated to schedule in the classes (we want to do it as a group). So we may look elsewhere for a different place.

I am going to see this girl tomorrow (tues), and I should be getting her #, so I guess its safe to go for the date close?
What do you guys think?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Re: update

Originally posted by deeman
It looks as though this salsa lessons thing may not work out, its to complicated to schedule in the classes (we want to do it as a group). So we may look elsewhere for a different place.

I am going to see this girl tomorrow (tues), and I should be getting her #, so I guess its safe to go for the date close?
What do you guys think?

Hmmm, how confident are you in having her show you some moves in an actual dance club? It will give you more flexibility in time in that you have at least a 4-6 hour block after work on the weekend.

 

[deeman]

oh man, I consider myself a decent dancer, about a 7 out of 10, but if I am grooving with someone that knows what they are doing, I just assimilate them and we move as one.

I think I will ask her if she goes out dancing on the weekends and take from there.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by deeman
oh man, I consider myself a decent dancer, about a 7 out of 10, but if I am grooving with someone that knows what they are doing, I just assimilate them and we move as one.

I think I will ask her if she goes out dancing on the weekends and take from there.

Here's a suggestion, try a coffee get together on the weekend late in the afternoon. Don't make it sound like a date but just a get together. Use your DJ skills to keep her amused and interested.

If all goes well she will be really into you as if she has known you forever. At this point you can take her dancing and possibly somewhere else to finish off the night. Just an idea, do whatever feels right to you. Good luck.