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Gym Girl Pickups

Flint Stoner

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Ok so I'm working out at my college gym a week ago, I see the sexiest girl I've ever seen in my life, like I'm talking ridiculously hot... so hot I would assume I have no chance. I'm checking her out the entire time, and I'm sure she busted me more than once... I finish my workout and I leave.

Now yesterday same thing, I go to the gym and it's the same girl. So same deal I'm checking her out nonstop. But then when she's leaving, she looks around the room, stares at me, we make eye contact she gives a huge smile and leaves.

Normally I wouldn't make a big deal out of this, but this girl is literally a perfect 10, huge tits, amazing ass and she expressed some interest level, so I want some input from you guys. I was considering "accidentaly" bumping into her when we leave, offering her a drive home and then hitting her with some C&F and number close.


Has anyone ever had great success with a gym pickup?
 

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If she smiled at you, then that's a good IOI. I'd say do a direct approach, don't do an accidental bumping.
 

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i made a most asking about gym openers and some suggested that you go up to the machine she is using and ask to use it, then joke around (if you are smalller built) and say "Oh, let me adjust the weight way down, sometimes i dont know my own strength with these babies" or the one from anchorman "1001, 1002, 1003...did you hear me counting? i did over 1000 thats amazing!" She should laugh whether she knows where its from or not, its a great way to start up a conversation too
 

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There's no complex mysterious plan for picking-up chicks at different places (e.g. gym, street, subway...) All you have to do is start a conversation. You may have to ask yourself this question first though.. "Are you capable of starting a conversation?"
 

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Thanks rocko, I'll giver a shot.

I was reading another post. I thought i had no chance because I'm more of a tall lean ripped guy vs the other huge guys at the gym. But I think some girls aren't down with overly muscular men.

I'll let you know how it goes if I see her there again.

Wheelin&dealin, I'm capable of starting a conversation, but the gym is a different atmosphere. I would get pissed off if girls came and tried to make mindless small talk while I'm in a set. I understand where you're coming from though.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Flint Stoner said:
I thought i had no chance because I'm more of a tall lean ripped guy vs the other huge guys at the gym.
Wholly fock pal?? Are u serious with this line of thinking? Chicks don't give a sh*t if you're big and muscular.
 

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wheelin&dealin said:
Wholly fock pal?? Are u serious with this line of thinking? Chicks don't give a sh*t if you're big and muscular.

yeah they just want a decent face, someone who dresses well and is not a fatass. any muscle tone is a plus but not necessary.
 

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Woa, you need to calm down, cuz you're only letting your approach anxiety keep building up. And the longer you wait to approach her, the harder it will get. That's why they call it the 3-second rule, if you let the initial moment pass - it will only get way harder later as you keep psyching yourself up and out...
 

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Flint Stoner said:
Ok so I'm working out at my college gym a week ago, I see the sexiest girl I've ever seen in my life, like I'm talking ridiculously hot... so hot I would assume I have no chance. I'm checking her out the entire time, and I'm sure she busted me more than once... I finish my workout and I leave.

Now yesterday same thing, I go to the gym and it's the same girl. So same deal I'm checking her out nonstop. But then when she's leaving, she looks around the room, stares at me, we make eye contact she gives a huge smile and leaves.

Normally I wouldn't make a big deal out of this, but this girl is literally a perfect 10, huge tits, amazing ass and she expressed some interest level, so I want some input from you guys. I was considering "accidentaly" bumping into her when we leave, offering her a drive home and then hitting her with some C&F and number close.


Has anyone ever had great success with a gym pickup?
Try only to offer her a ride if you know she is walking home and her home is a bit far from the gym, else I don't think such an idea is a good one. An example of starting a conv:
FlintS: "You must live somewhere close to the gym"
HBP10:" Kind of . I live a couple of blocks away from the gym"
FlintS: with smile " No wonder you're dedicated to your work-out schedule"
HBP10:"Huh?"
FlintS:"Just kidding. I saw you here yesturday and I thought maybe I could come to you for some push-up training..."
The rest of the convo is yours. Carry it where you want it to go.
 

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wayword said:
Woa, you need to calm down, cuz you're only letting your approach anxiety keep building up. And the longer you wait to approach her, the harder it will get. That's why they call it the 3-second rule, if you let the initial moment pass - it will only get way harder later as you keep psyching yourself up and out...
thats true.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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